Boyfriend quit his job and is not looking for a new one. I’m getting desperate.
We’ve been together for 5 years and living together for 3 years at my home. He’s caring, thoughtful and more loving than i ever hoped someone would be with me.
For the past two years he’s been at his first job and resented it. This job took a stroll on his mental health and it lead him to be unmotivated in finding a new one. One day in August he called me to tell me he quit his job, which I am not going to lie, made me feel a little sad because he hasn’t consulted me before, but I supported his decision because I knew that job was sucking the life out of him. He was also eager on having more time for finding a new better job.
Forward to now, he has been jobless for almost 3 months and has not applied to a single new job yet. He does basic house chores and spends most of his day on his phone. His savings have dried up so I support us now. Still, my fulltime and part-time jobs added are honestly not enough for both of us to live confortably.
Issue is, there had been a few job opportunities in his field that I found and shared with him these months. He was excited for a moment and said he would apply but never did. He also doesn’t want to involve me in his (inexisting) process of finding a job or talk to me about his issues.
He is extremely sad and I tried everything in the book to make him feel better: be supportive, take him on walks, confort him, even be naggy at times. Nothing works. I offered to pay for therapy but he didn’t accept.
I don’t know how to help him and while I hate myself for it, I am becoming resentful too. I am tired all the time from my jobs and seeing him doing nothing to help out our situation financially is starting to get to me.
I don’t know what to do to and how to help him.