my boyfriend (22m) sits on his phone 24/7 with me (22f) but when he’s out with his friends he doesn’t touch it
For context, my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 6 years, this has been an ongoing issue since basically the beginning and i’m just not sure what to do about it.
He has broken boundaries (nothing detrimental, but enough to cause trust issues and anxiety) multiple times throughout our relationship and sometimes when he goes out, i ask for a simple check in every couple of hours, nothing crazy but enough to know that we’re still on track and everything is all good.
It seems almost impossible to get this from him, but if we’re hanging out, it’s impossible to get him off of his phone for even an hour or so.
He’s constantly on phone calls, responding to texts, scrolling through socials etc. I guess i’m just frustrated and tired of feeling like he’s more worried about his outward appearance to his friends than to me.
I do have anxiety in general and i know that this isn’t his problem but i would hope that he would try to work with me to the best of his abilities.
Am i asking for too much or overreacting? Any advice is appreciated!
we’ve had the hard conversations, the “are we growing apart” and “should we keep going” etc, i don’t think he’s cheating just because he’s so so open with what he’s doing.
if him and his friends are talking about something funny he’ll show me, he’s not hiding his screen when i come in the room etc.
He’s very involved in pop culture and music (he’s in a band so that’s part of the reason he’s online so much, too). It could be that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore, im just not sure how i would go about confronting that anymore than i already have.
the last thing i want to do is lose him, i’d rather just feel more connected if that makes any sense
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He might not want to be in a relationship with you but he’s not willing to confront that. Sort of like the way he’s not willing to “confront” you by getting off his phone and interacting with you the way he does with his friends. If, and that’s a big if, this is true, he’s being a coward by not telling you that he wants to break up.
Basically, he’s avoiding you by using his phone. The above is just one guess as to why. It could also be a number of other things. At this point, I’m just hoping that he’s not cheating one you.
Sorry if I’m sounding all doom and gloom, but constantly avoiding you by using his phone is a pretty bad sign.