Stuck in this awkful relationship
I’m sorry, I just needed a place to rant.
For context, I am a 33 years old M. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. Over the years, her sense of entitlement seems to have grown and her independence has dipped. For the past three years, I have been paying for everything. Meals (regardless of price range), dates (movie tickets, entrance fees and whatnot), her Grab/Taxi to work, gifts (I’ve bought high ticket items such as phones), and even school fees.
It is easy to say that I have been paying for 80% of the entire time that we are together. All the while, she berates me for being useless, bad at my job, and bad at my life. I’ve given up all of my hobbies because I am unable to finance them since I am spending almost every dollar I have on her.
Even if money wasn’t the issue, I don’t even have the time for myself and my hobbies. I have also stopped meeting all of my friends just because I can’t find the time to. Even if I am out with my friends, she would never stop calling or texting me.
She expects every single moment of my time to be spent with her. She constantly screens my phone as she forbids me to have any contact with females, even for work related stuff. We are constantly arguing over the smallest things just because she doesn’t that she is wrong in any sense. She thinks that everyone is against her but she can’t seem to see how she is treating people around her as well.
I really want to leave the relationship but it has been so difficult for me to end it. I don’t know what I should do. I am drinking daily just to get some peace. I’ve went for counselling but that didn’t help much too. I had been suicidal as well. I just want to start my life anew.
Here are what netizens think:
- why difficult to end? Does she lock or tie you up? No right? You just tell her you both are incompatible and her ATM run dry. After saying that don’t entertain her call or just go to your mobile company to change your phone number. Simple right? Get some peace for yourself before you start another relationship.
- The 2 of you bring out the worst in each other. There’s no way for you to get better unless both of you end this toxic relationship. The fact that you feel trapped when you aren’t even married to her shows that you really need to learn about your own boundaries. Drinking every day just harms your body. Go for a run or cycle or swim instead. Sweat your heart out. It benefits not only your mind but also your body.
- If you are a man, just tell her upfront that you are broke. She will run away from you, faster than the fastest automotive ever build.