Stingy New Husband
2 years ago, I’ve remarried. Had new baby, and 3 school-going kids from previous marriage. I must say that I was quite independant after my 1st divorce, owning and fully paying for my own 5 room HDB. I even get full custody for the kids.
My current husband is earning more than me (more than $6k a mth). He doesnt have kids from previous marriage so it was his 1st with me. He loves his daughter ALOT, but he was SUPER STINGY. By saying super stingy, I mean, he does not:
– provide money for our groceries weekly
– never pay for our family meals if we were to go out together
– always expect me to pay for meals whenever we order in
– only gave $100 mthly for utilities, thats all
– does not fork out anything extra for e.g maid
– we own a car so he wants us to 50% the loan
– expect me to fully pay for the petrol
I’ve ever brought the topic up. But we always ended up fighting cos he told me that those staying in the house, most were MY KIDS and not his. Thus its fair that I pay, not him.
Recently, I changed job due to post pregnancy stress. I took a $2k paycut. Tried explaining to him to help out with the monthly utilities as I am struggling doing so alone, but got brutally scolded by him instead. I ended up having alot of credit card loans cos whenever i don’t have enough, I am too afraid to voice out to him. Did not tell him about this, cos he will be mad if he knows that I’ve even used the baby bonus money meant for our baby.
I didn’t know he can be so mean and stingy, I really didn’t expect this from him. He had alot of savings (6 digits). All he cares about is making and saving money, nothing else… I developed anxiety and panic attacks thinking about this sometimes.
I never thought of divorce as I hate the process and going thru the agony again. And I am afraid I wont get to see my baby again, cos he ever told me that he will take her with him should we seek separation.. sometimes, I think about dying as it will be the best option for now…
I am super tired of all this.. really tired…
Here are what netizens think:
- If the wife is paying for everything, why need a husband? What is his role in the household? A FREELOADER. Next time, just don’t bring wallet out and make the husb pay for everything.
- Live a completely separate life together. If he insist, then dont pay for him. He should go out to eat on his own, do his own laundry etc. Everything exclude him. This kind of man…should make him walk out on his own.
- Marriage is no longer a beneficial arrangement for women. We should really examine things logically before letting emotions get the better of us. Why find trouble for yourself, you were happily independent caring for your own 3 kids before this. Jiayou