Haiz. Really feel so fed up with a marriage where my MIL does not respect boundaries.

My MIL, for one, is nice. But she does not respect boundaries. She will feed baby (LO) anything & say is cause don’t want LO to be picky about food. Things like McD, my baby has tried. But LO is only 8mths old! ???? Told her not to feed, but she still feeds

Milk, she insists on using formula because “convenient”, but LO is used to & prefers to look for me for feeds

She fed my LO water before 6mths old. Even though we told her not to.

She fed my 2yo nephew coffee saying that there’s no cream or sugar. Just pure coffee. I don’t understand. Do kids drink coffee nowadays?

I’m so stressed out. My husband kept siding with his mum. He says that since we have brought it to her attention, she won’t feed anymore. He says that she fed nephew coffee cause his parents fed him a little at times (a sip once in awhile).

Problem is, multiple times I have let her know of our discomfort & decision not to introduce certain food to LO. Some are unhealthy, some are choking hazards. But she repeatedly ignored what I have said & feed LO.

Not just that. Today she gave 2 of my clothes to my SIL ???? I am currently staying with her so I brought some clothes over to wear. I don’t have a lot of clothes at my in-laws place. But she gave my clothes to my SIL cause she says that I’m not wearing them ???? But those are my favourite clothes. I can’t bear to wear them. Now they are given to someone else to wear. I’m heartbroken ????

What do you guys do to a MIL who does not respect boundaries & a husband that does not understand his mum & no matter what, sides with her more? ????

I work as an apprentice (work and school in the same time, don’t know what it is called) in this company for 3 years as IT engineer. More than 1 year ago all my colleagues (including my CIO) were fired and since I am the only one keeping the business up and running, basically doing the job of 3 people at once.

I never complained, but the boss always praised me and told me I will be the CIO of this company at the end of the contract. I don’t really believe this bull, and good for me, because he delayed my proposal (which they should make, I didn’t ask) every 3 months for different reasons (time, schedule, etc).

Please note that I didn’t receive a dime as a bonus for all the work I did, and every other colleague got their bonuses as expected, even tho I was the most qualified for a bonus.

I never said anything, except that I gave them a delay which of course they didn’t respect. In 3 days from my delay date, I got 3 offers which I signed with one of them. The current company doesn’t know this, and they woke up remembering my contract ends in 3 months and they haven’t offered me nothing yet.

They invited me recently to a meeting to tell them if I’m still interested, to which I replied “yes” haha. They then told me the position of CIO is no longer available since they are not satisfied with the past CIOs and they wanted to remove this position (go figure why).

Today they will come with an offer and I will see what they will offer, but of course, I will not accept it, because I already have my contract signed with another company.

I am eager to see their reaction when they will be faced with the fact that they need to find multiple people to do my job, and actually be competent.

They tried to recruit for 6 months someone under me and they couldn’t so imagine how hard it will be to find someone to replace me.

They probably never thought that I will not accept their offer, since I am new to the “business”, but I already have a contract signed with bonuses that I will never receive at the current company.

Sucks to be a dog and not appreciate hard-working people, but I guess they want to find this the hard way.

BTW they will need to pay at least 50K more for someone to do the job I did, because I was basically the CIO of the company and I am literally the only one who holds the infrastructure up and running.

I will keep you updated.

A netizen managed to film a group of man sorting out a bunch of goods for delivery.

However, they were seen throwing the items around and do not care if the items break.

Here is what the netizen said:

Not sure which company. But staff appointed to deliver our items simply throw around our parcel. No wonder items received damaged/ broken. I haven been noticing this almost on a daily basis. Happens 8-10am.

@ahbengloh89

This is why your items break.

♬ original sound – Ah Beng Commentator

Here are what netizens think:

• they are sorting the parcels out accordingly by blocks. (not saying tht im ok of them throwing it around) but sometimes too overwhelm and thus such things happen.

• Not nice to do throwing around. However need to consider that the sorting is unpaid time for the courier to do delivery. Although gig delivery, but really pay peanuts for the time spent packing and delivery time. Perhaps courier company can made effort to have an auto labelling for parcels that is visually easy for courier to see, plan his route and sorting. However consumers need to pay more. Can’t be paying peanuts but expect quality

• If that is the case, we should not be asking refund for damage items. As we know how is their handling process

• Quite normal for them to sort out before deliver . It will take hours to sort then if slowly place them on the ground

• Whether or not contractor, this is general common sense as not to throw parcel

• bro every where in the world same .u want fast they deliver fast ,I’m very sure when it started fragile they won’t throw. Been done that unless it paste or indicatr fragile we will handle with care other than that. U need b fast I have thousands parcel daily eh .u expect them work sort out nicely one by one until 12aM also won’t finish

Today I proposed to my girlfriend. We have been together for over 5 years and her parents have been pressuring us to get married (yeah, yeah, some parents are like that). I am not into marriage at all, but I love my girlfriend and if it is important for her, it is important for me too. I was nervous about the whole thing to be honest, do I want to get married? Am I doing it for the right reasons? Don’t get me wrong, I love my girlfriend more than anything, but marriage is a big step in someone’s life.

I bought her a ring, and I decided I would wait until her birthday to pop the question. I wanted that moment to be strictly her and I, it was our moment, our next step in our relationship. Man I was shaking so much when I put a knee on the floor and asked her. She laughed at me and said ”what are you even doing dude?”. She said no, but not because she doesn’t love me, far from that.

She said no because she knew all along marriage was not something I was comfortable in. She said she did not need a ring on her finger to know she loves me and want to spend the rest of her life with me. She said that the only thing that mattered was her and me, not what our families think.

We’ve returned the ring and we used the money to spoil ourselves, like the perfect immature adults we are.

Man is it even possible to love someone so much?

I prove my love to my girlfriend every single day, and she’s a very tough cookie, if she was unhappy, she would be long gone. She is not the type to ”stay in a unhealthy relationship because she loves him”. No, fuck that (forgive my language) she’d dump my ass real fast and make fun of me with her girlfriends. Never cheated on her, never disrespected her, always tell her how beautiful she is, how perfect she is, every single day. The belief that men who think like me are not committed and are going to jump the fence at some point is very outdated.

Women are not inherently into marriage and men are not inherently against it. There are other ways to show your love and appreciation for a person than getting married. For the few rotten apples in the back, yes her birthday is today, yes she is working today, I proposed this morning, she works from 4pm to 10pm, more than enough time to return a ring and spoil ourselves/spend quality time together. This is something that never changed on Reddit I see, there’s always some Negative Nancy who just. can’t. be. happy. for. other. people.

My dad almost died today and no one helped

My dad was eating a steak dinner alone while at work. My dad needs new dentures so chewing tougher food can be a challenge sometimes.

This resulted in him choking on a piece of steak in the middle of a restaurant.

My dad is not one to ever want attention drawn to him but he knew his time was limited and he stood up with his hand around his throat and pointed to people trying to get help.

Out of over 10 people there, no one helped. They watched my dad suffer and just ate their food.

Thankfully after almost a minute, he was able to dislodge the chunk of meat himself. He was so upset and scared he just left the restaurant.

Wtf is wrong with people. A man almost died in front of you people and you did nothing but eat your fucking dinner. Didn’t even ask if he was okay after he could breathe again.

People suck.

A netizen shared a story about how she had a guy friend who liked her for about 5 years and he recently asked her out, lying to his girlfriend about it.

He also made inappropriate comments about her body and hints at being in a relationship with her when he is already attached.

Their friends also noticed that the guy’s girlfriend looks like her.

Here is the story:

“Need to rant. My friend who used to like me (one-sided) for 5+ years recently asked me out for lunch one on one (again). I ghosted him. We know each other for 13 years since JC and are somewhat close friends. He’s currently attached.

Before our previous meetings in the past (we only meet once every 1 or 2 years), I suggested that our other friends could join us but he refused. So, we ended up meeting one on one.

In our first few meetings, he brought up the times when he used to like me and said things like “if this/that didn’t happen, we could’ve ended up together”.

“You have the nicest body”

He also made comments about my body “you are _ cup right? Your future husband is gonna be so lucky” or “you have the nicest body among our friends”.

He’s already attached at that time. Idk if he said these because we are kinda close but I was freaking uncomfortable with that and told him to stop.

What’s more, I thought he told his girlfriend that he was meeting me. But it turned out that he didn’t. I knew because he suddenly got a call from his girlfriend AND he decided to not pick it up the first time, which I thought was something really weird and inappropriate to do to your partners.

After a while, his girlfriend called again. He asked me to keep quiet while he talked to her on the phone?!?! Felt like a freaking third party. That was when I told myself I shouldn’t meet him individually ever again.

Another time he asked to meet again (with another friend), I agreed. We had lunch and walked around. The other friend went to the toilet, leaving me and him.

And guess what? We saw his girlfriend, who was surprised to see him because he didn’t tell her that he went out with us.

Honestly, I don’t even know if the girlfriend knows about me or not. Do guys tell their GFs about their female friends? Honest question because I really don’t know anymore.

Because of all these actions of his, I can’t help but feel like a third party.

Didn’t want to meet him anymore

From then on I kept coming up with excuses to not meet him and kept my distance from him. Also didn’t attend his birthday party, didn’t wish him (which he told me that he was disappointed LOL).

Also, when we were gonna part ways he’d always want a hug. It’s not those quick friendship hugs, but hugs that last for like 5 seconds? IMO I don’t think this is normal, not to mention that he has a girlfriend. Because I don’t want all these to happen between my future bf and the girl he used to like.

Frankly speaking, I don’t feel comfortable meeting him one on one anymore. The fact that our JC friends also said that his girlfriend “looks like me” and that “he’s only together with her to replace me” ain’t helping the situation.

They even asked how I felt about him having a girlfriend after liking me for so long. I mean, what the heck were they expecting me to say, giving such absurd comments.

Recently he asked to meet again and I ignored his messages. Every time when I’m online on WhatsApp I can’t help but be worried that he would see me online lol.

Should I just tell him that we should maintain a distance and not meet individually because of the above reasons? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

I honestly don’t know what guys think but as a girl, or if you were to put yourself in my shoes, when:

– a guy friend doesn’t tell his GF that he’s meeting you

– asks you to shut up when he talks to his GF over the phone

– makes inappropriate comments about you

– mentions the possibility of an rs with you when he himself is attached …

I think it’s really inappropriate and disrespectful to his GF and me??? I’d really appreciate your opinions please.”

Editor’s note: You’re doing the right thing, the guy sounds like he’s off the hinges.

My long term boyfriend broke up with me because I have stage three cancer

I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 years. We were planning our lives together. We are both financially stable just enjoying our lives for now.

Life happened I got terribly sick. He was there for me until we found out I have cancer. I couldn’t talk to him properly for two weeks there I found out he does not want to be with me because I had been diagnosed with stage three cancer.

He told me he does not want to live his life stuck with me after I die. I don’t understand what he meant by that.

I was so heartbroken that I felt like he wasted 12 years of my life. He told me he does not want to live with my ghost.

He is scared that he could not move on from me because people around us knew us together if ever I will die. I don’t understand I feel like he’s just making an excuse to break up with me.

It’s been three months since we broke up I am just so lost right now I don’t understand what’s going on. I am dying and my long-time boyfriend broke up with me all of a sudden.

It hurts so I don’t know what to do.

Netizens’ comments

• My husband abandoned me during cancer treatment. I had to shut down literally so I could focus on myself. I understand what you’re going through. You don’t deserve this, you didn’t do anything wrong. Some people are not capable of going through this for various reasons. I wish you love but most of all peace
• He made a decision to protect himself from the pain of losing you. Unfortunately, his decision feels selfish and leaves you lonely. I’m so sorry… hope you find something better to distract you in this difficult time.