Being a regular customer at a pub in Johor Bahru, I had grown quite close to the staff and hostesses working there.

I had known them for several years, and I had become quite familiar with their daily struggles and hardships.

One day, while I was ordering a few drinks, a single mother who was working as a pub hostess came up to me and we chat, it did not take long before she asked me if I’m a Singaporean customer and if I could rescue her from working in pubs.

Do I look like Santa Clause or Robert’s head?

I felt disgusted at her request. I knew that she was desperate, but I felt that it was wrong to ask such a favor from a customer. She had already made a commitment to the pub, and it was not my place to interfere.

I told her that I could not help her and that she should seek help from other sources. I could sense her disappointment, but I also knew that she was too proud to accept charity from me.

The next day, I saw her again at the pub. She was still working hard and seemed to be in the same situation as before. I felt a deep pity for her and it made me really angry. I couldn’t understand why someone would have to put themselves through such hardship just to make a living.

It was at that moment that I realized how lucky I was to not have to endure such hardships. I had a comfortable lifestyle and my job allowed me to have a good income. I was thankful that I was not in the same situation as the single mother.

But at the same time it boils down to the word “education”.

She probably did something she regret when she was young and gave birth early which probably stopped her chances of getting higher education making her end up in working in this kind of places.

A netizen shared how he gives his parents 20% of his monthly salary but then his mother accuses him of kicking her aside after he told her about his financial planning.

Here is the story:

“[How much monthly allowance do you give your parents?]

I give my parents 20% of my salary (>$700) ever since I started working two years ago, and 20% of any bonuses when I get them too.

I learnt that I give the highest percentage amongst my friends, but I’m okay with that as I can afford to and somehow this 20% proportion has been ingrained in my mind since young.

Recently, my partner and I secured a BTO. Somehow, this got me to start thinking about finances seriously. I feel that I should save more for future uses such as the wedding, honeymoon, house, renovation and any emergency spending.

I’m not engaged yet, but just generally thinking about the future and making a mental note that I have to start being more financially savvy now that we have a home (yay!).

I innocently shared this with my mum but she got angry instead and started ranting that kids nowadays only care about planning for their own future and kicking their parents aside.

I clarified that I have no intention to change or withdraw the 20% of my salary that I have been providing.

She started to demand 50% of my salary.

I only wanted to save a higher proportion of the remaining amount after setting aside the monthly allowance.

However, she insisted that I have become stingy ever since getting together with my partner and that I only cared about my own future.

Honestly, I feel quite angry at her accusations as I have not once given anything lesser than 20% of whatever I have. She also commented that I could rely on my partner and need not plan to save so much, which I do not agree with.

We should aim towards being able to support ourselves regardless of whether we have someone to rely on, isn’t it?

I really don’t know what’s wrong with children planning for their future as the point of planning ahead is to avoid having to take parents’ money for our own expenses next time.

Furthermore, I am still giving the 20% without any intention to stop, and I don’t know why she’s so defensive every time I talk about my own financial planning. Sigh.

Just wanted to get this off my chest. Thank you for hearing me out.”

Editor’s note: Your mother is afraid of losing her golden rooster to another woman.

As a recent graduate, I am always looking for job opportunities that can help me gain experience and start my career.

Unfortunately, some of these opportunities are not as great as they seem, especially in Small and Medium Enterprises (SMEs).

I recently read an article about a man who has worked in various SMEs and he has advised fresh graduates to avoid SMEs at all cost. He claimed that many SMEs are unfair to inexperienced people and his experience has left him with a bitter taste.

This man claims that many SMEs are not willing to invest in their employees. He said that most SMEs don’t offer training or development opportunities and pay low wages. In addition, these SMEs are often not willing to provide any benefits such as insurance, holiday pay, or any kind of career advancement or retirement plans.

He also said that SMEs tend to take advantage of inexperienced employees by giving them more responsibilities than they can handle and expecting them to be productive without proper guidance.

Furthermore, these SMEs often do not provide any feedback to help the employees improve and grow.

In addition, this man claims that SMEs are often not willing to provide a secure job environment. He said that many SMEs are not able to offer a steady income because they are constantly changing their business strategies. As a result, many employees find themselves suddenly unemployed or having to switch jobs frequently.

The man said that the unfair treatment of inexperienced people in SMEs is something that should be taken seriously. He believes that fresh graduates should be aware of the potential risks that come with working in an SME and should take the necessary precautions.

It is important for fresh graduates to research the company they are applying to and make sure that the company values its employees. It is also important to look for employers that offer training and development opportunities and provide a secure job environment.

Finally, the man said that fresh graduates should not be afraid to turn down a job offer if they feel that the company is not a good fit. It is better to wait for a better opportunity than to accept a job that is not suitable for them.

Overall, I believe that this man’s advice is sound. I agree that working in an SME is not always a good idea and inexperienced people should be aware of the risks that come with it. It is important for fresh graduates to do their research and make sure that the company they are applying to is a good fit for them.

I knew this guy long ago when I was about 20 years old. He’s 2 years younger than me. We chatted and started chatting everyday. I moved to another country twice before returning to Singapore and for a couple of years we just text and video called.

When I returned to Singapore 7 years ago, we met up for the first time for a casual date. We grew close, he’s attracted to me but I was a bit skeptical about being in a r/s with someone who’s younger than me. Our nature of texts and video calls became more sexual over time. We became FWB. No intercouse ever happened but we did make out.

We talked on and off and eventually I got into a relationship and got married. He still text me once in awhile. I responded as a friend, trying not to bring up anything in the past.

But there was once I had a huge argument with my husband, and I responded to him seductively. I regret that, but it seems to trigger whatever he had for me again.

Fast forward now I have 3 kids. He still text me like once or twice every few months. I tried blocking, ignoring, and even scolding. I firmly told him I don’t wish to hear from him anymore. Eventually I’m back to blocking and ignoring. But he seems to have so many numbers. He seems to make so many new accounts as well.

Idk if he uses that to chat other girls as well, but he definitely uses different numbers and accounts in different platform to chat with me.

I’ve ignored him for so long and I grew tired of suddenly receiving his text.

I don’t wish to tell my husband about it because I regret what I did and not like I want anything to do with him anymore.

I’m afraid, though, that one day he just finds out this guy’s text popped up on my phone.

He would text me flirtatious things or even lewd things.

I really don’t know what to do anymore.

What else can I do??

I was recently hired by a female manager and it came as quite a surprise.

I was expecting the usual interview process, but instead, she told me that she was looking to “eat me.” I’m not sure what she meant, but it definitely made me a bit uncomfortable.

I’m a guy and I’ve never been in this kind of situation before. I’ve heard about men being harassed by their female bosses, but I never thought it would happen to me. I’m scared of what she’s going to do and what she might expect from me.

My first thought was to just quit and find another job. But I still need the money, so I decided to stay and just handle the situation as best as I can. I’m already on edge and I’m constantly worried about what she’s going to do.

I’ve tried to stay professional and do my job as best as I can, but I’m scared she’s going to use her power to try and get me to do things I don’t want to do. Every time she talks to me, I feel like she’s expecting something from me and I’m scared of what it might be.

I’ve also noticed that she’s been watching me more than usual.

I don’t know if she’s just trying to evaluate my performance or if she’s trying to see if I’m doing something she doesn’t like. I’m scared she’s going to find something and use it as an excuse to try and get something out of me.

I’m really not sure what to do at this point. I’m scared of being taken advantage of and I don’t know how to handle the situation. I’m considering talking to HR about it, but I’m not sure if that would even help at this point.

All I know is that I’m scared of what might happen and I’m trying my best to stay professional and do my job. I just hope that she doesn’t try anything and that I can eventually get out of this situation unscathed.

I let my friend’s dog lick my balls

This happened about 10 years ago, so I might not get everything 100% correct.

I was best friends with this guy who was my age. In fact, it was the friend who introduced me to a few adult sites. I would sleep over at his house almost every weekend at best and we would often watch explicit movies from late night TV or adult material on our own phones.

We never really talked about it, but we would kinda jerk together. What I mean by this, is that we both would jerk in the same room, at the same time, under our blankets, and even tough we both knew what was happening, we wouldn’t aknowledge it.

We just pretended we were’nt doing anything. (Side note: we never slept or jerked off in the same bed. One of us would usually be laying/sleeping on the floor, while the other one was on the bed/couch).

One time when I was sleeping at his house (just the two of us, I don’t think anyone else was home), I was on his sofa-bed and he was laying on the floor infront of me, basically below me.

I remember that I knew somehow that he was jerking, so I decided to do the same. I was basically using one leg to keep the blanket up, almost as a tent, so I could freely jerk off.

I don’t remeber if he knew what I was doing, but he didn’t look at me once during it. All of a sudden his family’s little dog (I don’t know the breed) came in to the room and decided it would be a good idea to crawl under the blanket to me.

I don’t know if it was because of the sweat or what, but the dog started to lick my balls with his tiny tongue. At first I tried to shoo it away, but he kept licking.

To be honest, it was (and still probaly is) the greatest feeling I’ve ever felt, as the dog licked my nuts and I came. I then got the dog to leave and pretended nothing happened, my friend didn’t know anything.

About a year or so after that I moved to another city with my family, but I would still come visit my home town every other weekend and see the friend.

After a few years from what had happened, my friend told me the dog had died. It was then that I confessed to him what had happened, but my friend didn’t believe me, thinking I was joking (I’m known around my friends for my weird sense of humor).

I felt relieved to have told him it, but some time after I started to feel weird about it. Eventually I lost connection with him and I haven’t spoken to him in propably 7 years or so.

HR accepted another candidate and I kept being strung along

The HR from an SME company reached out to me. She send me the application form and said she need it within one hour time. After filling up and sending her she called me to schedule an interview. I was elated, the next day when I was on my way to the company for an interview. She called me and said we already shortlisted a candidate today. I was agitated but I remained calm and thank her and hang up.

The next day she called me and asked if I’m still available for the interview claiming that the candidate didn’t sign the offer letter. She send me a calendar invite for the face-to-face interview and asked me to be there early. Upon arrival at the office, she told me the interview was cancelled we hired a candidate earlier before you came.

I did not utter a word and left the place immediately. On my way home, I was crying hysterically. But after crying I realized one point, I did my part by attending the interview and arriving early.

It was the company HR who is terrible. If you all choose a candidate it’s perfectly fine with me. Do have the basic courtesy to inform the other candidates.

On a positive note, I think it’s a good opportunity for me to witness such a terrible company with the worst ethics.

Here are what netizens think:

• You should named the company so other people can avoid wasting their time.

• This kind of company should be ban from posting job ads.

A girl shared how she was dating her then-boyfriend and sacrificed a lot for him, only for him to dump her because his friends influenced him to.

Here is the story:

“I went into a relationship with this guy last year and he was my first ever boyfriend. I put all my heart and effort in it, giving him all of my free time even though I was busy with uni because I didn’t have any financial power to buy gifts for him.

During the year, I even pushed away most of my friends and befriended his friends instead and I think I got along pretty well with all of them because we would play games together.

It’s been a year and recently I found out that his friends disagreed with our relationship and eventually influenced him to break up with me.

I feel so sad and betrayed because I still had so much feelings for him and I never did anything wrong (betrayal etc) in the relationship.

It’s simply because he started losing feelings for me and the shit talk from his friends. I don’t get why his friends would do that since both of us are their friends too.

Now he still wants to stay in contact with me as friends but I don’t know if I can do it. I gave myself time after the breakup but I still feel very hurt when I think about hanging out with them again.

He said his friends disapprove with the relationship but are still okay to play with me as a friend.

What should I do now?”

Editor’s note: Block him and forget about him, he’s not worth it.