I have two biological daughters “Cara” and “Daisy” and a stepdaughter “Emma”
I married Emma’s dad when they were all in their early teens. I’m going to be honest, and I’m not trying to get slammed for being a bad mom, but Daisy was a bad child.
she threw temper tantrums well into adulthood, snuck out at night, talked back to teachers.
I did take her to multiple therapists, but it didn’t help.
Cara was a very easy child, and Emma didn’t get in trouble but can be very rude, selfish, and when she was older she slept with a boyfriend of Daisy’s (Emma’s dad refused to put her in therapy and claims she’s fine)
Emma and Cara are best friends. They do literally everything together. Daisy is not close to either of them.
I would also like to say Daisy has grown up to be a lovely young woman. She does still struggle with emotional regulation but she is 85% better.
Cara got married 4 years ago and Daisy was pretty jealous. Emma was the maid of honor and was not nice to Daisy.
Daisy ended up dropping out of the wedding the day of because she had been in the bathroom for a while (crying I think) and when she came out, Emma said if she did anything to mess up the wedding, she would push her into the cake.
Everyone laughed and Daisy left and turned her phone off for 3 weeks.
Daisy got a boyfriend about a year later and got even better with her emotional issues, and I’m very proud of her.
Daisy is now getting married, but is embarrassed because she only has one best friend and he had a lot of people to be groomsmen, so she asked Emma and Cara.
Emma declined because the dress didn’t match her hair. Cara said she didn’t want to do it without Emma.
This annoyed me because Cara literally doesn’t do anything without Emma. it borders on co-dependence.
I snapped at Cara that her hair matches everything, so she doesn’t have an excuse and it is pretty sad that she is more concerned with her step-sister than her real sister.
I told her I was disappointed. Daisy began tearing up and asking me to stop because I was embarrassing her.
Cara yelled back that I always prioritized Daisy’s issues and she feels Daisy was mean to her and she can’t move past it and hopes Daisy’s fiancé cheats (I found that awful because Daisy is so in love, I’ve never seen her like this)
Where we are right now is Cara is hardly talking to me, Daisy is saying if she was mean to Cara it was only because Emma was mean her, and Emma is saying if she bullied Daisy it was because she was being ill treated at her mom’s house and we weren’t helping her (unfortunately we didn’t know)
I hate how divided we are, and I hate that Cara thinks I love Daisy more and doesn’t want to talk to me because I lost my temper with her.