Car sharing (shariot) damage quote 10x, what should I do?

I accidentally pump diesel (5LTR- my bad I knowww) instead of petrol on my car rental. I was rushing to return back the car and did not notice until the cashier inform me at shell station.

I did not start the car after pumping in the diesel and immediately called shariot. They took the car and quoted 1300 for a clean and flash of petrol tank as well as replacement of fuel filter and pump for $300. (Note: didn’t start car, so not required)

Overall they also quote 3 day loss of use: 450. Tow is 120 Total 2.3k damage But when I check outside workshop, they quote as below:

Fuel clean and flush: 150
Tow: 60

Ready in 1 day How can I dispute and ask shariot to understand the exorbitant cost and have any one got into this issue?? Any advise please:(

Netizens’ comments

1. In my 20 years of driving, I’ve only heard of people accidentally pumping petrol into diesel vehicles. You should have extended the rental and sorted it out yourself instead of informing them. I doubt there’s anything you can do other than pay the cost.
2. How the hell? I thought diesel nozzles were larger than the petrol ones and wouldn’t fit nicely into petrol cars. How’d you manage to do that?
   Either way, just pay the fine. If you want to dispute, it’ll be a civil case and you’re gonna pay more for a lawyer.
3. Sad to inform you that a big part of revenue for these car sharing companies comes from such accidents. They hope their users gets into accidents so that they can hand out ridiculous charges. Nothing much you can do since you already accepted tnc before usage.
4. I’m surprised you never pump Slurpee into the tank lol

New hire makes $20k more than me

Welp that just about does it for me. I’ve posted here before about this bs job I’ve stumbled upon and the absolute BS I have to put up with in it but today might have just signed it off for me.

So I’ve been at this job like a year and a half. Recently we hired a new person to do my exact same job at another company branch.

Being the senior analyst, I got sent over to train said new hire today. In the course of discussion, I ask him what they started him out at to which he replies very nonchalantly, “Like about 82k.”

I’m sitting there stunned. Legitimately. Right now I’m sitting at 65k. My coworker is at 62k. Never in my life have I ever felt so betrayed by a company.

I’m glad for the new guy. He’s super cool and does great work, but I was just left feeling so upset. I don’t even know what to do. Part of me wants to just walk in tomorrow and quit outright, and part of me knows I can’t afford to do that. What a damned horrible feeling.

Netizens’ comments

1. Start looking for a new job. Thats the only thing you can do bc if they’re underpaying you, they are doing it on purpose and it’s gonna take a lot for you to even get a 10k raise, better off just putting that energy towards interviewing elsewhere
2. That’s when you update your resume. It really seems to be alot easier ( relatively speaking of course ) to find a new job than to pry a decent raise out of a current employer
3. At least try to ask for a raise. Just be prepared to leave if they don’t approve. You know it’s in their budget now.
4. New hire is market rate, you are an old rate. They aren’t just going to bump you up, you either need to push for market rate or go to the market.
5. Get a competing offer and prove market value, the company will most likely match. Don’t be upset at the company or the new hire. The fact that you came here to bitch instead of writing your resume tells me the company was right in paying you the minimum to keep you, and you likely can’t do better on the open market.
   You got two choices, accept it and go back to work tomorrow and stop screwing with your career, or go get a better offer in hand and prove me and your company wrong.

My bf (30M) wants to break up with me (25F) after almost 5 years because he wet the bed.

Last night my boyfriend went out with his friends and got back around 1:30am. I was already asleep but he woke me up when he got home so I know he was drunk when he got back.

This morning I wake up to the blanket I’m using soaking wet. I thought it was a dream but nope. I smelt it because I thought water fell of the shelf at first, nope. It was unmistakably pee.

I wake my boyfriend up and very calmly and gently ask him to check if he wet the bed. His mom told me previously that years ago he’d come home drunk and wet the bed and that’s why his old mattress was pretty much black.

Disgusting. I was very nice and cautious as to not hurt his feelings or embarrass him if he was unaware.

He wakes up groggy and mad that I woke him and says he didn’t. I checked my pants and the middle is dry so I’m very confused. The dog hasn’t had an accident in the house since he was a puppy so I know it’s not him.

I wake my bf up and tell him the beds wet, something happened. He denies it again and gets mad saying he only had 45 more minutes to sleep before work. I threw the blanket off me and to his side. It’s clearly wet.

When I sat up I see that he has laid down two shirts under him. I jolted out of bed and realized my pants on my hip are also soaked. I see a pair of boxers in the garbage.

I cannot believe what I’m experiencing. This man wet the bed in the middle of the night, and instead of cleaning it up he put down two thin tshirts and left me to sleep in his piss. I woke up covered in his pee!!

He then says admits he did but won’t let go of the fact that he doesn’t have much time left to sleep and starts calling me awful names. I asked why he didn’t clean it up when he realized and he acted like it wasn’t his job to clean it.

“You wet the bed, are still laying in it, and left me in it too!” I’m not yelling because his family outside (we’re at his house) but I’m obviously very annoyed.

And instead of taking any responsibility for it, no apology, no reason, no promise of cleaning it, instead of doing the mature thing, he breaks up with me. Tells me he’s finally single and he doesn’t have to put up with my fat @ss anymore.

He goes on a whole tirade about how fat I am. I don’t think I’m thin by any means. But I’ve been actively dieting, exercising, and doing intermittent fasting for the past few months and I’ve lost weight

He said such awful things to me, I just kept telling him to get up, get a bag, put the sheets in the washer, clean this, I’ll help you, how are you just sleeping in it?!”

But he just kept hurling insults at me. “Look at your fat face, your chin is shaking every time you talk. Your so ugly. I can clean this up in a minute but you’ll still be fat. I’m done with you, I’m not coming home tonight, I’m single.

I’m trying very hard to be understanding because I get that he’s embarrassed. But he was just saying so many mean things that I started crying. I told him I understand he’s embarrassed but we just need to fix the situation now.

He then took pictures of me crying so I took a video of him in a good damn puddle. He told me he’s not taking the sheets down while his parents are home and I better not tell them what happened.

I feel like I’m crazy, how is it my fault? He told me to lay down till his parents left so I changed my clothes and used baby wipes to clean off any wet areas that were on me. And I laid down in the dogs bed. Which prompted more mean comments about how that’s where I belong.

After he left the room I balled the sheets and comforter up. He told me to leave it until he came home but I have work today and can’t leave without losing thousands of dollars so I need the bed clean and he just won’t do it.

Before I moved them he literally sprayed cologne on them like that was a fix. I asked about the mattress cuz he doesn’t have a mattress protecter and he said he’ll flip it. He won’t. And that’s disgusting.

The morning ended with me on the dog bed crying, being called fat, being told I’m single now, and with a grown man’s urine soaked sheets to clean. I just want to scream.

Was I wrong for being upset? I tried to be understanding when I thought it was an accident but he left me in it and didn’t see and issue. And when confronted he lashed out and hurt met feelings because he was embarrassed. What could I have done differently, if anything? I don’t want to break up but maybe if we do it’ll be good.

My (25M) girlfriend (23F) has felt hurt by my family. And has given me an ultimatum. Her or my family. What do I do?

I’ve dated my girlfriend for 3 years. We have a home together and a beautiful dog. Our relationship has been happy in many aspects.

But one place where it’s not is my moms side of the family. Specifically my grandma and aunt and uncle. When I first introduced her to my family. My mom loved her but everyone else seemed stand offish towards her.

Later they started to say rude things like “you’re disgusting” or “I’m embarrassed for him dating you” amongst other things.

Unfortunately this went on for far too long and without me doing anything concrete to stop it. I instead tried to mediate it between my girlfriend and family to make everyone more comfortable.

But instead it made my girlfriend feel isolated and abandoned. Like I was choosing my family over her. Which caused a big divide between us.

Now after multiple attempts to fix things and to get everyone on the same page. My family was willing to move on and put things in the past.

But my girlfriend feels like she has been too wronged for so long that nothing will truly change. Now she has given me a choice.

Her. Or the family that mistreated her.

I never wanted to be in a position like this. I never wanted to choose between my family and her. What should I do here? Do I tell my family off and leave them for good?

Netizens’ comments

1. I’m sorry, what does your family have to move on from and put in the past? Did your girlfriend call them disgusting? Did your girlfriend tell them how embarrassing they were? THEY are the ones who did her wrong and treated her like crap, and they – and you – owe her an apology. They don’t get to be jerks to your girlfriend for years and then pretend like it didn’t happen.
2. So they are willing to “put it in the past” which means nothing as they were the ones throwing out hurtful statements and you wonder why your girlfriend isn’t on board with this
   Maybe you need to clarify more, but you seem unreasonably bent on trying to keep people that treat your partner like crap in your life for no good reason at all that’s been brought forward other than “they are family”.
3. Why did they start to say these rude things to her?
   • (OP) I had a talk with my family about a month ago. And they said that she was not who they expected me to be with. So they tried to do things to change her in the way they thought she should be. I never once felt like they were in the right. But I made mistakes along the way to make her feel like I wasn’t choosing her. I tried to mediate things too much and that hurt her in the long run.

Is there anything I can do if Grab support has been unhelpful in returning my lost item in a car ride?

TLDR: Driver asks for $200 to return lost laptop in Grab car and doesnt pickup calls otherwise

Wife forgot to take her laptop sleeve with her when she got out of the Grab ride around 10 in the morning. Called driver several times, didn’t pick up.

Contacted Grab support who said they were unable to contact him via call either and that they’ve left him a message.

Finally he calls my wife and says that he can return it next week. This is her work laptop and there was also hard drive with her important research data for which deliverables are due this weekend.

He then goes on to say “give me $200, I’m too busy and my boss will yell at me. Anyway I’m only asking $200 its such a low amount. And that he will return it by 3pm”.

In the meanwhile I myself contact Grab support to report extortion and they try contacting him and he doesn’t pick up. They tell me to wait.

My wife panics and we decide there is nothing we can do. She has already had a bad week so she transfers the money. Only then he picks her call and says he is having lunch and can return by 3:30. He does return it.

We did it thinking we will get the laptop back at least and then file a report somewhere. Wondering if anything we can do to get money back? FYI $200 is not a small amount.

We had already decided to give him $50 just for the trouble and perhaps missed rides during that time… until he decided to extort..

Edit:

Thanks to everyone here. We filed a police complaint now. Will update if anything happens.

I know the right thing is to not give in. But reality is the laptop was needed and we couldn’t risk him becoming awol or damage it. We were also in a time crunch because we had a plane to catch. Just bad timing and mental state overall. Lets see what happens.

Netizens’ comments

1. You can still report to the police now. Accordingly, I believe the law is that if you find something of value, you should send it to the nearest police station within 24 hrs because keeping something you found is a crime. Now keeping it and then demanding it as ‘ransom’, well that’s worse.
2. Good luck with grab support, they don’t give a damn about small individuals.
   Maybe you could try the police route – report the criminal scum for unlawfully holding on to your possessions.
3. Should have reported to the police immediately when he asked money. Walao cannot do anything now

NSFs sitting in public transport

Is there any rule which specifically forbid soldiers (especially NSFs) wearing uniforms from sitting down in bus or MRT despite having lots of empty seats?

Had a book-out experience where a 18-20ish years old female death-staring at me for sitting down (non-reserved seats) in a 90% empty bus as if I had just murdered Spongebob.

Plus all the stomps and complains on social media regarding soldiers sitting in public transport. Most of it by females… although some are by uncles / aunties, but majority by girls…

Any thoughts?

Edit: to those who said NS ppl shldnt complain and “stop being weak”, “females have it much tougher” blabla yadayada, your parents should be ashamed of you.

Netizens’ comments

1. nah i paid for the fare i deserve to sit down. i just ignore the people staring
2. Please sit, DGAF about them. You paid for the ride, you are entitled to an available seat. Heck, that time a recruit sat at a reserved seat and i didnt even bother to give him any looks because i know he was probably exhausted.
   But of course, situational awareness abit. if the train is crowded and someone in need boards then its wise to give it up.
   Its damn unfortunate that our serviceman are all subjected to such derogatory remarks all over the place.
3. Bro damn lucky leh u got so many girls staring at u… They just cant stop thinking abt u.
   Always keep a positive mindset bro. If they’re staring at u, means they’re infatuating over u…
4. Honestly, don’t worry so much about what others think as NSFs are also paying customers who are definitely allowed to sit down. Such people who complain really have nothing better to do and just want to stir things. However, if the train/bus is crowded and i do see someone in need like an old person, i’ll just give up my seat out of my own good will ah

Just received a very strange phone call

I’m a uni student on sem break so recently I’ve applied to numerous part-time jobs on various job application websites.

Then I received a phone call from this guy claiming to be from Talentvis recruitment about a job position at a hotel.

He appeared legit because he knew the contents of my resume as well as my school & stuff. He then started asking me about details like my current work, salary etc.

Then, he started to talk about a job position for me in a very strange way. He spent like 10mins telling me that this hotel I will be working at is a premium lounge for VIPs and that I will be expected to engage in customer interactions that are more personal and intimate than regular customer service roles (e.g., I will be expected to know the customers’ personal details like their professions, what personality they have etc).

When I asked the name of the hotel, he said he was not allowed to disclose it due to client privacy. He then invited me to come to his office to discuss with me further about the job.

What made me suspicious was the way he spent so long trying to convince me that this job is fulfilling and enriching.

If it’s just a regular hospitality job, wouldn’t he be less desperate? He even told me that the current employees are enjoying it and gave positive feedbacks etc. Thoughts?

Netizens’ comments

1. Sounds like hostess club.
2. Probably getting you to be an escort
3. Don’t even need to consider anything else after hearing “more personal and intimate”, block and get out
4. Tell them you are not comfortable making any commitments or decisions until you have more information.
5. The reason he is not saying the hotel name may be because he does not want you to go directly to their HR and skip him in the process (and so he would miss out on commission). The job description sounds bad, but it could be due to unfortunate wording. Like “intimate” could be replace by “close-knit” or “deeply engaging”.
6. Unless you need good money fast, and don’t mind offering “intimate” services, you should just ignore this.