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BF MOVED INTO GF HOUSE & PROMISE TO HELP WITH BILLS, THEN QUITS JOB WITH NO BACKUP PLAN

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My (26F) boyfriend (27M) abruptly quit his job with no backup plan.

A year ago my boyfriend moved in with me, to house that I own and am currently paying a mortgage on with the agreement that he would contribute weekly for bills and groceries. He also has a car loan.

A few months ago he expressed concerns to me that his workplace was heading in a bad direction and he was unhappy with the new management they had introduced.

I encouraged him to start looking for a new job while working at his current one, but also warned him that there is a recession looming, and leaving solid employment is a very risky move.

He agreed with me that he would start to look for a new job, however he never did. Of course, 6 weeks later the job had become unbearable for him mentally so he handed in his resignation with no new job lined up.

We are now almost 7 weeks into him being unemployed and unable to even land an interview, the car loan has completely eaten his savings and he is no longer contributing to groceries and bills.

I have had to lend him money to keep him from defaulting on his car loan, and money to pay for his pet’s medical bills.

I am financially struggling to lend him this money as I’ve been hit hard cost of living. I expect to have to loan him more money again soon.

I want to make clear that all other aspects of our life are great. He treats me with all the love and care in the world and is the absolute best part of my day.

However the seeds of doubt have been planted in my head. I have had many weeks to think about what happened and come to the conclusion that I feel hurt by his decision.

I feel he did not take me into consideration at all, and did not think of the consequences on both of us if he was to just walk away from his job.

I am at a crossroads in my life, my options are to ride the lightning and hope he finds a job soon, but potentially have this mistrust and doubt hanging over me forever.

The 2nd option is to end the relationship and move back in with my family and try to rebalance my financials to weather the oncoming recession.

Is a situation like this cause enough for a breakup of an otherwise healthy relationship?

GUY CAUGHT HIS GF SECRETLY SWIPING ON DATING APPS, FRIEND FOUND HER PROFILE THERE

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Need your guys’ opinions as I’m really at a loss of what to do

My girlfriend and I have been together since our primary school days and we were having sex almost every other day. One day, my best friend told me he browsed Tinder and Bumble and saw my girlfriend profile in them.

At first, I don’t believe his words and thought that my best friend was just making a joke as we had been together for almost 18 years.

But on one particular day, I walked past my girlfriend whom was sitting at the living room, I saw her swiping on Tinder and as soon as she saw me, she faster force close the app and then act as if nothing had happened and continue to browse her Instagram.

I didn’t confront her about this as I thought she was just influenced by her girl friends and try out dating apps due to boredom, but oh boy I was wrong.

Ever since that incident, she started to create excuse like menses and not wanting to meet me because of bla bla bla. Do you guys think that she might be cheating on me?

Netizens’ comments

  1. Oh yeah. She’s definitely trying to upgrade on you. There’s nothing to do. It is what it is. You can confront her but the outcome wouldn’t be good.
  2. You gf is not worth the grief. If she have two profiles on dating apps there’s probably 5 other you don’t know of. Tell her to f off and keep your dignity
  3. Leave her bro. Dont be a cuckbeta. It hurts but you’ll do much better in a year or two. Most of us have been thru women cheating. Its just not worth your time and the prolonged suffering. Let her go get pregnant with some loser on tinder bro. Mgtow. Or you can nut in her and then leave her
    Be the one on tinder, not the one being tindered son. literally. There are better women out there that are not hoes.
  4. That’s something that only your gf can answer. Still nothing warrants getting cheated on, without the decency to let you know things are not working out. I say you dodge a bullet, imagine she doing this when you guys are married and have kids

BF USES TIMER WHEN PIAK PIAK, TELLS GF “I GIVE YOU 5 MINS TO FINISH OR I’M GOING TO SLEEP”

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My (f28) boyfriend sometimes uses a timer when we F – has this happened to anyone else here?

My boyfriend (m28) and I (f28) have been together a little more than a year. I love him very much and want it to work, but one thing that has increasingly worn on me over time is a general disinterest from him in my pleasure.

In the beginning of the relationship, we had usually little to no foreplay, quickly getting into penetration, and then him finishing and rolling over to fall asleep – basically, intercourse was over when he came, even though I hadn’t gotten off at all.

This kept happening so I talked to him about it, and he said he would do better and put in more effort to help me finish.

After that, there were times when he would actually attempt to make me come. The problem is, though, he never seems to be enjoying it at all, and he acts like it’s kind of a chore.

One thing he started doing some of the time, for example, is setting a timer on his phone when he starts to finger me. He’ll say like, “alright, I’m giving you 5 minutes to come” or “I’m giving you 8 minutes to come, and if it doesn’t happen before the time is up I’m going to sleep.”

This makes me feel awful and like the least desirable person in the world tbh, and it’s not even fun at that point because it feels like he has no interest/enthusiasm in doing it in the first place.

It also makes it harder to finish bc I feel under pressure and like I’m racing against a clock, which I’ve told him.

My question is has this (or something similar) happened to anyone else? I really don’t know what to make of it. I feel like he must obviously not be attracted to me, or something along those lines.

People tell me I’m attractive, with previous partners we’ve always been really enthusiastic to give pleasure to each other, and it doesn’t really take me a particularly long time to finish – I don’t get it.

He tells me he loves me and wants a family with me one day, but I just don’t really see how you can love someone and not want to/care about making them feel good.

What would you make of the timer thing? I’ve also asked him if he could go down on me more often because I suck him pretty regularly, but he almost always will just give an excuse and say he’s too tired.

He’s gone down on me maybe 5 times in the last year. I’d be totally fine w/ it if it just isn’t his thing, but he consistently says he enjoys doing it, which makes me feel like he just doesn’t enjoy doing it on me.

Grateful for any advice or similar experiences you’ve been through.

HUSBAND DON’T WANT TO RISK HAVING KIDS SO HE LETS WIFE SLEEP WITH OTHER MEN INSTEAD

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My (29F) husband (30M) says I can sleep with other people instead of him if I want to get intimate physically, I’m heartbroken but don’t know what to do.

His reason is there’s always a non-zero chance of having kids and we’re not ready for kids. This is a nonsense reason.

I asked him what about I have a non zero chance of getting pregnant if I sleep with other people, he says then it won’t be solely his responsibility.

He is loving otherwise and we cuddle a lot. He does most if not all the chores too. It breaks my heart that he doesn’t want to sleep with me and gives these reasons.

He thinks we can just have a marriage without any physical intimacy. It’s not like he has zero libido because he admits to touching himself to adult videos. Does this warrant a divorce?

Netizens’ comments

  1. If you want a divorce that warrants all the reason you need to get a divorce. If he doesn’t want to sleep with you and you can’t go without then yeah there needs to be a compromise or yeah divorce becomes a very realistic option. Honestly it would seem like something you might want to bring up to him.
  2. That’s either some serious health/pregnancy anxiety or just bs and he doesn’t want to sleep with you.
    If it’s a form of anxiety or addiction to adult videos, it could be treated, but he’d have to admit he needs it and follow through.
    I do think you should get a divorce, but …please whatever you do, do not do what he’s suggesting. He’s also essentially told you that he will not take responsibility if you get pregnant. He’d probably leave, I’d bet.
  3. That’s unfortunate. First of all, while no birth control is EXACTLY 100% preventative… there are TONS of options out there to choose from, some of which are EXTREMELY effective – even more effective if you use multiple methods simultaneously. If he’s incredibly squeamish about not wanting to use methods A, B, or C, all the way through X, Y or Z, then there may be another issue that he’s using this as an excuse to mask. Sometimes it’s easier to lie and say “it’s a ME thing, not a YOU thing” than it is to just say something that you think is really going to hurt someone else.

WORKER REPORTED MISSING IN COLLAPSED TANJONG PAGAR WORKSITE FOUND DEAD UNDER RUBBLE

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Update: The missing worker has been found pinned under a collapsed reinforced concrete structure, with no pulse and wasn't breathing. He was subsequently pronounced dead.

An incident occurred this afternoon at a construction site situated at 1 Bernam Street in Tanjong Pagar, involving the collapse of a building structure.

According to reports, one worker is currently missing in the incident, with the collapsed structure being part of a building that was undergoing demolition activities a the time.

The Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF) was notified of the incident on June 15 at approximately 2 pm and at present, SCDF personnel are at the scene to conduct investigations as well as trying to locate the missing worker.

The Straits Times reported that about 11 emergency vehicles and 70 rescuers were deployed to the site of the collapsed structure, including firefighters, rescue workers and emergency medical workers.

The area around Bernam Street off Anson Road has also been cordoned off from the public.

In an update provided at 4 pm, SCDF announced that officers from Marina Bay Fire Station and members of the elite Disaster Assistance and Rescue Team (DART) are actively engaged in search operations to locate the missing worker.

To aid in the search efforts within an area spanning approximately 20 meters by 10 meters, two SCDF search canines have also been deployed.

SCDF’s statement

[Collapsed Structure Incident @ 1 Bernam Street]

On 15 June 2023 at about 2 p.m., SCDF was alerted to an incident involving a collapsed structure at the abovementioned location. The collapsed structure is at a building site undergoing demolishing works.

SCDF is currently at scene investigating.

SCDF’s updated statement

[Update 1: Collapsed Structure Incident @ 1 Bernam Street]

SCDF officers from 1st SCDF Division, Marina Bay Fire Station and rescuers from the elite Disaster Assistance and Rescue Team (DART) are currently at scene conducting search operations to locate a worker who was reported missing.

Two SCDF search canines have also been deployed to assist in the search in an area of about 20 metres by 10 metres.

SCDF’s second update

[Update 2: Collapsed Structure Incident Along Bernam Street]

Following an intensive search operation, a worker who was earlier reported missing, was sighted to be pinned under the collapsed reinforced concrete structure around 1800hrs. The worker had no pulse and not breathing.

The SCDF immediately conducted cutting and breaking operations to free the casualty. The operation also required the Disaster Assistance and Rescue Team (DART) personnel to dig their way through the rubble to create space and assess where parts of the body may have been trapped. This was further complicated due to the weight of the concrete slab which was in excess of 50 tonnes (estimated) as well as mangled scaffolding around the body.

The casualty was finally freed after nearly four hours around 2145hrs. He was pronounced dead at the scene by a paramedic.

Earlier in the search operation, CCTV footages from the surrounding buildings were obtained by the Police to assist in the assessment of the situation. A fibre optic scope, life detection equipment and search canines were also deployed to detect for signs of life. The operation involved the coordinated use of heavy machinery from the construction site as well as rescue equipment to cut and lift the reinforced concrete slab.

11 SCDF emergency vehicles and about 70 personnel, including rescuers from the DART were deployed at the scene for this operation.

Images source: SCDF and Complaint Singapore Unrestricted on Facebook

JOCELYN CHIA HITS BACK AT M’SIA POLICE, CALLS THEM “RIDICULOUS” FOR INVOLVING INTERPOL

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Singapore comedian Jocelyn Chia, otherwise known as public enemy number one in Malaysia, has responded to reports that the Malaysian police were seeking the assistance of Interpol to identify and locate her.

Speaking to the BBC, she described the whole situation as “overblown” and “ridiculous”.

According to a report published on June 13 by Bernama, Malaysia’s government news agency, local law enforcement authorities were planning to seek the assistance of Interpol, the international organization responsible for facilitating cooperation between various police agencies, in order to identify and locate Jocelyn Chia.

In a previous interview with CNN, the comedian clarified that her joke had been taken out of context in a brief video clip that was edited and shared on social media.

Regarding the involvement of Interpol, during her conversation with BBC, Chia emphasized that her intention was never to mock the tragic incident involving MH370, but rather to find a way to infuse humor into it.

She amusingly remarked, “I just wish I could have seen the face of the Interpol officer who received this request.”

“Honestly, if Interpol does do something about this request and things escalate, can you imagine how famous it is going to make me?”

On the alleged request from the Malaysian Police, Interpol stated that they have yet to receive any request for help from them, yet.

Recap

Singapore-born comedian Jocelyn Chia, known for her recent stand-up comedy show in the United States, has sparked a significant debate on the boundaries of comedic material.

In a video clip lasting 89 seconds, shared on Instagram, Chia addressed the ongoing rivalry between Singapore and Malaysia.

She made references to the separation of Singapore from Malaysia in 1965, joking about Singapore’s subsequent development into a First World country while suggesting that Malaysia remained a developing nation.

Chia’s comedic set also included a reference to the Malaysia Airlines plane MH370, which went missing in March 2014 en route to Beijing from Kuala Lumpur.

Acknowledging the sensitive nature of the tragedy, Chia stated that certain jokes, like the disappearance of the plane, do not “land well”.

The video clip received criticism from Malaysians, with radio broadcaster Kudsia Kahar expressing offense and asserting that a good stand-up comedian should avoid turning tragedies into jokes.

ANGMOH FINED FOR SMACKING WOMAN’S BUTT WHILE SHE BENT OVER TO CLEAN TABLE @ ZOUK

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A 40-year-old Swiss man, identified as Ramon Taboada Souza Neto, recently found himself in trouble during his visit to Singapore.

The incident occurred on April 1, 2023, at Zouk, a popular establishment in Singapore where the victim, a 39-year-old employee referred to as a “table hostess,” was working in the VIP section.

The victim, who wishes to remain anonymous due to legal reasons, was performing her duties, cleaning a table, when Ramon approached her from behind.

Without her consent, he proceeded to slap her left buttock with his right hand. This act was caught on Zouk’s surveillance cameras.

The victim swiftly turned around, catching Ramon in the act. Realizing what had happened, she immediately informed Zouk’s security officers about the incident.

A security officer approached Ramon for questioning, but instead of cooperating, he attempted to flee the premises.

However, Zouk’s security team managed to detain him outside, promptly contacting the police at approximately 3:31 am. One of the security officers told the police when calling for help, saying that there was “a molest case. Detained him and he is trying to run. Victim is with us.”

The authorities arrived at the scene and took Ramon into custody. He was released on S$1,000 bail on the same day.

Subsequently, on June 12, 2023, Ramon pleaded guilty to the charge of outrage of modesty. The district judge presiding over the case imposed a fine of S$4,000 as punishment.

During the mitigation plea, Ramon’s defense lawyer, Navin Naidu from Dentons Rodyk & Davidson, emphasized that his client had no previous criminal record.

Naidu argued that Ramon’s actions were a result of excessive alcohol consumption, although a blood sample obtained more than 10 hours after the incident revealed no traces of alcohol. Naidu suggested that the alcohol might have already been metabolized by that time.

To demonstrate Ramon’s remorse, Naidu highlighted that his client had written an apology letter to the victim on April 23, 2023.

The defense lawyer also mentioned that Ramon was eager to return to his family in Switzerland, as his wife was expecting their fourth child. The incident had forced Ramon to remain in Singapore for over 70 days, causing significant stress for him.

S’PORE MAN KILLED IN PHILIPPINES AFTER BEING SHOT IN THE HEAD, SUSPECTED ASSASINATION

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66-year-old Singaporean businessman, Chan Kim Tay, was killed after being shot in the head on MOnday in the Batangas province of Manila, Phillipines; in what is suspected to be an assasination.

The victim had recently finished his errands at a public market in Lian town and was en route home at approximately 6 p.m. on Monday.

At that moment, an unidentified individual approached him and fatally shot him in the head, as confirmed by Sergeant Arthur Rosales, the assigned case officer, according to the Straits Times.

Following the attack, Mr. Chan was conveyed to a nearby hospital in Nasugbu town. However, despite the efforts made, he was declared dead upon arrival.

Police chasing leads

The police are currently reviewing surveillance footage from the vicinity of the crime scene in hopes of identifying the perpetrator. Sergeant Rosales also further stated that investigators are pursuing several leads, including the possibility of a domestic conflict being the motive for Mr. Chan’s murder, as well as the potential involvement of a contract killer.

Having resided in the Philippines for around three decades, Mr. Chan had established deep roots in the country. He was married to Mrs. Marife Chan, a 49-year-old Filipino, and together they had three children aged 28, 17, and 7.

According to Sgt. Rosales, Mrs. Chan has provided her statement to investigators, indicating that her husband did not possess any known adversaries nor engage in any recent altercations. Witnesses have also informed the authorities that Mr. Chan mostly kept to himself as he had never acquired fluency in Tagalog, the local language.

Not the first Singaporean shot in Philippines

Regrettably, this is not the first incident of its kind involving a Singaporean citizen residing in the Philippines. In August 2015, Mr. Stanley Jang, a 36-year-old manager of a computer company, was similarly attacked. He was shot in the face by two individuals while working inside his cubicle in Paranaque city, situated south of Manila.

In the case of Mr. Jang, his widow informed the police that he had been receiving death threats related to a business dispute prior to his untimely demise.

Image source: Philippines Police

MAN EATEN ALIVE BY TIGER SHARK IN EGYPT RESORT, SCREAMS FOR “PAPA” AS HE DIES

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A 23-year-old Russian man, Vladimir Popov, was seen in horrifying videos that emerged online being eaten alive and maulted to death by a tiger shark at the Red Sea resorts in Egypt.

Disturbing footage captured from the beach portrays the horrifying moments as the man screamed “papa” while being attacked. This incident has prompted the closure of a significant stretch of coastline by Egyptian authorities.

The victim, a 23-year-old Russian national named Vladimir Popov, had been enjoying a swim in the waters near his resort close to the city of Hurghada.

Suddenly, a tiger shark emerged from beneath the water’s surface and seized him, subjecting him to a vicious attack. The sheer brutality of the incident forced the Egyptian authorities to impose a closure on a 74-kilometer section of the coastline, with the restriction set to remain in effect until Sunday.

Vladimir’s father, who witnessed the attack from the shore, shared his harrowing experience. Mr. Popov expressed how they had come to the beach seeking relaxation.

He recounted the horrifying incident, saying, “My son was attacked by a shark; it all happened in seconds. What kind of help can you give? This meat grinder happened in 20 seconds; he was just dragged under the water.”

The grieving father also mentioned the unusual nature of the attack, as the beach was considered safe, with the presence of ships and yachts. He expressed his disbelief, stating, “It’s never happened there. They usually attack on wild beaches. It’s just some kind of evil fate.”

A nearly minute-long video capturing the brutal shark attack circulated on various platforms. The footage shows the victim being abruptly pulled underwater by the shark, resurfacing momentarily to desperately fend off the predator.

The water around him soon turned red, indicating the severity of the attack. Throughout the video, the victim can be heard screaming “papa” and crying out loudly as the shark continues to circle and launch further assaults. At one point, a witness remarks, “It is eating his remains now,” while a small ship sails in the distance.

Following the incident, Egypt’s environment ministry took immediate action. They managed to capture the shark responsible for the attack and transported it to a laboratory for examination. The aim is to determine the underlying factors that led to this rare and tragic event. Images shared on social media depict the lifeless, bloodied shark lying on a sheet of land.

Shark attacks are infrequent in the coastal regions of the Red Sea. In 2022, two fatal attacks occurred in Hurghada within days, claiming the lives of an Austrian and a Romanian tourist.

Tiger sharks, known for their size, inhabit tropical and temperate waters and have been frequently mentioned by the International Shark Attack File in relation to unprovoked attacks on humans.

You can watch the video here. (Warning: Graphic content, viewer discretion is advised)

7 ARRESTED FOR RIOTING @ CLUB GAGA, FIGHT UNTIL BEER TOWER FLY & 1 IN HOSPITAL

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On June 12, the police arrested seven men, aged between 23 and 49, in connection with a case of rioting that took place at Jalan Besar. The five were officially charged on June 14.

According to court records, the 5 men who were charged are alleged to have punched and thrown a beer tower and glasses during the fight over a dispute, with the intent to cause harm to 4 other people.. The incident unfolded at Club Gaga, located in Sim Lim Tower.

Police were alerted to the reported brawl between two groups at approximately 12:50 am on June 12. Among those involved, a 29-year-old man suffered multiple lacerations on his lips and chin, before being sent to the hospital conscious.

Initial inquiries have indicated that the altercation originated from an earlier dispute, although the specific cause has not been disclosed in either the police’s press release or the court documents.

Additionally, the police also said that two other men are currently assisting with the ongoing investigation.

If convicted of rioting, the five men could potentially face a maximum prison sentence of seven years and may also be subjected to caning as a punitive measure.

Singapore’s Police Force’s press release

SEVEN MEN ARRESTED FOR RIOTING

The Police have arrested seven men, aged between 23 and 49, for their suspected involvement in a case of rioting.

On 12 June 2023 at about 12.50am, the Police were alerted to a case of an alleged fight between two groups along Jalan Besar. A 29-year-old man sustained multiple lacerations on his lips and chin and was conveyed conscious to the hospital. Preliminary investigations revealed that the altercation arose after an alleged dispute which happened earlier.

Through ground enquiries and with the aid of images from Police cameras, officers from Central Police Division established the identities of the persons involved and arrested them.

Five men, aged between 23 and 49 will be charged in court on 14 June 2023 with the offence of rioting under Section 147 of the Penal Code 1871. The offence of rioting carries an imprisonment term of up to seven years, and caning. Two other men are assisting with investigations. Police investigations are ongoing against all parties involved.

The Police will spare no effort to apprehend those who commit violence and will take firm action against them in accordance with the law.

PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT
SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE
13 June 2023 @ 6:00 PM