I indirectly cause someone’s life to end. And I have 0 regrets.

This happened about 15 years ago and, before I moved in to Singapore. I won’t say which country I was in but it’s definitely the neighbouring country, and most like you can guess which.

Very important info for this story : I’m a snitch. Like a heavy, professional snitch. It doesn’t matter how small or insignificant it is, if it’s wrong, againts the rules or law, or simply immoral, I will snitch on you. I snitched on my friends cheating in exam, people recording in cinema, my friend cheating on his gf, etc. I never get caught, cause that’s how good I am at snitching. So I will never get those stitches. As for why I snitch? For fun. I simply feel joy seeing people’s plan got ruined for breaking the rules. It’s a guilty pleasure that I couldn’t explain.

So when I was in university, my bestfriend invited me to study together with his friends for our finals. So I agreed, but I’ve never been to his friends’ place before. When we reached there, I was shocked. They were doing drugs in their house. Ketamine, heroin, meth, you name it. I only know it cause I studied these things in my course. What’s dissapointing is that my bestfriend is involved and also doing drugs and deal with them too. I was extremely uncomfortable and dissapointed finding out about this.

I played it cool and act chill. After awhile, I pretended to have a phone call and told my bestfriend and his friends that I got to go back. They were so into the drugs that they barely even responded to me nor notice me. I went back home, took a heavy shower. And started my plan to snitch on them.

I put on some gloves to prevent my fingerprints being exposed, wrote down the address of their home, with a small note saying there’s something suspicious there, in a different writing style than mine so no one will know it’s me. Wore my medical mask, and prop glasses, went to the police station, and I pretended to give one of the police something they “dropped” behind, which was the paper I printed. Once he took it, I immediately walked away as the police got distracted reading the paper I gave. I then simply went back home and sleep.

The next day, I went for my finals but noticed my bestfriend isn’t present. Night falls, I decided to go to his house to check. But he’s not there. His parents was there and invited me inside. They told me everything that happened from last night till afternoon on that day.

Apparently police raided the house I gave the address to while they were still on drugs. They got caught, and sent to jail. I asked my bestfriend’s parents how did the police know, and they say the police “received a paper printed with the address of the house, from a stranger”. Apparently, police didn’t bother to investigate who sent that paper, they simply look at this person as a form of harmless vigilante.

But here’s what shocked me. After few days, my bestfriend’s friends got the death sentence for owning those drugs. But my bestfriend only got jail time for decades since he doesn’t own the drugs but consume it. I’m not sure about how the technicality of the laws work really. But, 3 people’s life ended, and 1 got decades of jail time, all because of me.

I regularly visited my bestfriend in jail before and he said he regretted everything about drugs. But what he doesn’t know, is that I did this to him and his friends. His parents spent so much money on some legal stuff to lower the punishment. They managed, but, it was only lowered by few years.

I still couldn’t believe that I indirectly cause someone’s life to end and made one of them stay in jail for so long. But, I have no regrets. Laws are laws. I don’t discriminate

You don’t want to get in trouble, then simply don’t break the law

Have a nice day everyone

Should I ever call the police on my own brother?

The arguments between my brother and dad is starting to get overboard to the point that both of them are about to get physical with each other soon and I dunno what will happen next.

He has been out of job for 2 years, took a course in crypto coding kind of stuff to change jobs, and now cannot be bothered to get a job, everyday just leaching off parents at home, demanding for his meals and stuff, and giving a lot of stress to my parents.

He has other selfish spoilt brat comparison tendencies such as always trying to make sure he orders more expensive food and having more than me each time we go restaurant as a family. My parents has been catering to him the whole time everyday and things havent been going well at home.

Its getting to the point of too much on them and they are really tired of pampering this 37 year old grown ass at home who does not know how to cook his own meal at least, buy food and groceries for the family, boil water, do housework, or to make himself even the least useful for the family. He even steals my dad’s credit card to buy his own games, even though he have his own savings from working 10 years ago. Each time my dad tries to tell him off to go and get a job, they will argue big time. My brother claims hes trying to build up by self learning things at home . But we dont see it. All of us sees that he totally cannot be bothered, everyday eat sleep and play games and has not even applied for a single job. Dad and brother has been having countless of arguments recently

My brother has violent tendencies and cannot control himself when he gets mad, and since I was a kid and he had previously scratched and hit me over things when young, the scar on my chest still remains till now even 20 years later. And just now there was an argument over a small matter, brother got triggered because Dad told him off not to ask stupid questions regarding my aunt being in hospital now. And brother yelled at him first and not even respecting my dad.

No doubt he got triggered but he doesnt even have basic respect for my dad and yelling at him was clearly wrong to begin with. And they argued really badly till the point that my brother had his fist up and looked as though he wanted to punch my dad. It was really scary and emotionally traumatising for me because I really dont want anything to happen. Now dad wants to stop buying lunch, cancel his card to prevent him stealing stuff, and stop tending to him already to teach him a lesson on basic respect, after the latest argument just now.

I told my parents I would really call the police if things goes overboard. Dad was okay with it, but mum strictly refused me to do anything of that sort and told me not to get involved. And that if I call the police it would ruin his currently already ruined state of life forever. But how am I supposed to not get involved if its going to end up punching or even knives next??

I have been really emotionally worn out over this on top of all this work stress that is still ongoing with colleagues and stuff, my workplace future and stuff. I am clinging on to this stressful job so tightly because I cannot afford to lose my job or anything in this family mess as I am the only one supporting the family. I really want to walk out of all this totally.

I see most girl have a boyfriend with car. I am currently single, travel by public transport most of the time, I have no intention of buying a car in Singapore, but I see most girl seem to be attracted by guy with cars. Is having a car essential for dating? what are my chance of getting a girlfriend, if I just meet the girl in mrt station? I am in my 30s btw. Is it a must for guys to have car in my age?

Here are what netizens think:

• I have no car, I think a car boosts your chances to get a gf especially if you are young, Good luck.

• No car better, so you know at least the girl likes you for you and not your expensive materials.

• Come to think of it, there was this hype for guys to have the 5Cs in the past. But nowadays I hardly hear ppl talking abt 5Cs already.

• The problem is you’re in your 30s and still asking this kinda questions.

• No need. Find girls that drive will do.

• Find a gf who don’t need you to have a car, not a princess who has legs but can’t walk

• Girls on mrt also has bf. Just that their bf don’t need to chauffeur her around. They commute on their own.

• I prefer someone who has savings and without a car RATHER thn someone who has no savings and living with a car. If you have the means to get it also doesnt mean you need to get it unless its a neccessity such as your job requires you to have one or the workplace is out of the way. Perhaps you could start with getting a license and you could rent a car on special occassions. 

• That’s the facts now, your generation and younger generation all looking at practicality … If you no car, just stay at home and play games … you will feel better .

• Left kar and right kar. If your middle kar long enough then you can have 3 kar 

My brother-in-law 45m often demonstrates a lack of respect for personal boundaries in various ways. For instance, he insists on paying for every meal we share, even though my wife and I would prefer to split the bill. Additionally, he often engages in preaching, using grand gestures and behaviors that he cannot consistently maintain.

Recently, I organized a birthday celebration for my wife and invited nine guests, including my brother-in-law. During lunch, he offered twice to pay for the meal. He even asked again as the meal was coming to an end, and my wife also declined. Despite my explicit request not to pay, he went ahead and paid the bill of $458 at the end of the meal.

I was pretty angry and frustrated and I refused to engage in conversation with him, walking off to my car and leaving a family chat group we share in case my anger got the better of me.

Later, my wife texted him and repaid the amount through a bank transfer after some discussion with him and without discussing my feelings with me.

Since that incident occurred a month ago, my brother-in-law has been acting as if he is oblivious to the situation, calling my wife daily for casual chats. Today, I reached a breaking point and asked my wife to stop enabling this charade. I’m unsure whether he feels guilty and calls daily to see if he will learn something or if he is simply oblivious to the impact of his actions.

A few years ago, he evicted my wife from his house because she fell in love with someone he didn’t know (me, duh). This behavior was extremely egotistical and contradicted his supposed care for her (evicting someone for dating someone he doesn’t know). Since then, our relationship with him has been strained, and he often treats us in a patronizing and condescending manner, as if we are socially inferior to him.

I need advice on how to manage this guy and navigate this challenging situation. His mom and wife haven picked his side and they’re calling us names. Very immature.

Hi all, in my late 20s now and with my current bf for a year plus or so and it’s getting really depressing. I don’t know why guys put in so much effort at the start only to act like this as the relationship progresses, literally only doing the bare minimum to keep the relationship alive. I have talked to him about this multiple times and it’s getting sooooo tiring. He always changes for awhile before reverting back to his usual self with work as an excuse.

Question is should I break up with him? I feel like almost all the guys are like this and it’s also very tiring to change bf so many times. I’m so lost as to whether should I give him more time to change or should I just be decisive and break up with him?

Guys if you see this and your girlfriend is complaining that you are not loving enough please take it seriously, maybe one day we will just give up and stop complaining and that’s it.

Here are what netizens think:

• If you changed bf so many times and the end result is still the same, the problem might lie with you. It’s the choices you made and you’re probably attracted to the same category of guys. Don’t believe in words but in actions, if a man truly loves you he will show you via his actions. You won’t even need to ask if you should break up.

• when you ask question like that it is already in your mind to break up.. perhaps you should ask yourself if you want to be with a guy like that instead..if you’re tired of relationships then stop for a while a year , two years or more and rebuild yourself then when u found a good one then you start again.

• Sounds like you are the problem, why don’t you stop complaining, manage your expectations and be the loving gf that your bf deserves

• Perhaps you could work with understanding each others love languages. How he wants to love you might not be how you want to be loved. How you WISH to be loved might not be how he shows as well. since you are at your 20s, you still got a wide selection to choose from but if you take too long, you will end up also selecting the remains from the lot. End of the day, red flags being red flags jus require both parties communication, listening, working tgther to make the relationship work. Lower your expectations will allow you to have less disappointment. Sometimes the things in your head are just nonsense and stop overthinking and keep yourself busy when you are away from each other. Love yourself as much as you would love to be loved. Dont hurt your mind. Also, have a btr approach when telling him things you like or dont like, no need for lady tantrums. After some time, the guy also sian.

• It’s obvious you are demanding and you expect every single one of them to abide to your orders, you sure your father not adolf ah?