My wife just slipped and called our friend babe.

She’s been driving around with him to everyday things and inviting him places ostensibly as a friend, but she communicates with him almost exclusively on messenger.

He never reaches out to me, if I want to chill I call him. They talk a lot though.

So yeah. They’re definitely sleeping together. I’m leaving her. Just wanted to type that so I could see the words. It’s easier if you can see the words.

I’m not bitter. I’m glad. The marriage isn’t ever going to work and I’ve known it for a while now.

Netizens’ comments

• I accidentally called my sister babe once. And it only happened because I was hanging out with my girlfriend a lot and just got used to saying babe. It was funny. I think you should have other worries and proof of cheating because in my opinion this isn’t it.

• By the comments it’s sounds more like you were just waiting for an excuse to end things and even if she isn’t cheating I hope you know it’s okay to end things if you want different things etc.

• I’ve made an honest mistake like this before. Sometimes my brain is cruel to me. I think I’d investigate a bit more before jumping to conclusions but maybe you already have.

• i read you’re deciding to just up and leave without ever talking about what happened. what if she genuinely just slipped up her words? is there any other reason you’re so completely sure? i once called my bf by my exes’ name… and that’s definitely not a guy i ever want to see again. slip ups happen

A netizen shared how he has a stable girlfriend and that they are planning for their future together, such as applying for a BTO flat and wedding.

But then he revealed that he cheated on her with another guy that he met from a camp, he slept with him and is still keeping in touch with him.

Here is the story

“I knew this guy from a camp last year, but only started chatting more recently. He is stocky and has a charismatic smile.

Last week, we chatted in my room till midnight. Suddenly, we looked into each other’s eyes and kissed. The passionate kisses led us to s-x, eventually. I can’t stop thinking of him ever since that day.

We are still in touch daily and our conversation has escalated to another level.

However, I am attached with a stable girlfriend who has started working. We are planning for our future together, such as applying for BTO and wedding.

As much as I want to marry my girlfriend and have a family together, I don’t want to lose my friendship with the guy.

It is selfish but I hope my girlfriend can accept him unknowingly as one of my closest friends from uni.”

I have been dating my bf for a while but there are some points that I just cannot shrug off.

The expectation is that a guy should be at least a head taller than his girlfriend, but this is something that can only happen in my dream. The reason is he is only 2cm taller and not even 175cm, meaning that it feels like he is a sister/pal to me rather than an oppa. He is way too short for a guy and it doesnt give me a strong sense of security. I estimate he is in the lower tier of height range perhaps somewhere between 1.70-1.73m.

In fact, I would like to ask my fella ladies out there who are willing to date shorter guys or even marry them. What do you see in them? Dont you regret it after a while or will make this an issue whenever you start quarreling? There are plenty of bigger fishes out there and I am now starting to regret it.

Before you commentors start bashing me, I will be fair and point out some of his merits along with my concerns.

1. Yes, he is pretty good looking and has a nice heart. He often shows care for cats/dogs and feed them but I find this trait less manly and somewhat gross. A real man should be more aggressive, not like a beta sissy that plays with small animals.

2. He often buys lunch for me and brings it to the secondary school where I am teaching. However, sometimes kaypoh students will come to me and ask “Cher, your boyfriend ah? Legit? Why so short one?”- Not surprising since even my female students are taller than him. This is ridiculously embarassing. I even told my bf not to bring lunch to me but he doesnt get my point… He will just say ” If we are truly in love, we shouldnt care what others say”….. Yeah right you are not the teacher…

3. He will offer to carry the plastic bags whenever we go shopping. The problem is his legs are short so his hands are like in close proximity to the ground, resulting in some long plastic bags being dragged, even though I understand he doesnt mean it. This is pretty unsightly.

4. He is a mathematician and I remembered once he drew me a heart using math equations. This seems romantic to others but lame in my eyes. If he is sincere, he would have drawn the heart by hand, not indulge in these kinds of boring stuff. After all, how can all these math help him in his future prospect? I knew of a few friends already earning big bucks without knowledge of maths.

I do not not wish to elaborate any further because for every merit that I can think of, it is diluted by the negative aspects. They cant even offset his midget stature.

Unfortunately, all the good quality tall guys are already taken by the short girls, otherwise I would have ended this relationship earlier. I do not want my female besties to find out that I broke up, so I will just bear with it for a while.

My message to my fella sisters out there who are currently attached to the shorter guys. It is never too late to back out! Think of your future!

My husband and I are newlyweds. Both 25. We married only in January. In march my husband said he wants to take a break from living together because he is depressed and wants some alone time.

He said that we will both not date other people and that it would be absolutely disrespectful and wrong if we see other people because he just needs time to feel better. I told him i agree and that if anything changes and he decides to date others, immediately let me know so we can divorce because I’m not ok with extramarital stuff. He said yes he would let me know but he’s not interested.

Well, I just found out that he started the break on march 28 and registered for a dating site the same day. On April 1 already a girl messaged him and they’ve been talking every day and are in a relationship. I even asked him 2 weeks ago that if you have a gf i won’t be mad but tell me the truth so we can divorce.

Because he stopped texting or answering the phone but he lied. I only found out yesterday because he said we need to divorce immediately because he’s marrying someone else.

But I think she’s not who she says she is. He says that she told him she’s 18, working overseas and will come to be with him and they will marry and be together forever because she is perfect and he would never hurt her. Why would someone overseas look for someone in SG without even being here physically? The biggest thing is he has never heard her voice, and she won’t send a picture or talk on video call with him. I am pretty sure it’s a 47-year-old PRC scammer living in a basement.

What hurts is he asked for a break on march 28th and replace me immediately like it was nothing. He calls her the exact same nickname he called me, from all the nicknames he could have chosen. And he writes her the exact same words that he wrote me when I met him on online dating. He showed the messages he sent her.

He lied since april and only now told me. It’s like I’m completely replaceable.

Praise turns me on more than anything else in the world

F20. Hearing a guy/girl tell me they’re proud of me, congratulate me, praise me in any way is literally like heaven to me.

It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside and it’s such an incredible turn on. The other day I went to all my classes (rare) and had a male friend say “good job baby” jokingly and just about lost it.

I love being told that I’m a good girl. There is nothing even comparable to the feeling I get when someone praises me. It’s like instant wetness.

Netizens’ comments

• just like a Golden retriever
• What an excellent post, terrific work, well done!
• I am glad to hear you found what makes you happy and you decided to embrace it rather than wallow in doubts as a lot of people do when they find out they are a kink. You are being emotionally mature and pretty clever to post this here.
• I dunno about a turn on but when ever someone tells me I did a good job or nice work, it’s a unique kind of high.

Before I start I’d like to say that my gf and I are both women. We are les. I say this to hopefully preempt the ‘typical man’ comments.

This happened last month but my best friend and hers are still giving me naggins about it. We had our one year anniversary. I asked what she wanted and she told me just something romantic, a little necklace or something cute. While browsing around online I found an emulsion blender and it pinged in my head.

My gf loves cooking and always talks about all the gadgets she wants. Plus she made homemade tomato sauce and I remember her complaining how hard it was to make the sauce smooth cause she didn’t have an emulsion blender. I’m a very practical gift giver, I like to give things people will use so I bought it and was super excited to give it to her.

The day rolls around and she gives me a bottle of whiskey I’ve had my eye on for ages but could never justify the cost. I was so hyped and encouraged my gf to open hers.

She opened it and her face kinda falls and she goes ‘oh… an emulsion blender…?’ And I told her I remembered her talking about all the kitchen gadgets she wanted and was so excited to give it to her.

She kept her cool but told me while she appreciated the thought she was a little upset that it wasn’t jewellery. I was confused so she explained that she felt anniversaries should be more about romantic/sentimental gifts versus practical, that she appreciated it greatly but couldn’t lie to me that she wished it had been the necklace she pointed out to me online (it was nothing fancy, a $30 mushroom necklace).

I shared my woes with my friend and my friend thought it was hilarious that I was so inept, and that he understood why my gf was upset with her gift. Gf’s best friend also got wind of the situation and has been ribbing me with telling my gf to get back to the kitchen jokes etc.

My gf and I are fine but I know she was disappointed, and she ended up buying the necklace herself a week after I gave her the blender. So am I wrong for giving my gf a practical gift versus the necklace she wanted?

A netizen was offered a job by a company and he/she rejected it, and nothing was signed – the company then demanded compensation.

Here is the story:

“Posting this as a warning to job seekers.

I was finding a job 6 months ago through a recruiter, let’s call them ‘C’. They offered me a job and I accepted the offer. But I had a change of mind and eventually told C that I’m not interested, and did not turn up at the client’s place to sign the letter of appointment (LOA). Before that, I did ask C for the LOA, but C had insisted not to give, saying it’s for audit compliance and does not carry any of the employment obligations between me and the recruiter.

After I rejected the offer, C reiterated our email exchange and mentioned that there is a contractual obligation between us. In our contract, it was mentioned that I would only consider accepting any client’s job offer if C could garner a minimum monthly basic salary of S$XXXX, which C had successfully done so based on my request. C had negotiated with this client without my knowledge or request, saying that there was 1 competing candidate and C had negotiated for the client to accept me.

C is threatening legal proceedings against me for breach of contract if I do not pay them a compensation of 1 month in salary as per the contractual obligations, which had also stated that if I reneged an offer after acceptance, they could seek compensation from me.

What should I do?”

Editor’s note: Make a complaint to MOM, nothing was signed and the company can’t do anything to you.

Earlier this year I discovered my wife of 8 years having an emotional affair with a friend and coworker.

They’d been flirting, texting in secret late at night, sending suggestive photos, saying “I love you,” sharing physical affection at work, and on one occasion they kissed at a bar while I thought she was with girlfriends.

When I finally confronted my wife, her response was to apologize and swear to cut the inappropriate behavior out of their friendship.

But she seems to expect to keep the friendship. As I’ve said, it’s been months. We’ve had many arguments about this. I know she is continuing to talk to him against my wishes, even though she swears it is now all innocent.

I am, I think understandably, uncomfortable with welcoming this person–who I’ve never met–to keep spending time around my wife.

My concern is not about what led to this situation, whether we should stay together or get divorced, or whether or not what happened qualifies as “real cheating.” We’ve hashed those things out.

So, under what circumstances or conditions would you tolerate this relationship?

If I don’t want this person to associate with her, and assuming my wife and I both want to save the marriage, is there a compromise that can be struck, or should I stick to my guns?

Netizens’ comments

She’s prioritising her relationship with him over your relationship. She doesn’t seem very invested in saving your marriage at all. I wouldn’t tolerate this and would be phoning the divorce lawyer. She’s still cheating.

Job applications are something many people go through in their lives unless you are born out of a silver spoon.

A man recently posted on Facebook stating that there are some jobs that are just not worth the time to apply for as that are too many applications.

He stated that for a job role such as an admin, there might be several hundred applicants and it requires them to apply for at least 20 different admin jobs before securing an interview.

He then compared it to a job such as being a security guard stating that he only needs to apply for one job and often gets the job on the spot.

Here is what he said:

Office admin jobs are the most useless jobs in sg. Salary 2k plus. Many people applying for 1 job. Company post 1 admin job vacancy in jobstreet, can easily have 100 to 500 pp1 applying for it.

I need to apply 100 to 200 admin jobs and go for 10 to 20 interviews before i may get lucky and get 1 jab offer. Even if i get the admin job, most likely it will be a stressful job. I work as security officer also can earn 2k plus a month. I apply and go interview, on the spot they hire me.

I don’t need. apply 100 to 200 security jobs and go for 10 to 20 interviews to get 1 security job offer. Although securityjobs is work 12 hours a day, but iM mostly easy job. If i suay kana a stressful security job, i can easily leave and find another security officer job.