Some trauma you just cannot deny no matter what you try to do to forget it
I really do not know how to deal with guys who betray their wives.
One of my elder cousin, got my help to chase his wife back then, then got married to that woman, but after few years, got together with a young V girl. Wife got so angry but still stayed with him.. Ok, never mind about that.. His family’s problem.. But what really stunned me was years later, when he met me at a family event, he confessed to me right in front of his wife and so many other relatives.. It was an awkward moment for me… So I quickly replied that “you’re drunk” and also told his wife right next to him that “he’s drunk already”!
To my dismay, his wife replied, “No la, he’s not drunk”! And then in my mind I was like “Heck! He’s drunk la!” Please tell everyone he’s drunk.
Frankly, I was traumatised by what my cousin did. And I avoided any chance to meet with my cousin until today.. It’s been almost 8 years now. Besides, I still cannot forget his wife’s response.. today whenever I think about it, I am still very traumatised by his confession though I secretly had feelings for him since young (looking up to him as a big brother, there should be nothing more).. Any good feelings for him stopped right after I know about his affairs.
It’s a real trauma to me. It is understandable that not everyone understands it though.
Haiz.. whatever you married guys do, please take care of your wives’ feelings.
The worse thing is when your wives or your family or even colleagues see or receive your vid/pictures of you and the other girl..
They will be so traumatised that they will feel like running away from you and everything about you. Any prior good impressions about you will now come back to haunt them.
Very traumatizing.. Haiz.