My boyfriend (M-26) doesn’t believe in marriage, because it “incentivises me” (F-25) to “divorce him and take all of his money”??
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and I have been beyond happy with our relationship. He truly is the love of my life, and I have never been this in love with anyone before.
For the past 2 years I have been waiting for him to propose to me, when we would go on beautiful vacations I would get my hopes up extremely high, and I would end up being so utterly disappointed when he wouldn’t propose, that I would be holding back tears for days after.
I couldn’t handle this emotional roller coaster pattern anymore, and I finally asked him when he was going to propose to me. It felt like my heart was going to stop from shock when he responded by simply saying “never”.
After a long and heart wrenching conversation he explained that he “never planned to propose” to me, because he doesn’t believe in marriage, it incentives women to divorce their husbands and take all of their money”.
I honestly don’t know what to do from here, and I am completely heartbroken. Any advice??
- Regardless of his reasoning he’s decided against ever getting married, so now you have to decide how important marriage is to you. You can decide to stay with him without marriage and be ok with that, or leave him to find another great guy who wants marriage too. Sticking around hoping to change his mind would be unfair to you both.
- So offer to get a prenuptial agreement. I’m guessing he’d have another excuse then.
- I think this should have been a conversation about 2-3 years ago to be honest so I’m sorry you assumed you were on the same page. No sarcasm or meanness intended! But I wouldn’t be able to stay with someone where I wanted marriage and they didn’t. You don’t need to stay with him because of 5 years of time, you can find someone less bitter and in the future, do try to talk about expectations sooner rather than later. 🙂
- Leave? If you want to get married you won’t to him. Call it a day on this man