I (28) have known my boyfriend (28), for some months (6) now, but we began dating a month ago.
We became very close and began confiding in each other. I told him that I have a substantial amount of money which I want to use to start a business in a couple of years.
He has his own business too but he owes his previous boss a lump sum which if he doesn’t pay, his boss will pack all his current goods to replace the money.
I already loaned him a third of my savings so he can use it to run his business and pay me back over time. Now, he wants me to lend him the rest so he can pay off his boss who has threatened to pack his goods in three weeks if he doesn’t pay back.
He says can afford to pay his debt back over the course of 7 months. He’s a sincere and very hard-working guy. Also, he’s a good guy and a good boyfriend and I have no complaints so far about his character. I would like to loan him the money and have him pay me back in time since I don’t have any use for the money at the moment.
The problem though is I wonder about its sanity of it. Am I being too gullible? Even though my instincts tell me, he’s different and he won’t cart away my money or refuse to pay back, should I do it?
I told him last night that I wouldn’t be lending him the rest of the money and he can find someone or somewhere else to get a loan. And he says it’s okay that he understands where I’m coming from. He doesn’t also want to jeopardize our relationship because of a loan. He says he’ll put his property on sale to raise the money and also pay me what back he borrowed quicker than planned.
Just when I thought that he won’t be coming for me for any money, I discovered where the money is going to and why he wanted a loan.
I realised that he has another girl and he could not afford to have two girlfriends and wanted to take a loan from me.
I confronted him about it and he said that it was his ex and he also took a loan from her so that he can used it to repay me.
I then checked his phone and find out it was not an ex but a girl that he met 1 week after me.
I quickly shut up and continued with him so that he does not disappear with the money that I already borrowed him.
But I am stressing daily as I don’t know when I will be replaced and my money will be gone.