My best friend recently got a boyfriend and she keeps prioritising her boyfriend over me. I haven’t seen her in like 3 months and she rarely texts back now. Her work is busy so I can already hardly see her, but yet she always has time for her dates.
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There are some activities I want to try with her but I am afraid to even ask her as I know she will take the idea and do it with her boyfriend instead (I did that and true enough, she keeps asking me for the place now so that she can go with her boyfriend).
Am I overreacting? What can I do? I feel like a second option now and it sucks.
Here are what netizens think:
- Declare your love for her.
- Wahlau the comments here are so mean leh…to poster, it’s not overreacting but it’s certainly an attachment issue that you hv to work out yourself . obviously you hold your friend in much higher esteem/importance than her regards for you. And I think it’s totally humane to feel the way you do..i mean even close siblings can feel that way too if the other sibling got partner…what you can do is talk to her about it (but also risk a few things) or just slowly disengage yourself from the attachment and find other things to occupy you/other friends to do things with..you can feel hurt but don’t drag it out and just let go. Sometimes ppl drift apart due to the most random reasons. You can still value your memories together & her importance in certain periods of your life but move on from prioritising her in your activities. Close that chapter & be happy for her. Plus value your new self without her. The only thing you can control is your emotions & responses. Don’t make yourself into someone you don’t like because of someone who doesn’t value you as much as you value them.
- She is your best friend but you may not be her best friend. And sometimes best friend is just not enough. In the end.
- You should seduce the boyfriend. That way, when they hang out, he will ask your best friend to ask you along so that he can see you. And you get to see your best friend. Win-win.