I have ~10 credit cards–and am in 35.5K debt.

I have horrible spending habits, and so do my parents. I am wondering what something of worth I could sell in my household, or make money, literally anything to help my situation.

Helpful information (I hope) would be that: I have a job, but it isn’t linear, I am called into work when needed. I am a cleaner and for each job, I am paid $150, more money if the renters of the building stay late, leave a mess, etc. (but it seldom happens because unfortunately, people are clean in my area.)

My mom is searching for a job, interested in working for a big company and my dad is working on getting her a good-paying position. My dad works overseas, but that isn’t a solid job as it used to be, so he has a plan in place in case he gets laid off for basically stepping in the wrong direction.

My aunt work in the escort industry and has good contacts in the adult industry that pays very well and suggested that I work with her, she can put me in a really good spot as well, but I am really uncomfortable with that. If it gets to where I need to though, I will have no choice but to join her anyway, we’ll see.

I have moved some priorities around and made someone else in charge of my finances. I am not saying that I am brushing that fact under the rug, I just wanted to make it clear that I am basically bad with money.

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And go for whatever side jobs you feel safe/comfortable with. I know someone who did some COVID related job to pay off debts.

This right here is the first thing that must be addressed. No other advice is worth a damn until you fix this first.

Step 1 stop spending money, step 2 go read a book at a library (free)

I broke my mum’s new(ish) TV out of anger and I regret it

So a bit of backstory:

My mum sometimes gets very mad at me out of the blue for seemingly no reason (eg, saying I’m an embarrassment to the family, that I fake being nice to people, I don’t deserve friends and I deserve every ounce of hate I receive, to name a few), and these tend to happen when she just isn’t in a good mood (I do nothing to provoke her).

Compared to everyone else my age, I’m extremely well behaved, polite, get good grades (Tippically B-A+), don’t drink, smoke or any of that and I always make sure to put others above myself (mostly because of my self esteem), so I’m not sure why she does it.

The main point (FYI, it all happened today):

Well today she was doing it again, and as a reaction (when she left the room) I hit her TV (about 7-8 months old) with the corner of my phone. I didn’t see any damage (as it was turned off) so I assumed It didn’t do any harm.

Later, she went to turn it on and half of the screen was black and covered with cracks and coloured lines. She seemed devastated and quite bummed out about it (obviously) but didn’t go to blame me. Obviously I knew it was me that did it, but I didn’t have the heart to tell her.

And to put salt in the wound, shortly after arguing with me for a while, she apologised to me and admitted she was in the wrong (for the first time ever).

Was I in the wrong, or did she have it coming? Any tips on what I could do to apologise would also be appreciated.

This has nothing to do with money. We split the rent and we share everything 50-50. I am an engineer and my GF works in healthcare. One month ago her contract at ended and she has been unemployed since.

She has already found another job but she would be able to start two months after her previous job ended, that means in a month from now.

So for the past month she has been living her best life. She’s spending her mornings studying for her new job but also reading, watching Netflix, going to the gym and for runs with her dog etc.

However she hasn’t started contributing more to the household. I mean she still cooks and cleans every day but she still expects me to wash the dishes and she won’t pick up my clothes after I have returned from work.

The other day I left a bunch of my mail on the table and when I returned it was left unopened, I asked her why she didn’t look through it and she told me she’s not my secretary.

I have been hinting that she should be picking up more chores now that she’s unemployed but she says that she’s not my housekeeper, she does more than half of the chores and since my workload has not increased I should be able to do mine.

I mean yes, I am able to do it but I am tired from work and she isn’t so I had expected her to step up a little but no, she claims this is her break from working hard and other hurtful things, like she didn’t go to school to be a live-in maid etc.

So am I wrong For expecting her to do most of the chores while she’s unemployed?

We’re approaching cartoonish levels of idiocy and density with my ex boss

So I was with this company for 11 weeks and it was all pretty dumb already. But I didn’t mind because it was more of an in-between kind of job. So today and I got a message last week asking me to come in and cover and catch up so people could take their vacations.

Thing is: I was fired a few days ago!! Why? Because they asked me to go out of the country FOUR WEEKS with no additional allowance. At that point, I’d be losing money. I was the newest and lowest paid employee and they wanted me out of country for FOUR weeks.

So I just refused to go. I just didn’t go. They gave me a two-week notice and I was fired.

Come around a few days after my termination, and they start texting me saying ‘Well you don’t have kids, so how about covering for us? Huh? Huh? Huh?”

And my response is “I was literally fired, so NO.”

I also told them that I would accept it for $4000 per 8-hour shift and $1000 for an hour after that. I’m sure you can guess their response. They acted like I was the one being unreasonable because “I don’t have kids and don’t understand how much it means to them to have an Easter vacation.”

What a load of bull

Rant over. Thanks for reading.

People are not that forgiving… So don’t try try

I just learnt things the hard way. As a super introvert who choose to do delivery jobs due to social anxiety and depression. I forced myself to join a tour group with my best friend with a small tour of 20+ people. It’s a short one to Thailand. “Forced” is probably a bad choice of words btw, it’s more like I am convinced to challenge myself.

I am not someone who is good with social ques and often appears selfish because I can only take care of myself.

Somehow, I managed to make more than 3 person in the tour group dislike me. One of them make it so obvious that when I smile and greet her “morning” (since its what everyone does), she just turn away. But when my bestie greeted her, she is ok. The rest still bother to greet back but I could tell it’s out of courtesy.

Don’t ask me what I did, I don’t remember doing anything bad intentionally to them. I don’t even chat much with them, I am just with my friend when she chatted with them. I join in the conversation once in awhile only. I asked my friend if I did anything wrong to these 3-4 people (they’re from different groups, they’re not a clique of friends/family) but she couldn’t really recall any incident… She say maybe is my body language… But we both couldn’t figure out …

I know I can hack care them because after the trip, we’ll probably not see each other anymore. But I can’t help but think if people are so easily offended to the point they need to show it then it’s really hard for me to get myself into social situations. I don’t understand social ques and I eill just continue to make enemies on the way while I improve my skill.

Just how many enemies do I want to make?

I’ll start off with a little background. My bf had a job about a year ago that required him to 12+ hours every night.

Because of that job his mental health spiralled down to the point I was scared of him possibly hurting himself. It put a huge strain on our relationship as well as he was either at work, sleeping, or I was at work.

He ended up quitting that job and got a new one. The new job let a lot of employees go including him in November.

Since he has only applied for jobs like the one I described at the beginning of this post. I have especially said that if they expect you to work more than 40 hours a week then it’s a no.

He promised me that he would decline a job if they asked that of him. As of yesterday, I found out he got a job offer to work that same shift as he did a year ago….

He took it. I am absolutely pissed and I told him exactly what I thought about it when he told me and haven’t talked to him since. My friends keep on saying that giving him the silent treatment will only make things worse and that I’m being over dramatic over a job. 

I know it’s a job but if it affects him mentally it is going to affect me.

I declined a phone call from my mom the night she died

It’s been about a week since she passed away suddenly in her sleep, on the early morning of Friday the 6th.

Today I was thinking about the last time we spoke. I checked my call log with her and saw I declined her call Thursday evening.

My heart dropped.

I wonder what she called for. Maybe she wasn’t feeling well and knew. My mind keeps going over what she wanted to say. Likely just checking in with me.

I’ll never forgive myself for not answering. I dont even remember getting a call from her. I feel so bad.

Netizens’ comments

• My Mom called me and left a message on my phone to tell me she was going down to theatre for her op and would see me later, she died on the operating table. The message was automatically deleted after 7 days, I still hear it in my head, 3 years later. I did see her however, the night before she died and had done every day. I miss her so much and my Dad who died 15 months before her.
  I’m so sorry for your loss but perhaps she was ringing to say she loved you, just keep that memory. Sending love and hugs. Xx

• Maybe you missed her call. Don’t beat yourself up over it – there was no argument or harsh last words. She called because she loves you. You are mourning her because you love her. It sounds like you had a nice relationship; I’m sorry for your loss.

I (19f) keep finding poop nuggets on my boyfriend (19m) and his brother (19m) bathroom floor.

So I visit my boyfriend and his twin brother pretty often. We have been dating for over a year now. I currently live nearby but plan to move in with them in a couple weeks.

I am just a little worried because every now and then I find tiny poop nuggets on the bathroom floor.

They don’t have pets so it has to be one of them. A few months ago I found one about the size of a thumb but thought it was a one off thing and cleaned it (I have never mentioned it).

But as I have been staying with them more and more, I have been noticing it more and more. I have no idea which one it is but I don’t know how to bring it up to them.

Someone is leaving poop nuggets on the floor at my boyfriend’s apartment, how do I bring it up to them?

Netizens’ comments

• Bring it up jokingly to both of them together and say something like “guys wtf is that” neither of them will probably own up to it but i’m sure they’ll stop
• The bf and his brother sound like pigs. Honestly, the OP is likely finding that the two leave things where they finish with them, empty beer cans left where they finished, dishes left where they finished, ect. Like you said, normal people don’t leave poop spots anywhere, they are aware about good hygiene practices and follow them.