2 weeks ago my son and his wife bought a 4 room HDB near the place i live in. After settling down they invited us for a small party for the occasion.

We sat for dinner and talked about the house a bit. I, my husband, and my daughter-in-law continued conversing after my son excused himself to take an important call. My daughter-in-law showed me the original key to the house and I asked if she made copies yet and she said no. I said she should and also give one copy to me as well. She looked at me funny and asked why she should. I explained that it is necessary so that it could be used in emergencies. she rudely said “I don’t know what kind of an emergency that would require you to have a key to our house, sure won’t be a fire incident!”. She obviously didn’t seem to have any idea that a fire incident wasn’t what I meant and I got offended by her sarcasm.

I pointed out that it’s not just her decision because this is my son’s house as well. She smiled at me trying to be polite and stated that only the ones who contributed towards the house get a copy and that I really don’t need one anyway. Also assured me that my son will have the same answer for me.

Basically saying “Don’t bother to bring this up with my son, he’ll tell you the same thing” but I did and she spoke on his behalf the entire argument repeating what she said over and over. Things escalated to her calling me pushy and me telling her she was being unnecessarily rude and disrespectful.

My husband and I left in a rush and I felt horrible. My husband went on and on about how paranoid and controlling I was to basically be “demanding” a copy of the key to the new house but again I stated that I was just trying to be helpful and taking extra precautions since anything could happen but he insisted I overstepped and ruined my son and my daughter in laws joy for their new house as well as dinner.

I genuinely do not think what I said was out of line and I’m not sure why daughter-in-law reacted so intensely. I think my request was innocent.

What do you think?

Things I wished I knew when I graduated:

1. Prepare for interviews like how you prepare for exams. I learnt this the hard way. I thought interviews were suppose to measure how good you are at doing your job, but it really doesn’t.

2. Ask for pay raise after your probation. If you are good at what you do, and better than everyone else, ask your boss for a senior/management salary. Bosses are usually not dumb, and will reward you accordingly.

3. Network well with your senior colleagues, the talented ones. Your colleague can become an executive of a unicorn, you can parachute your way there too if your relationship with them is a good one. But don’t waste too much time with people from HR, Marketing and other fluff departments, most people in these departments are gonna be completely replaced by AI soon.

4. Start side hustles. Tuition, small business & more. This tiny income streams can really snowball to a huge sum down the road.

5. Invest most of your income. Don’t keep your money rotting in bank. At least put it in cash funds, and have a sound investment plan, let AI handle it if you suck at managing finances.

6. Spend time with your family. Not your new bf/gf, but your parents & siblings. For the most of you, your parents are no longer going to be around when you finally have the time.

7. Spend less time here and on other social media platforms. And with that, you would have extra time for yourself. Nobody really cares about your daily life that you share, apart from the ones that you meet regularly.

It’s tough to be a guy in SG.

Girl don’t want to date shorter guy = Pls respect her preference

Guy don’t want to date overweight girl = Eww, you should look at the inside, not the outside. You shallow sia

Girl want a guy who can lead and take charge = It’s her preference

Guy want a girl who will submit to him and let him lead = Creepy sia, why must she be submissive, you can’t handle an independent strong woman???

Girl sets boundaries in relationship = Yes! Boundaries are important!

Guy sets boundaries in relationship = Don’t be controlling can? You insecure ah? Be more confident.

Girl’s academic and workforce progress = Feels good to be working and earning an income!

Guy’s academic and workforce progress (after 2 years NS) = Cannot la, I want a guy who already have stable income. He at this age still in uni somemore… Oh wait what? Oh yeah almost forgot guys have NS. No wonder.

Girl wants to date an older and mature guy = Her preference

Guy wants to date a younger youthful girl = Creepy sia, you feel intimidated by girls your age ah?

 the dating game has changed drastically from what it used to be. There are so many different conversations and topics that people are discussing about dating that it can be hard to keep up with them all. One of the topics that I often hear being discussed is the idea of “dating preferences”. This is when someone has a specific set of criteria that they look for in potential romantic partners. For example, someone might want to date someone who is tall, or someone who is a certain ethnicity, or someone who has a specific profession.

One of the most common preferences that I hear discussed is the preference to date someone of a certain height. For many women, there is a preference to date someone who is taller than they are. This preference has become so widely accepted that it has even been joked about in movies and television shows. However, for those of us who are shorter than the average height, this preference can be incredibly hurtful.

As someone who has experienced this type of discrimination firsthand, I can tell you that it’s not something to be taken lightly. It can be incredibly discouraging to hear that someone isn’t interested in you simply because of your physical attributes. It can make you feel like your worth is being judged by something as arbitrary as your height.

That being said, I understand why some women may have this preference. For some women, it may be that they feel more comfortable with someone larger than them. They may feel safer, or more protected. Or, it could be because they simply prefer the way someone looks when they are taller. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that it’s ultimately up to the individual to decide what they are looking for in a partner.

That’s why it’s important to respect a woman’s preference when it comes to height. While it may be tough to hear that someone doesn’t want to date you because of your height, it’s important to remember that it’s ultimately her decision. It’s not personal, and it’s not something that should be taken personally.

On the other hand, the same respect should be given to men when it comes to physical attributes. Just as a woman has the right to decide that she doesn’t want to date someone who is shorter than her, a man has the right to decide that he doesn’t want to date someone who is overweight. This is not to say that men are shallow or selfish for having this preference – it’s simply their individual preference.

That being said, I do think that it’s important to look at the bigger picture. While physical attributes may be one of the criteria that someone looks for in a potential partner, it shouldn’t be the only deciding factor. After all, physical attributes are only one part of who someone is. It’s important to look beyond the physical and get to know someone for who they truly are as a person.

I remember when I was a teenager, I used to really care about my height. I was taller than most of my friends, and I noticed that the guys around me tended to be shorter. I felt like I was a giant, towering over everyone, and I was always self-conscious about it.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that height is just a number, and it doesn’t really matter. What matters is the type of person you are. I’ve noticed that the shorter guys tend to have bigger egos, and I think it stems from their insecurity about their height.

I remember one time I was out with a friend who was a few inches shorter than me. We were in a bar, and he was talking to a girl who was a few inches shorter than him. He was so arrogant and condescending to her, and I could tell that he was trying to make himself feel better about his height. It was so obvious that he was compensating for his lack of height.

It’s really sad to see men like that, because they’re so focused on their own egos that they’re missing out on meaningful relationships. Instead, they’re just trying to boost their own egos by putting down other people. And it’s not just short guys who do this – tall guys can be just as bad.

It’s really annoying when guys act like this, and I try to stay away from them as much as possible. I’m happy with my height, and I’m not interested in dating someone who’s insecure about his. I want someone who’s comfortable with who he is and doesn’t need to put other people down in order to feel better about himself.

I know that height isn’t everything, and I’m not interested in dating a guy just because he’s tall. I’m looking for someone who has a good heart, a great sense of humor, and who is confident in himself. That’s the type of man I want to be with, no matter how tall or short he is.

So, to all the guys out there who are insecure about their height, don’t worry. It doesn’t matter how tall or short you are – if you’re a good person, that’s all that matters. Be confident in yourself and don’t let your ego get in the way of finding true love.

i broke up with my girlfriend because of our differences in love languages. Am i wrong?

For context, she is 3 years older than me , working a job that has time flexibility whereas Im serving the nation, but headed towards university this coming intake.

We do love each other still, I do love her, i really do. But we always argue on how often I am spending time with her. I am pretty busy: with my own bills i need to pay, and I am someone who enjoys personal time, serving the country wtv,. To her, spending time = i love you, (quality time lover) but for me as long as she reassures me and makes me feel secure = i love you. (Words of affirmation). We have argued multiple times on how often i should be seeing her on a weekly basis, we tried to compromise 3 times and after everything it still doesnt work out, its like im not even enough for her. On some days she can tell me things like “you know, i feel very distant from you, i dont feel love from you at all” . – thats when i feel helpless, I already hardly spend time alone, something i value alot, and if she’s busy im spending time with my friends. Maybe its a skill issue on balancing things but she does stay quite far (east)and i stay west. Which overtime became wuite taxing to find her, furthermore she doesnt drive so it would be easier for me to go down to find her. And usually we hang out till late where public transport is not an option at all, and it would be easier and cheaper for me to go down to her.

I eventually broke up with her while i still love her. My reason was being that we don’t perceive love the way we want it to be, i could be reassuring her and giving her words of affirmation but its not as well received as she just wants to spend time, something i don’t have at this point in my life. And furthermore, we discussed on me entering university. She said that no matter how much I reassure her, she will still feel insecure and I did discuss on potential problems and solutions as well, but we cant seem to come up with solutions. Long story short, the way she feels love is different from how I show her love. Dont get me wrong, i still love her and really want to be with her, but I strongly feel like she deserves someone who can give her what she NEED. We just cant seem to be on the same page on this. Hence I broke up with her as I felt like we are in different phases in our lives and I cant give her what she needs, and love language isnt something that can be changed like that, it is a personality nonetheless.

I feel like Im doing the right thing by letting her go, and I didnt cut her off immediately, I am still talking to her and try to rationalise why I broke up with her , she still don’t seem to get why… and im trying to help her, or at least i think i am. I don’t want to cut her off because i do still care and love her, and I want her to take this break up easier, if that makes sense, where i can just be her support if needed . Which is why im conflicted, am i helping her or killing her. I did mention to her that im doing this not to give her false hope, and im just there for support in the time being. I dont know how to handle this. I have never broken up with someone i still do love. What should i do? Am i doing the right thing? Im lost, help.

My BF (25M) told me (23F) that men are too tired after finishing in bed

My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year and are living together. He is the most caring man and he is far from a misogynist.

We had a discussion one day talking about male and female frustrations while dating. I think I brought up how frustrating it is for men to not try in bed to make the woman finish.

He said that men would love to play as long as they can, but after they finish they get so tired and are not interested anymore. This seems so selfish to me, but I didn’t really fight back on that.

Yesterday, we f-ed in the morning and he finished and I could tell he didn’t want to continue playing (to be fair I didn’t ask him to, and in the past he has continued after he’s finished if I ask but I HAVE to ask otherwise he won’t even if I’m being physically obvious that I still want it).

I thought back to that thing he said and I was annoyed but I told myself that if I won’t ask for it I can’t really be mad at him because mavbe he just doesn’t know I want it even if I think I’m being obvious.

I went to the shower and finished myself. Then throughout the morning he was not listening to me. He would start watching videos as I was speaking to him.

We both do this sometimes and we’ve talked about it before calmly and we try not to get worked up about it because it’s unintentional.

But it set me off yesterday and I was so angry at him and needed to take space (I just went to get ready for the day).

He noticed I was upset and asked me to talk about it, asked to wait so I didn’t respond angrily and could talk about it calmly.

Later when I brought it up he immediately said “I WAS listening” which shut me down. He apologized for that response.

I think his perspective on intimacy is what triggered me most yesterday and the other things then bothered me more than they usually would.

Our discussion happened a while ago though. I just need to know if I’m in the wrong for thinking his view point is selfish? And I need advice on how to get through this argument we’ve had