Is earning power or jobs really very important in a relationship?
I dated my boyfriend just right before covid starts. As restrictions and all were in place, there were not many big gatherings for friends or families.
Even CNY was just visiting each other parents’ place without relatives. So his grandmother just had a birthday party thrown a while ago and we attended together.
We went to fetch his aunt as its on the way. It’s my first time meeting her and she starts to ask more questions on jobs etc. I’m working in finance sector whereas he’s in retail.
So his aunt made the comment of, how come he’s dating me and he should date someone of his level. She asked me, why I would take a fancy to him when I’m earning twice more than him. She asked him, why is he driving my car later spoil how he have the money to pay me back?
I was a little upset but I just replied to her that some things shouldn’t be justified by money. Before we got together, this was one of the sensitive issues we talked about. We knew this issue may be brought up someday when facing family members, but little did I know, it would come from his family’s side first and in such a brutal form.
When we are heading home, he asked me to drive myself to my place and he will cab back to his place from my place. Normally he will always drive for us, I knew something was wrong. I asked him if he wants to have a talk but he say he was fine.
I asked him if he’s tired or unwell I can send him back first. He declined also. I just drove and tried to talk to him but he’s not responsive. Ended up it being a silent drive back to my place and he just left after. Next few days, we talked much lesser and he just drop the bomb that he wants to end the relationship.
Cause he feel I should go for someone my level and not waste time on him. I asked him if we can have a talk but he totally refused and just say he’s working late. I said I can go over his place but he just say he’s unsure what time he will end.
I asked to meet over last weekend he said he wanna stay at home. But my friends saw him at the mall with his friends. I’m feeling so lost and so hurt right now but he seems to be okay without me.