How do you guys cope with the fact that you aren’t attractive?

Never really bothered me or maybe I was just too young a few years back. I have heard stories of my friends receiving confessions and getting into relationships but it never bothered me and I genuinely am happy for them even though I had none.

Moving into my 20s soon, I guess that’s when I started thinking more about my future, and expectations to settle down eventually. (I know I’m still young, but time really flies)

I know looks isn’t everything, but it is still very important and many circumstances have proven that. Good looking people get better connections, better jobs, befriend people more easily hence higher chance to meet lifelong friends, people are nicer.

Can’t really remember if anyone called me ugly straight to my face nor hinted at it (though I think they are just being nice because none of my friends are that direct) but definitely was called very average by a friend lol.

Never once thought I was ugly too, only as I got older, I literally had a glow down and I don’t get how is it possible like isn’t it puberty suppose to make you better one.

I just find it hard to accept the fact that I don’t look as good as others, others are prettier, better, than I am. It has affected my self esteem so much that I hate looking into the mirror, I hate myself to the point I can’t even look at people and hold conversations anymore because all that is going through my head says ‘you’re ugly’.

And everytime I make eye contact with someone for longer than a second I strongly believe they are looking at my features and thinking how ugly I am. It has affected my chances to make friends, even more so relationships which I of course hope to have one and settle down one day.

Just late night thoughts, so what do you guys do to cope with the fact that you aren’t attractive, maybe even considered ugly by others? How do I lift my head up again to talk to others? I constantly feel like shrinking my presence till I’m non-existent because I’m afraid others would look in my direction and discover how ugly I actually am…

My mom’s been cheating on my dad for 25 years.

They finally got a divorce this year, so my dad opened up to me about everything. When he first caught my mom cheating, he was preparing to leave her until she announced that she was pregnant with me.

I’m now an adult and I think I look enough like my dad to not want to pursue any DNA testing, and tbh I don’t want to know if I’m not his.

I’ve been truly sick ever since he told me the details. My dad’s father died last year, and he has phone records of my mom calling her guy for several hours the day his father died and the day of the funeral.

I want to say something because mom is now bringing this guy around, but dad knows my mom is vengeful and hostile and thinks it would be best for my safety if I don’t confront her.

But man, I feel so disgusted by her and sorry for my dad.

Netizens’ comments

• You should confront her, you have every right. Your mom is the worst type of person, cheating alone, but also calling the man on the day of your grandfathers funeral, absolutely disgusting.
• I’m so sorry your mom is so toxic to you and your dad. Neither of you deserved any of that. That breaks my heart that she could be so cold and destructive to her family, for so long.

I (26M) hooked up with my friend (41F) and almost got caught by her daughter (19F)

For the record, I was 25 at the time of this happening but I just turned 26 today but anyway…I worked at this store earlier in the year and had been working with this woman there for a few months.

We instantly became friends and better friends over the months of knowing her. I’ve met her husband and her two kids who are 15 and 19.

They all like me and I get along great with her family. She’s in great shape and I’ve always been into her. I knew that nothing would ever happen and I would just always have a crush on her and thought how awesome it would be to hookup with her cuz she’s entirely my type.

But figured I was way too young for her and that would just simply not ever happen. So she quits the job and a few months later, I do too.

We’re both in different jobs now and never see each other, but we still talk all the time and call each other at the end of the week and gossip.

So she calls me at the end of the week about a month ago and says she has news, she wants to get a divorce. I knew that she had been having problems with her marriage and was always hoping she’d get a divorce just so I could hit on her without feeling bad (not that I really cared anyway).

So I ask her out to get drinks to celebrate. So we go out to this restaurant and she’s drinking like 6 cocktails within 2 hours, and I’m tipsy.

She gives me this big hug and thanks me for always treating her with respect, not being an a-hole, and she tells me she loves me, then kisses me.

Then we kiss more, end up making out at the bar of this restaurant on a packed Saturday night. Before we leave, she invites me over to her house.

So we F all night long. And just as we’re falling asleep and cuddling, her daughter tries getting into our bedroom. Thats about it, but it was still an “oh crap” moment.

Here we are 1 month later. We’re still friends and nothing is weird between us. We have agreed to keep it between us obviously.

She still hasn’t filed for divorce either and we’re supposed to have dinner with our friends this weekend. Here’s to hoping for more nights like that.

Was texting my 17-year-old daughter. She asked me if I wanted anything from the shopping center earlier. She Left school at 1 pm and I said no. She said okay. Two hours later she tells me she’s going back to the store to get slipper.

Why would she suddenly want to rush back just to get slippers when we have a perfect pair there is at home?

I asked why she just didn’t get those earlier and she told me it wasn’t on her mind. I asked her what she went to get earlier then and she told me condoms. (She’s been dating her boyfriend 18M for a year.) Glad she’s being safe. But wow. Very straightforward. Most young adults lie to their parents, I sometimes wish she would do the same to her old man lol

I’m not mad at my daughter. They’re 17 and 18. That’s what late teens do. I was just caught off guard.

Here is what netizens think:

• Honesty between a parent and child is everything. I know it must give op, as well as any good parent anxiety, but it’s really incredible for a child to feel safe enough to be honest. It takes a lot of courage and trust to develop that type of relationship. It will serve you both well. You should be proud of yourself and your daughter, Op. parents everywhere could take a lesson in respect because that’s exactly what love is. You have provided your daughter with a foundation of respect that will carry her through anything. You have gifted her self respect. It’s beautiful.

• Trust me an honest relationship is the best thing to have with a child. I have an honest relationship with my dad and we are very close although I’m nearly 30. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

• Being honest with my parents allowed us to have healthy conversations about alcohol and shit like that. Now at 18, they know what to expect me to do in college, and I will tell them if I’ve been drinking a lot and they’ll give me advice. They know I won’t be really dumb with it because we had those conversations and they shared their own stories.

I went with my friend to Johor 2 weeks ago for a 1-day getaway. Go in eat some Malaysian food get some drinks and a massage.

We were staying at the KSL hotel and we were looking for a massage parlour before we have our meal.

So we randomly walked into one massage unit, the place look very clean at the reception but the rooms look terribly dirty but we already agreed so we went ahead.

My friend and I were led to separate rooms by two Vietnamese ladies and we started our 1-hour massage, the massage feels like a cat making cookies. No power at all sibei rubbish.

After 30 mins or so the lady started to near my special area and I knew what was it and immediately said no.

So I end up getting touched for 1 hour without feeling good at all.

My friend came out about 5mins after me and told me it was fantastic, I bet he paid for the extra services.

We went to eat and my friend describe how much he enjoyed it and took the Wechat contact for the girl for whatever reasons.

I did not think much of it, we went to drink and the 1 day get-away was over.

But the story hasn’t ended, last week he told me he went to Johor again and said that he went to find the massage girl for a date.

I did not go as I was busy working.

Here comes the juicy part, yesterday he called me and said that he need to go to Johor again and asked me to accompany him. He sounded agitated and I asked him why.

He said that during the last weekend he gave the girl $2,000 as her mother needed money for surgery and promised my friend she will pay it back after a month. After giving her the money, the woman disappeared and blocked him on WeChat.

I was thinking in my mind, she works massage must press how many to get $2k, sure cannot one. Plus this kind of story he also believes. Even if we go back to the massage shop to look for her also got a lot of trouble.

So I told him no way I’m going there to start a dispute.

He told me that he had feelings for the girl and trusted her, This is not the first time he got cheated. He is always confused between the feeling of love and the feeling of lust.

He asked me what to do, I tell him there is nothing he can do. Maybe can consider cutting the Ku Ku bird and start thinking with the right head.

Did I offend my in-laws by declining my in laws gift of a down payment on a new house?

I’m awake at 4am and can’t sleep because of this situation so I thought I would bring it here. My husband’s parents moved down to our area a few years ago because they can be closer to his grandparents who also moved down there. We visit every few months and everything has been fine.

I’m 7 months pregnant with our first child a girl. Ever since we told his parents they have been making comments when we talk to them about the distance and not seeing their grandbaby much I just ignore them because it was their choice to move so nothing I can do about that.

Last week his mom asked to FaceTime with us because she has something exciting to tell us. A 5 room in their neighbourhood is up for sale. His parents said as a Christmas gift this year they are giving us the money for the down payment so we can in his mom’s words “ move out of our horrible little apartment.”

We both didn’t know what to say we have never had any plans to move or never implied it was something we would ever consider.

We told her on the call thanks and we appreciate the offer but we have no intentions on moving and love it here even in our tiny apartment.

She hung up and it has become a thing. She is blasting us on Facebook for being ungrateful and raising our daughter in a horrible place. ( it’s not)

All her friends are backing her up in the comments about how I’ll be a terrible mother and she is offering us a house and home for our baby. She thinks that because her offer is so generous we are AH to decline.

All this is making me feel guilty as hell. My husband says to ignore her but this is stressing my out and here I am at 4am stressing and feeling like a bad mother before my daughter is even born.