I’m (24f) and I’m pregnant in my first trimester. My bf (27m) and I have been dating for a year and half and this morning I went through his old phone that just got disconnected while he was at work and found texts of him going to a happy ending massage parlor.
This is after he spent a couple days with my family this week, we saw an ultrasound of the fetus, and have been talking about being a family and having a kid together for more than a month.
I just got STD tested a couple months ago and I was negative of everything, but now I am freaking out about having something new because I’ve been intimate with him since I found out I was pregnant and also after he supposedly went to the massage parlor……
He is very narcissistic, manipulative, controlling and he has put his hands on me a few times. He gets livid if I spend just five extra minutes at work and has called me up to 100 times before if I don’t answer the phone.
He questions who I’m trying to impress when I’m wearing makeup and going out. He does not go one day without accusing me of doing something.
This morning on his phone I also saw messages of SEVERAL other women he’s talked to since we started dating and has offered a hotel room to meet them in.
I have tried breaking up with him while and before I was pregnant and he doesn’t let me. He has threatened to hurt himself if I left him.
Netizens’ comments
- What i would do is immediately separate your finances from his. Plan my escape.
- Get an exit strategy together and stay gone. Can’t offer legal advice, but would tell you to RUN! You’re in a forest of red flags
- You are possibly in danger. Please don’t make light of this. Please, please, please take action to protect yourself. But be very careful.