My longtime boyfriend (33M) says he will never marry me (31F) because “women are shameless”
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years, and when we first began our relationship he never mentioned that marriage was off the table.
I specifically remember having conversations with him about marriage once our relationship became serious, and he always said that he was “open” to getting married, as long as it wasn’t “rushed”. That was 5 years ago.
In the last year or so, his entire view on marriage has changed. He now says that he has no interest in getting married because “women initiate 80% of divorces” and that “nobody wants to work through the slightest marriage problems” and would rather just “get a quick divorce”.
At the end of his little rant he also said “Nowadays, women are shameless”.
I’m so hurt by this, and marriage was always something that I wanted in my life. My family keeps asking me when we are going to get married since we have been together for almost a decade, but now I have to accept the fact that marriage is never going to happen, and it makes me very sad.
Another strange thing that I have now noticed/realized is how my boyfriend always talks bad about kids being born “out of wedlock” and I have told him that I really want kids, which he said “will happen eventually” but does that mean he’s going to have “out of wedlock” kids with me??
Also, I’m starting to get anxious about my time clock for having kids starting to run out, so I can’t afford him to keep procrastinating and pushing these major life events aside.
He’s my life partner and I still love him more than anyone in my life. I’m just so devastated that I won’t be able to marry the man who I have been deeply in love with for the past 8 years.
Are there any possible solutions to this problem as I see it?