Do I break up with my gf?
I’m in a r/s with my current gf of 5 years. Recently, she picked up a new hobby alongside a new group of friends and have been prioritising them over our r/s. She would spend her whole Saturdays and some weekdays evening to do her own lobby, which leaves her with no time and energy to spend time with her.
Ever since then, she’s been distant and cold and has stopped texting me.
HDB BTO
As our BTO downpayment is coming soon, I wanted to check in with her on her thoughts of our r/s. She said she wasn’t ready to settle down, at least for the next 2 years and alr lost feelings in me because “we have nth in common”. This was nth new because we once broke up 2 years ago over the same issue and I thought this time would be different… …
I have had been nice to her, buying her things, bringing her out for really good meals, her family members like me so it felt like I am being taken granted for and it’s just me putting in the effort to maintain our r/s.
Is our r/s over? I don’t want to kick the can down the road, pay the downpayment and forfeit it later on. Do I break up and move on?
Here are what netizens think:
- Sounds like a guy from her new hobby potong jalan you liao la. Condolences.
- Break up! She already said she has no feelings for you. What are you waiting for!? For her to drain your feelings & resources more? She prioritise her hobby and even friends over you. How much she value you? You know the answer. Stop spending your time, money and effort on her. She’s taking you for granted and just taking advantage of your feelings for her. A relationship should be 2 ways. Don’t ever end up marrying & suffer more, this is most dumb. This girl is not marriage material. Break up and move on!!
- Firstly, how come hobby become lobby. On a serious note, once u break up n try to patch up again, it will be different than before. U just going round in circles with no solution. She already mentioned she had no more feelings for u, thats a big hint right there and she dont see herself settling down yet, maybe not with you. The signs are already infront of u but u seems resisting to let it go. Time to kick the can on the road …. better not, later got accident. Pick up the can and throw in the bin. Much better