I [F21] slept with my BFs [22M] friend before we met and it really bothers my BF, what can I do to help him if there is anything I can do?
To add a bit of context, my boyfriend and I have only really been seeing each other for about 6 months total and dating exclusively for 3 months.
Before we started dating we sort of stumbled upon the subject of his friend (21M) because said friend asked about me at a group hangout.
I felt that I had to be open and honest with him so I told my BF that 2 years before we met I had a one night stand with his friend and that’s why he may be asking. I didn’t want to lie to him about it because I think it would be worse if his friend said something before I did.
My BF said it was fine and that he was happy I was open with him but he seems to bring it up a lot when we are arguing and it’s always something that comes up.
Doesn’t help that he sees that friend like once a week when they play sports together and I feel like it’s always a constant reminder for him.
The friend hasn’t brought me up since my BF and I started dating (to my knowledge) but I can still tell it still really bugs my BF.
He is really passive aggressive towards me about it and I don’t know what else to do other than to be empathetic to his feelings and try my best to tell him that my past is my past.
I have really strong feelings for my boyfriend and I really see a future with him but I’m feeling kind of lost right now. I don’t know how to help him and make him see how important he is to me and how unimportant his friend is to me.
Any sort of advice or similar experiences and help is greatly appreciated!