“Sorry this is gonna be quite long. I need some advice and needed some ranting.

So i have this bf, we met on dating apps and we’re together for 2 years now. I have been staying with him at his place ever since.

We have been breaking up and patching multiple of times, and his problem is that he got trust issue with me, so everywhere i go i have to take photo for him.(with who, where i am at), live location, He will also have my whatsapp web on his phone.

Mainly because when we “break up” i would download dating apps and use it thinking that we “break” and could never patch back again every single time.

I did meet new people from the datings apps here n there. But JUST MAINLY to eat, nothing else i swear on my life. But my bf he don’t believe, therefore he thinks that I cheated on him etc etc. In between those “break n patch” i’ve move back to my own place.

But now is that i’ve given birth to a baby with him. Things still happen.

Firstly, his house is like a zoo. There’s BIRDS, FISH and DOGS.

The hygiene isn’t there at the first place. Well when you think thats maybe ok. His dogs (2 dogs) are not properly trained. They pee and shit everywhere in the living room.

The birds take over the balcony and kitchen. Could you imagine cooking with the birds? Everything in the kitchen is covered with cling wrap all etc.

And cmon how worst could it be right? THE ONLY WINDOW IS AT THE BALCONY. Can you imagine the smell?

Before i even give birth i’m staying in his room all day like IMH patient. Now my baby do basically the same things as me. WAIT before yall say what why didn’t i talk to him all.

I SPOKE TO HIM BEFORE. His dogs very smelly, train his dogs all wait baby come out already whr to learn to crawl walk all. I told him i wanna move away or at least get a rental or sm shit.

He told me. “Now i don’t have the money. I also going enlist already. Cnnt wait meh?” Ya enlist. He’s 23. Say he don’t have the time to shower his dogs all come back take care baby. Guess what. Dogs belongs to him his but his mom  taking care for him buying food for the dogs all.

Wow. Nvm i told him i’ll go find jobs, there’s people willing to help me take care baby. He say he don’t trust me therefore i’m still here in his house. Waiting for him to bring back money when he didn’t even have the responsibility, he work as delivery and only 4hr a day.

I tried moved away, but he ended up threatening me. He going hurt himself all, baby is his everything (his family rs not good), I don’t want my baby not being able to see his father.

At that point of time, i still do have feelings for him and i don’t wanna lose him so i went back. but when i’m preg he kept claiming that baby not his all. FORCED me to abort, didn’t really contributed when i’m preg. But wants everything.

Secondly, his mom has the very traditional thinking. So everything that i do is WRONG TO HER. I’m now a shm. I gave my baby pacifier, his mom started nagging “why give pacifier, now baby so hard to take care. Last time i could just hug her and she’ll sleep.”

Cmon, your THIS SON DIDN’T YOU FEED HIM PACIFIER TOO? YOU’RE THE ONE TAKING CARE OR ME. Also she say don’t speak things about baby infront of baby.

Like for example “baby very cute, she very guai, her hand very small.” HIS MOM ownself say those infront of my BABY.

I mean this is my baby, i know my baby best and his mom would wants baby to sleep with her sometimes, then when baby gets fussy, she’ll starts to indirectly says me.

“Why give pacifier, see drop cry drop cry. This baby very hard to take care, keep crying. Baby dw sleep i wan to sleep.”

All nvm, i hand washed my clothes and baby’s. Washing machine spoilt. When i see she’s not drying any clothes.

I went to soak my clothes going wash the next day, but instead. She wash her bedsheet and dry it. Till now my clothes has been soaking there for 4 days. I have been re-wearing my clothes for past 3 days.

Thirdly, my bf, me and baby went out on xmas day to buy all of ours cny clothes, cause he going ns right. Guess what, he got me a shirt, i just take one from the shelves cause he were bout to pay for the clothes.

If i didn’t take any, he wouldn’t probably rmb getting for me. He spents HOURS LOOKING at his clothes and baby’s but mine?

P.s. he didn’t give me any money, i’ve talk to him before MANY times.

The money that i’ve earned when i’m preg is all used up. Buying baby’s crib all, diaper all. I tried getting from other’s but his mom said very ‘pangtan’ but them taking it from his relative?!?? So? I really don’t get it, but i couldn’t say anything. At least baby could still have it.

I’m slowly getting really exhausted, mentally tired, i really don’t know what to do. For your information, i’ve been disowned by my own mom because of him. He’s been sending message to my mom like “How do you teach your daughter to become a slut.”

And messages to me always “No wonder your father deserve to die because of you.” My father passed way before i met him. I couldn’t complete my studies and my dreams, i’ve got no one left. Friends all drifted because of him ya.

For my baby, i really need some help i guess? I really don’t know what to do anymore…

Thanks for listening to my story “

Asking for advice for a possible unlawful termination

Basically, my older brother got his first engineering job just over week ago and today he told me he had resigned.

We were devastated because we thought that him finally landed a job can mean that my mom and dad can not work as hard to make sure the light stays on (We’re pretty much completely broke).

Apparently, he was given warnings for yawning. Today he was asked to resign because he was seen as unproductive due to his yawning at work, which I think is ridiculous.

My older brother, not being well literate in employee’s rights, unknowingly wrote a resignation letter upon their request, thus rendering him unable to apply for unemployment benefits.

All I want to know is, can a company fire an employee for yawning, even though it is written in their employee’s handbook/policy?

Netizen’s comments

1. Is there evidence company asking for resignation letter? Like email etc?
   • (OP) Unfortunately, it was his manager’s mouth. This makes me think that it was not the first time they did this.
2. If they’re taking issue with his yawning they’re probably not worth working for anyway.
3. I understand you want to support your brother, but are you really sure his contract got terminated due to his yawning?
4. Sounds a bit ridiculous to me.
   Is your brother being truthful or is there something else besides the yawning?
   Even if he is, then the company actually force him to quit just for yawning, it’s not a company worth working for anyway.
5. Good that he got out of that toxic company early
6. If they said by word cant do anything bro. If there is proof of them asking your brother to resign for yawning then can do something.
7. Nb if yawning can get fired, then if fall asleep is it must sentence to death?

My husband (42M) told me (36F) he wasn’t ever attracted to me but married me because he would have “felt bad ending it”.

We’ve been together for 6 years and married for 4 years (no kids). For context, I’d be described as conventionally attractive and I take care of myself. I’m fit, athletic, well-educated and have a fun personality.

I think it’s important to mention that since there’s no glaring issue for him to feel this way. My husband is successful, charming and the type of person who gets along with everyone.

Shortly after we married, we relocated for his work. I supported this and gave up a job I liked (and essentially my career), my friends. Now I am trying to build my own business and have very little of a support system. I’m too embarrassed to tell my friends about this whole situation.

Where it gets interesting. On multiple occasions, he’s apologized for our lack of romantic life (there isn’t one to speak of and rarely has been since we’ve been together).

He’s told me it’s not normal for him and it was different with other women in the past. He’s used to being with “really beautiful women”.

He’s also said recently that he was never attracted to me in that way but didn’t want to break up with me when we first started dating. (wtf!) I told him he should have ended it then because now I live a lie and gave up everything to support him.

He also suggested multiple times we have an open relationship if I wanted to meet other men and he would even “pay” for a male escort (WTF???).

He used an old iPhone of mine a few years ago and never logged out of his icloud. I see that he still screenshots pics of his ex from IG.

He also believes that no one is really happy in their marriage and that romantic love is not something that lasts long-term…

I don’t know what to do. I had to give up my job to support his career but I never thought it would come to this. I can’t support myself with my new job yet and I don’t come from a wealthy family. He’s very successful financially.

My family and friends love him and think he’s the perfect guy. From the outside, we’re the perfect couple. But the reality is a disaster that I battle every day. My self-esteem and confidence have taken a nosedive. I could just ignore everything and live a comfortable life, but I would be living a lie.

He thinks we should stay together because “we get along in every other way”. I know no relationship is perfect, but this is so far beyond normal that I’m not sure how to deal with it. I’ve suggested therapy, but he says “that doesn’t work.” He wants to stay together and basically stay partners.

So…anyone been through this or have advice?

I (20F) am not enjoying sleeping with my bf (34M) as his D is too small

Our bedroom life isnt bad, he is good in every other regard, its just the size, length and girth. I know it probably sounds like a awful thing to say but its leaving me unsatisfied.

We cant do certain positions, it doesnt hit the right spot for me and to be honest I just wish it was a bit bigger.

When we started dating I told him it didnt bother me and that it still felt good, because at the time I didn’t think it would bother me, but 9 months in it is.

I could never say anything to him and I wouldnt even say anything to my closest friends.

Like I said, I couldn’t bring myself to say anything to him, when we first got together he was so shy and insecure about it, I built his confidence up and he has no insecurities about it anymore.

How could I now turn around and say actually im not satisfied? We have used toys, but I personally don’t enjoy toys anywhere near as much as the real thing.

Do I say something or not? I feel so conflicted because even if I do say something, it’s not his fault and he cant change it so I feel it will just cause more of a problem.

Netizens’ comments

1. Seems like you’re just not compatible with him. Some people are just not compatible bc of their preferences or ideals or body parts. It’s not anyone’s fault and sometimes you just can’t do anything about it. If you tried everything and it didn’t work, better rip the bandage off now rather than later when you are stuck mortgage and 3 kids.
2. Well, what’s the best outcome of telling him this? Like you said, he can’t change anything about it so wouldn’t this only hurt his feelings without actually changing anything?
   If you think of another solution that might work to improve, there’s possibly a way of introducing it without giving his confidence a blow. And if there isn’t another solution and this is enough reason for you to end the relationship, there are also ways of doing this without hurting his feelings/confidence.
   In short, I just think telling him this is going to do a lot of damage to someone who was already insecure about it so I would find another way, even if that means you gonna have to lie to him a little.
3. Let me make this plain for you. You’re 20 and cannot commit a lifetime to non penetration the way you want it. I feel for the guy, but it’s not your issue to take on. You need to end it immediately.

telling my wife she is my type after she bashed my taste in women?

I adore my wife. She is the best thing to ever happen to me and I can’t wait to start a family together. She is also an absolute knockout in the looks department (and knows she is).

Whenever the subject of ex’s or crushes or just talking about someone I had previously said I thought was pretty, she starts unloading on them about their looks. How she can’t figure out why I’d ever think they were attractive or that she doesn’t understand my taste in women.

This went on for a while and I never said anything because I truly don’t give a f about any of those people, only her. So what’s the point of sticking up for someone not relevant to my life? But eventually, it started to bother me. I started to feel like I was being insulted because I was ever interested in these girls.

I eventually spoke up and explained that when she’s relentlessly bashing these women, it actually makes me feel bad about myself.

Like I’ve never been with a beautiful woman and my entire dating history is disgusting. Sure, not every girl I’ve dated is a smoke show, but that wasn’t really relevant to our relationships or why they didn’t work out.

She is objectively correct about some of the exs being average or below average, but several of the them are objectively gorgeous.

It always puts me in a rock and a hard place because ultimately it doesn’t matter because they aren’t in my life and all I want is a happy life with her. But there is part of me/my ego that wants to resist because it feels so disparaging and belittling towards me.

We talked it out and she said she would stop. It never really stopped, but I just avoided the subject or agreed with whatever she said when the subject came up. Until today, when the subject came up again.

We were reminiscing about the first night we met. She had come to a bar with another guy who I thought she was dating. One of our first conversations was about mutual friends and I asked if she knew a brown haired girl that worked at her company that was cute.

Fast forward to years of dating and marriage and we can’t remember the girls name while reminiscing. We gave the ol’ Facebook a snoop and found her.

She goes right back into the bashing routine. How she can’t believe I thought she was cute and she will never understand my taste in women or my type.

I finally had enough and casually dropped, “well you’re my type so you’re grouped in with the rest of em”. She flipped out, left me at the cafe we were at and has basically given me the silent treatment for the last 24 hours.

I (25f) am too turned on and I can’t be turned off, and I can’t concentrate

So I’ve always been a aroused girl but the past 6 months or so have been much more. Especially the past month. I get so aroused that I want to touch myself at least once a day. But often up to 3 times a day.

I can’t concentrate because of it. I don’t know why this has happened to me. My bf is long distance and I’m wanting phone sx way more than he is available to.

Im worried that he thinks I want it too much. I find myself looking at pictures of his c-k all the time and thinking about getting f-d. I try to distract myself but it’s hard to concentrate

I feel kinda ashamed and embarrassed by this. Do I just have a high libido? Im very inexperienced so I’m unsure about all this. And how can I help curb the arousal so I can get on with my life more? Have any other women experienced this?

Netizens’ comments

1. I think its normal, you’re 25, and maybe you’re healthy and have a healthy/loving BF, just can’t see him as often…
   “absence makes the heart grow fonder”
   Try long walks, work out a lot, this helps me curb my absolutely raging libido.
2. I used to self pleasure three times a day when I was close to your age, it was THE WORST when I was ovulating-I used to pray I’d have the weekend off and effectively f the c-k right off my husband and self pleasure when he begged off after too much sx
3. As long as you’re taking care of your responsibilities, there’s nothing wrong with doing three times a day.
4. You’re totally fine. I’ve done the same thing with long-distance and it’s completely normal to feel the way you do. I’m 29 now and the feeling of extreme arousal still hasn’t stopped