My toxic work environment is making me want to quit. I’ve 2 colleagues who are of equal and lower statuses than myself and they have been sucking up to the boss.

They enable the bosses bad habits too, like responding to requests over the weekend and after hours. It has come to the point where my boss’ instructions to the team come from them. Like what?!? He is clearly not an objective and partial leader. I fear for my performance review because us who draw the line with work-life balance and don’t believe in sucking up with suffer.

Is there anything at all I can do about it?? Even advice on how to stay sane will be appreciated.

Here are what netizens think:

• You can draw boundaries and disengage but do note it can be really challenging to fix a toxic work environment, especially if you are much lower on the hierarchy scale. Is going to drain a lot of your energy, both mentally and emotionally. I would consider looking for another job.

• dont think yr colleagues are sucking up. yr boss does not respect weekend time and they are responding according, the former should be the one drawing the line and telling yr colleagues no emails during weekends. you can ask for a team transfer or quit or if you feel yr boss can change, escalate to yr boss’s boss and see if he/she takes in the feedback (unlikely)

• Personally I have to like and respect the boss to be able to work comfortably in a place for a long time, so if it’s not suitable, I’d rather look for another place than to stay. It’s like a relationship, it has to be a suitable partner since working life takes up quite a huge chunk of our daily life and time. The negative feelings will just grow inside if you force yourself to stay and then keep feeling unhappy. There are many stressed out and angsty people around nowadays, so it’s better to find alternative options rather than let the negative feelings accumulate until you become like that too. All these subtle stuff happening internally can slowly affect the mental and physical health.

The place I work at requires us to wear these stiff uniforms. I was already turned on before heading to work but honestly was just lazy and went about my day.

As I was driving, the seam of my pants hit my “little sister” just right when I scooted my butt over a little.

I found myself moving my hips so the seam of the pants kept pressure on my womanhood going back and forth.

I found myself getting really close to “coming” and having trouble concentrating on driving, so I slowed down on the pleasuring myself, even though I wanted to climax right then.

Once I got to the parking lot, I pulled into a space and unzipped my pants and circled my “little woman” with my finger and quickly came.

I didn’t think much about someone watching me (although I should have probably atleast looked around first). I walked into work soaking wet after finishing myself.

I felt naughty all day but also it made my day so much better.

Netizens’ comments

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A netizen shared how he/she was a fresh graduate from a private university and recently started working in an audit company for about 4 months.

The newbie was allegedly forced to do the work of a senior worker, on top of his/her own work and as a result of doing 2 work, has to bring work home to do until about 11 pm.

The netizen said that he/she is very tired since joining the company and feels like nothing is worth it anymore.

Here is her story

“Hi, I am confused and need some help.

I recently started working in audit (4mth) and I hate it. I hate the culture of the office and the people.

I feel like I’m being tormented by my senior, he says whatever’s he wants and makes me do this work while I do mine as well

And since I can’t finish 2work at the same time I have to bring work back home and work till 11+.

Mental health

I am so tired and since I started working in this company my mental health has been bad.

I am a fresh grad from private Uni so I know I have to work harder but I just feel like nothing is worth it anymore and I am lost.

I don’t know if I should quit considering the economy but I can’t take it as well.

Please give me some advice thank you!”

Editor’s note: You should complain to your manager about the senior worker’s antics, why should you do the work of 2 persons? The senior is basically earning money for the work that you do. Stand up for yourself.

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A netizen shared a lengthy letter to his ex-girlfriend, sharing his thoughts about why and how they broke up, and how he still thinks of her.

Here is the story:

“I know its been a few months since we broke up. Sometimes when I see you reshare stuff like TikTok videos such as “You deserve so much better”, “Don’t settle for anything less” types of emotional videos, I get so sad.

I felt like I really gave you my everything. I clear your shopping lists, I plan dates, I occasionally fetch you to & from school, I always bring gifts to your parents and try to impress them. And yet I don’t expect anything from you except emotional love.

I don’t get why you broke up with me because you think I’m childish for buying anime figurines instead of spending money on you.

I keep this hobby/interest private. Only the closest of my friends know about it. I don’t see the problem with it? It doesn’t spill over to my public image/persona.

Heck, if you want to compare dollar to dollar value, I can assure you that I spend way more on you. Maybe, you’re just trying to find a convenient reason to leave me.

But then why repost all those stuff, insinuating to your followers and friends that I didn’t treat you well in the relationship? or am I looking too much into it?

If you’re reading this, I hope you can find your ideal knight swooping in to treat you like the queen you are. I’ll be removing you and moving on with life.”

Editor’s note: Be glad you got rid of her, she’s not worth it.

For a bit of background info- My boyfriend is 20 y.o  we have been dating for about a year now. I have an extremely high s drive at all times. I always want to experiment, explore, and just have good s!

The problem is my boyfriend has manic hyper beast episodes where his libido is VERY high for about 2-3 weeks straight (usually higher then mine), then one day it just drops off the face of the earth and he is completely disinterested in doing it (he will get annoyed when i even mention doing it).

When this happens, i feel extremely used and starts to take a very large hit on my self esteem and confidence. All i can think is “what am i doing wrong” “is he not attracted to me anymore” “did i say something” etc. He makes me feel like i am a bad girlfriend if im not available to fulfill his s needs, but gets extremely upset when i say im unsatisfied.

everytime i bring this up to him he does 1 of three things. Brushes it off (“well what do you want me to do about it”), makes a joke out of it (“I just like to switch up the mood sometimes”), or gets annoyed saying “you cant for me to have s with you so i dont know why its such a big deal”

just like he said, I can’t force him to have s with me obviously, but I have no idea what to do when the switch happens because it’s extremely unexpected.

Am I being wrong for feeling like this? Am i doing something wrong? I hate to feel like someone, especially someone who im in love with, is feeling pressured to have s with me. I just feel like I have needs that arent being met, and it feels as if he doesnt care.

once his hyper beast episodes end, I am unaware of when we will have s again. this last one lasted about 3 weeks (still going on) and he only gets more annoyed when i bring it up. I feel like i try as hard as possible to keep his needs met (ive done things for him that i havent felt super comfortable with, but still did it because i knew it would make him happy) but when it comes to my sexual needs, i feel like im being gross, perverted, insensitive

for context he has no medical diagnosis, and i am probably one of the only people who know the extent of this problem.

If i am in the wrong here, please make me aware so that i can address it. Everything else in our relationship is good besides this issue.

Back then I believed in true love but I started to see the comfort of another woman, they have boyfriends to chauffeur them around and I’m taking bus and MRT with my boyfriend.

Soon I got a bf with a car, but it was an old broken piece of junk he calls it a “car”. It was so noisy and the aircon was never cold. I ended it with him because I did not feel comfortable. I needed some more atas car to fit me.

So, I’m a gold digger. But not the way you’re thinking about it, I’m a pro. I check the newspapers for financial transactions, then “bump into” someone who’s just made a lot of money and ask them out, that’s how I met my current husband, but he was a player for most of his life so he genuinely thought i was into him (or so i thought at the time).

he implied that he was exhausted from the drama and just wanted a homely girl to be the mother of his children, so i played the part and kept up the charade as we were dating, and then as we got engaged, then married.

Unlike a lot of professional gold diggers, my final goal wasn’t some doormat workaholic husband who will fund a lifestyle of luxury for me as he toiled endlessly while I swiped his credit cards all day. I just wanted to live an upper middle-class lifestyle as a stay at home mom, i genuinely wanted kids, and wanted to be the best mom i could.

But slowly i found myself falling in love with my husband. I lived a pretty brutal life and developed somewhat sociopathic tendencies as a result like being able to use people without feeling guilty and not caring about people, but one day as i woke up next to him and thought about how i would be really broken if he died, or left me somehow i realized my feelings for him were genuine, i felt bad about manipulating him, and after a few weeks i gathered up the courage and told him everything, how I’m a gold digger who wanted him for his money, and how i played a part the whole time so he would marry me, but to my surprise he just laughed it off and went on with what he was doing

He told me he knew all along, and how he was already cynical about relationships and “understood” that whoever he married wouldn’t be 100 percent genuine and that’s just “something you have to deal with” I’m partly relieved that he’s not gonna divorce me, but I’m also bummed out, it’s totally reasonable to not trust me because of what i did, but it’s a bit too much to not trust anyone. Is there any way i can show him that I’m genuinely into him now, and invested in the relationship?

Nowadays Singapore disco scene has moved from not only just foreign girls but also Singapore girls working.

A netizen sent in a photo of a girl he claims is from a local thai disco who made more than $40K after her first few months in Singapore. In the past, discos would always hire girls that are here on travel visa and work by selling flowers or ladies’ drink.

Some smarter girls even get the ‘boyfriend’ to provide a local address so they would be able to enter Singapore more easily.

Nowadays discos get smarter, they apply for an entertainer work permit for the girls and make them work here legally. This kind of flower business is “not illegal” as this is a mutual trade between the customer and the disco.

Many SG boys hang thousand of flowers a month and get nothing in return. Some do it for ego and want to be famous in the disco.

Nowadays it is common to see Thai girls post photos of them being rich after working in Singapore, Korea, Japan and etc. Now even local girls join in the business because of the sheer amount of money they can earn.

The best part of this it is better than prostitution, the girls don’t even need to offer themselves to earn. They will call you darling, teeruk or boyfriend and go out and have a meal with you and alot of SG morons will buy them diamonds and gold chains and get almost nothing in return.

The girls would often be offered a place to stay at a very low price and sometimes.

When the visa or permit is finished the girls go home with a pile of cash and the so call SG ‘boyfriend’ will be left behind and becomes an ultimate loser. This also applies not only to local guys but also to local girls who frequent “duck joints”.

Just my 2 cents after working as a bartender for many years.

Hope locals will share this and wake up and use the money for something better like investing in property or buying a dream car.

I was walking near Yishun MRT and a man in his 60s approached me and complimented my short haircut. I said thanks and the guy was not giving off red flags on the approach.

Then he started walking with me… I suppose I should have stood still and not kept walking- first thing I could have done differently. He said he hoped he wasn’t bothering me and I honestly said that he wasn’t.

Well then he wanted to touch my hair and I was so… idk.. surprised? by that I actually said okay… and while I didn’t like it.. I felt like maybe that’s the end of it or maybe he actually cuts hair for a living. (He doesn’t, I asked.)

Then he wanted to know if he was bothering me and again I said no ( I was starting to be a little panicked and hoping it was over) at which point he asked if he could ask me a more personal question. oh boy.

He wanted to know if it was shaved down there. When I said I preferred not to answer he was like why not?

I said I prefer not to answer. He said the correct answer is ‘yes.’ At which point we came to an intersection and he said he was going one way and I said I was going another.

I hate to think he had gotten his jollies and was running for home at that point. And now I’m at home thinking about how he knows where I get my haircut and feeling gross.

Reading this I see many things I could have done differently, but specifically, I need help with getting the courage to act differently.

My whole life I’ve been afraid of not being liked by others when I need to get out of a potentially unsafe situation, my instinct is politeness.