My bf is high SES – earns high income (12k/mth), family well to do, dines at nice places and drives nice car whereas my family is middle class.
I make 2.5k/mth, my parents are not so well off so we rarely go out for meals and cannot afford to drive. My boyfriend doesn’t mind all of these things about me and I know its just me but I cant help but feel so inferior compared to him.
I feel like he can easily find someone else out there with the same attributes as me but from a much better background which will help him maintain his current SOL whereas if he sticks with me, he will have to end up “downgrading” because I simply don’t have the financial capacity to match his. Sometimes I feel resentful towards him because he always seems so carefree. Doesn’t have to worry about things, parents really take care of his needs whereas I’m not so close to my family and I have to worry about my finances and cannot splurge as freely as he can.
Any advice on how I can get over these negative feelings and thoughts.
Here are what netizens think:
- It’s a good opportunity to learn from them how they manage to be high SES. You seem to be mostly looking at the disadvantages (e.g. feeling inferior) but not at the advantages of having a high SES boyfriend (e.g. his needs are taken care of so you have less to worry about, learning what your bf does at his job to earn 12k.)Remember, he chose you because he appreciated you in some way. You have to choose you too – appreciate yourself and work on yourself.
- You sound like a inferior dumpling, no one cares. If this is an issue in the first place he won’t be with you. So stop finding problem
- Wah lau.. Got money also complain… Don’t give girls a bad name leh.. All these feelings are your self-esteem talking and possibly envy too.If you want to match him, then upgrade your qualifications and/or work towards getting a better paying job.If you don’t want him, I’m sure other girls will grab him.