So, my boyfriend is the first guy I’ve done anything with. He’s packing about 12 cm and generally lasts a handful of minutes.
Recently, curiosity bit me and I found myself intrigued by what it might feel like to be fully stretched out, and ended up buying an 20cm “adult toy” for some solo play when he isn’t over. And damn, it was totally my cup of tea!
When I spilled the beans to my boyfriend, he got seriously miffed and hasn’t spoken to me since yesterday. All I want is to feel nice and full, to be f-ed harder once in a while, is that so awful?
- So, who wouldn’t be insecure about themselves, if learning that your girlfriend prefers a much bigger c-k than the one you have? Will you ever be able to satisfy her?
To solve this requires not just acceptance from the boyfriend that you are allowed to have your toys (because of course you are), but it needs serious consideration and above all communication from your side.
Now that you have gained this knowledge about your preference, do you think it will impact your feelings for your boyfriend? Has it already? How do you see your relationship going forward? Will you be content keeping it to just a toy?
If you cannot reassure him off all of this, he has good cause to have self doubts, insecurities and concerns about the relationship.
That being said, he should also come to you with his feelings, instead of sulking in the corner.
- I have a genuine question. Would you feel similarly if he bought a flesh light and told you it was because he wanted to feel a tight p-sy?
It’s the same thing here. It’s not that you bought it, it’s the way it was phrased(assuming you told him this).
To all the people saying that he needs to “get over it,” and “man up,” that’s not the way it works. Men of smaller size have been conditioned by the same women to feel like they’re inadequate. If women stop indoctrinating this type of thinking into men, maybe it won’t be as much of an issue.
- I think wording is everything here. As someone who is just slightly smaller than your bf, and if I were in his shoes, had you said, its for use when I’m not with you or when you’re out of town, then that sounds way better than, “I want to feel full and stretched”.
It’s the same thing as if he said he bought a flesh light because he wanted to feel a tight hole for once, or that he wants to be with someone who weighs less, assuming you’re bigger. With that said, it also has to do with maturity.