My wife F55 and I M54 went to a get-together at my Sister-ILs house. They have a newborn and it was a cause to celebrate. Everyone was having a good time eating and drinking.
We took maybe 1-2 shots throughout the night and had some beers. At one point while I’m speaking to my SIL. this girl comes storming in from the front door. She was in a hurry and I commented “Damn, where you going?” Well I should’ve kept my mouth shut.
My wife from across the room starts crying and hurries up to get her and my son M1 ready to leave. I rush over to see why she is so upset.
Outside she accuses me of flirting with this girl. The only interaction I had with her is taking one shot with a group of us (SIL, BIL and a few of their colleagues). The interaction was mostly cheers and that’s it. According to my wife, she seen me look at her ass, and say “Damn, where you going?” Which can’t be further from the truth. To be honest this woman is not my type at all. There was no attraction to her at all.
As my wife is leaving screaming she wants a divorce, her sister comes out. My wife doesn’t want to hear anything and just leaves. I ask my SIL, if she seen me do anything wrong. She says no, that my wife just took it the wrong way.
The next day my wife calls her father and attorney and tells them she wants a divorce. Mind you, our attorney is a mutual friend in a circle of a lot of our friends. I talk to her and say I’m sorry you felt that way, but that was not my intentions. She doesn’t want to hear and still accuses me and says she can’t trust me. I have NEVER done ANYTHING in our relationship for her not to trust me. I don’t know where this is coming from.
Meanwhile my SIL changes her story and tells her what I did was wrong. At this point I’m confused. I tell my wife to call her on speaker so I can find out what’s going on. She doesn’t pick up. My wife says I don’t care to apologize for flirting. I’m sorry I cannot bring myself to apologizing and basically admitting to something I didn’t do.
That was yesterday and today she insists on meeting with the attorney later on this week. Putting our business out there. Which I don’t want our friends to know about. She wanted to talk, which I didn’t agree to right away since I was mad. I eventually agreed to talk where she berated me. Didn’t even want to listen to what I had to say and just accused me all over again. Also, accusing me of doing things behind her back when me and the guys go out to the bar. I don’t know if this is important, but I’ll add it. Once every few months the girls would have a girls night and the dads stay home. And once every few months the guys go out in the same way.
Sorry for the lengthy post.