I’m 24 and I’m here at my boyfriend’s house shaking and crying. We agreed that I come to his house for some food and I told him that I’m gonna wake up early tomorrow so I’ll go to sleep earlier.
I got here at 20:00, his friends were here, ordered food, ate then I started getting ready for bed at around 22:30 to actually go to bed at 23:00. He then came upstairs like 10 minutes after eleven, started touching me. I didn’t say anything I just stopped his hand but he continued. He didn’t get the memo said “let me touch you a little”. As he was pulling down my undies I told him “but seriously please, I’d like to sleep”. He then said “I’m gonna effing do it myself then” in an angry voice and rolled over before crying like a baby.
The thing is that 2 days ago I had a breakdown and told him I wasn’t doing well mentally (he always tells me that I never initiate conversations about this stuff and I should, this time I did). I wasn’t really in the mood either for a while that’s true but tonights situation really upset me and I’m sitting downstairs on the couch and have no idea what to do.
I feel bad as it feels like taking candy away from a baby.
Am I wrong?
Here are what netizens think:
- go home and go to bed. you still need to wake up early.
- This at 27 and after you’ve directly expressed to him that you’re not in a good space for it and you need to wake up early. He needs to date his hand.
- Anyone who gets angry at you for saying no to doing it is not someone you want to be with. You aren’t his toy that he can just use whenever he’s in the mood. Disgusting. I cannot imagine my partner being this uncaring towards me.
- Someone throwing a fit when you’re tired and struggling mentally or any other time you say no is a red flag. He’s selfish and immature and he doesn’t get to punish you for saying no. No means no. You don’t get to be forced or abused because someone is horny. That’s sick and selfish.