BF INSECURE ABOUT HIS WEIGHT, REFUSES TO TAKE OFF SHIRT WHEN PIAK-ING GF

Partner won’t take his shirt off when he hook up because of his weight

My partner is a bigger guy and is super insecure about his weight, so much so he won’t take his shirt off when we have intercourse.

Sometimes I feel like he doesn’t believe that I’m really attracted to him, and when he does it’s “despite” his weight.

One of the things that I think makes him more attractive is his weight. Not in a weird way, though.I just want him to feel desirable exactly as he is.

How do I talk to him about this?

Netizens’ comments

1. Just be patient with him. Touch his belly and the parts that you know he’s self conscious about during intimacy. It may take time but he’ll get there. It isn’t about you or whether he believes you it’s about him overcoming fear and shame and that really hard.
   I’m a fat guy and have had these kinds of self conscious situations before.
2. My recommendation is to buy a pack of cheap undershirts and tell him that you have a fantasy about him tearing his shirt off.
   You could definitely ham it up and motivate him out of it.
   Women want confidence from a man but you found a big insecurity. Something that could define you as a great partner is helping him build that confidence.
3. It’s awesome you’re attracted to him as he is, but sometimes it’s best to let him be how he’s most comfortable. I know I’m better with my bra on, because I’m not distracted by how I feel about them. So maybe that’s better for him. You can still make him feel your attraction without making him feel uncomfortable and distracted by his insecurity with himself.
4. As everyone else said, be patient, but I have some personal experience with this. An ex of mine was super insecure for the opposite reason (he was really skinny), and I always made sure to pay extra attention to his torso. Start by sticking your hands under his shirt, try pulling it up a little at a time, and make him feel wanted. Hope this is helpful!
5. As a former fat person. Please be careful with this subject. It’s something that takes time and trust. They may trust you but they don’t necessarily trust themselves because everyone is their own worst critic.
   Just make them feel attractive with their shirt on.
   Also try not to take it personal because it’s not anything you do with you. You’re not doing anything wrong. Time really does fix a lot of these insecurities