My (26F) boyfriend (27M) abruptly quit his job with no backup plan.
A year ago my boyfriend moved in with me, to house that I own and am currently paying a mortgage on with the agreement that he would contribute weekly for bills and groceries. He also has a car loan.
A few months ago he expressed concerns to me that his workplace was heading in a bad direction and he was unhappy with the new management they had introduced.
I encouraged him to start looking for a new job while working at his current one, but also warned him that there is a recession looming, and leaving solid employment is a very risky move.
He agreed with me that he would start to look for a new job, however he never did. Of course, 6 weeks later the job had become unbearable for him mentally so he handed in his resignation with no new job lined up.
We are now almost 7 weeks into him being unemployed and unable to even land an interview, the car loan has completely eaten his savings and he is no longer contributing to groceries and bills.
I have had to lend him money to keep him from defaulting on his car loan, and money to pay for his pet’s medical bills.
I am financially struggling to lend him this money as I’ve been hit hard cost of living. I expect to have to loan him more money again soon.
I want to make clear that all other aspects of our life are great. He treats me with all the love and care in the world and is the absolute best part of my day.
However the seeds of doubt have been planted in my head. I have had many weeks to think about what happened and come to the conclusion that I feel hurt by his decision.
I feel he did not take me into consideration at all, and did not think of the consequences on both of us if he was to just walk away from his job.
I am at a crossroads in my life, my options are to ride the lightning and hope he finds a job soon, but potentially have this mistrust and doubt hanging over me forever.
The 2nd option is to end the relationship and move back in with my family and try to rebalance my financials to weather the oncoming recession.
Is a situation like this cause enough for a breakup of an otherwise healthy relationship?