Does having a partner who’s a gamer ever get better?
I (28F) have a bf (27M) who is a gamer. He loves his PC. I understand we all have a vice and I try to respect his personal time. We’ve been together almost 8 years. It never used to be this bad but lately, it’s been so frustrating. For the last year he has probably spent about 45 hours every week on his PC. (He does work full time but he’s usually on it the second he gets home until he goes to bed) He spends 90% of his free time on his PC and if he’s not on it, then he’s watching YouTube on his phone of someone playing the game. I know he truly has an addiction but I think that’s a post for another day.
And I do communicate when we need to spend time together and he always will do a date night but the other 90% of his week he’s on the game. Don’t get me wrong, I love my alone time as well but I am still a productive adult during my day. (We have no kids). I don’t want to feel like a nag but when I have to ask him to do something (like help with dishes or help with groceries) multiple times and I keep getting “yeah give me a few minutes” and over an hours gone by and he hasn’t moved…I feel like the mom to a teenage boy. It’s gross. And every other aspect of our relationship is great! “Love life” is amazing, no trust issues, & we rarely even fight.
My question is: Does it ever get better? Do they ever tone it down as they get older?