Should I break up with my boyfriend because he homophobic?
I have a few closeted lgbtq+ friends and am also consider myself to an ally of the community. However, my boyfriend of two years isn’t and he thinks it’s unnatural. So much so that he sends me shorts with anti-Lgbtq rethoric. I feel really conflicted when he sends me things like that.
After talking with him to understand where he comes from, it just came down to that we have different viewpoints. I guess Im just seeking advice as to is it really worth sticking it out. I sort of rationalize it by telling myself that a lot of people in Sg are still pretty conservative.
I haven’t told any of my other friends about his viewpoints. And honestly apart from this, I am really happy with him. And it only comes up occasionally. I guess I’m really just seeking advice, as to is this really something that one breaks up over? Can it change in the future?
Here are what netizens think:
- If there’s a chance, introduce him to a good queer friend of yours and hopefully his opinion will change. Based on exp, met a number of (mild) homophobes, including family members, who had no prior interaction with gay people. They slowly changed their opinion after interacting with us and realising that gay people isn’t what they thought we are.
- Everyone is entitled to their belief system. But one thing u MUST DISCUSS – U shld discuss what happens if ur kids turn out to be lgbtq+ If that one cannot agree, then dont continue. It’s just a breakup waiting to happen.
- Is this a life and death situation? LOL I find it stupid to even discuss breaking up over this. Are you converting to being a les? Are your friends trying to convert you? If not, what is the big issue? Just learn to respect each other viewpoints and friends….Very hard meh?
- I was just thinking this. I am all for respecting each other’s viewpoints and friends but it hits closer to home if it is one of your children grappling with this issue. I am an advocate for couples to talk through ALL issues. So nothing is off the table and everyone knows each other’s positions and agree to disagree on specific issues. It’s only fair to both.