hi so i don’t know what to do here.
my bf (20) has told me multiple times that he edges or touches himself for hours almost everyday, and often comes more than once.
he’s told me what gets him off, and it’s not necessarily common/good things either. he’s unemployed so he’s at home everyday while i’m at work.
because of this, we mostly F either in the morning before work, or on the weekends. when we end up f-ing in the morning, there’s a good chance that he doesn’t come.
this happened again this morning, and i wanted to know what was really happening. he told me that “he doesn’t really know why he doesn’t come, but it can’t be his fault, so it’s probably mine.”
i was hurt over this comment, of him blindly blaming me and giving no reason as to why it’s even my fault.
i wanted to figure out why he wasn’t coming in the morning, and what i can do to make him come. i discovered that it’s probably his chronic self pleasure during the week.
i don’t know how to go about this situation. as much as i want to blame him repeatedly touching himself for his inability to come, i can’t help but think that maybe it is my fault in some way.
he just doesn’t seem to even want to consider that he may be the reason that he can’t finish in bed.
some additional information: he’s addicted to adult videos and has some deviances (getting off to his friends girlfriends, f-ing with girls in relationships, pleasuring himself to things he knows he shouldn’t, i.e. videos of my friends dancing).
when i dropped him off at his parents place this morning so i could go to work, he texted me minutes after i left. he told me that he just came after i left, so the problem can’t be him. i don’t know why he needed to double down on blaming me for him not coming this morning.
21F and 20M, 2.5 years together