Think my weight made my partner go flaccid during our bedroom session.
I (20F) am super embarrassed about my weight and making my (26M) boyfriend flaccid.
Just to put this out there, I’m not obese or particularly heavy. I’m 80KG. I am working to lose weight, but it’s obviously a process.
This happened last night, where me and me are my partner were getting to it. We were in missionary and he wanted to change position, and that’s fine.
Essentially he tried to pull me into this sort of cow girl position, as in he’d sat up, put his legs down and then tried to pull me into his lap to do our business that way.
I’d never been in this position before (I should probably mention, I’m really not experienced. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under 2 years and he was my first everything!)
Since I’d never been in this position before, I didn’t know how to move. I tried, but it just wasn’t… working for me, and I don’t think it was working for him either.
After that we moved into standard cowgirl with me on top but he was totally flaccid and we couldn’t continue (I did try to get him going again) but we spent the rest of the night cuddling.
My partner says he just wasn’t feeling it, but I think the awkwardness of him trying to pull me into that position and getting me to move totally killed the mood…
He’s always said he loves my body, and reassures me that I’m beautiful but this has just made me really self conscious about my weight.
I know he’s not done anything wrong but I’m just venting. I am actively losing weight which I’m happy with, I just wish it would come off quicker to avoid embarrassing situations like this!