I found the word “Divorce” in my husband’s yearly goal section of his “Life Goals Notebook”

I don’t understand. We’ve 29F & 33M been happily married for 3 yrs. About to try for a baby together.

He had a job opportunity overseas that he really wanted but I told him I wasn’t going to accept leaving home and basically uprooting my life. He said he was over it and stopped talking about it.

I found the word divorce while looking at his yearly goal section of the new life goal notebook he got a month ago.

This was the biggest shock in my life so far, I haven’t brought it up to yet and I don’t know why.

I feel awful, just completely shocked and can’t even look him in the face especially when he’s acting like nothing’s wrong.

I’m also afraid of what he might be planning to do. I sense a shaky future and unstable life already. I’m so devastated right now.

Netizens’ comments

• Better have a conversation before children are in the picture

• WARNING! DO NOT TRY FOR A BABY!

I’m a guy and I have a thing for giant male robots

I started developing this taste ever since I was a kid, I’ve always liked big robots. I never felt attracted to any women or men, though I only feel attracted towards male robots.

Optimus Prime is by far the one I’m most attracted to, he just seems so dominant, his voice, personality and size make me feel extremely attracted to him.

This may sound very weird, but if it was possible, I would like him to get intimate with me.

I never told anyone about this and I don’t plan to, which is I’m posting it here since I don’t have anywhere else to get it off of my chest.

Netizens’ comments

• “I like big bots and I cannot lie”

• I’m Michael Bay and I support this message.

My (28F) bf (27M) insinuates im high maintenance and it kinda pissed me off. For context , we always go dutch. Even my birthday dinner i paid for it. We normally eat home cooked meals or kopitiam/ food court and probably eat at restaurants once a month. He doesnt buy me flowers or gifts and i dont ever ask for it.

Frankly, i cook and clean ( i wash the toilets too ). On the other hand , he has never washed a toilet in his life. I think im considerably low maintenance already.

When i look at my female friends , most of their bf pay for all their things and never expect them to cook or clean. Most girls i know also get driven around by their partners too.

Tbf , im his first girlfriend. I think he has not seen what kind of high maintenance girls are out there.

Money or time question : his sentence was related to bringing me out and my type of clothes.

Dont worry my bf is a great guy , im just here to rant cause i dont wanna discuss with him while im angry. I also dont like to rant abt my rs to ppl who know him in rl ( my friends & family )

Also, people who said im seeking validation. Would you have said the same thing is the genders were reversed ? The same people would asked me to dump that unappreciative woman LOL

Here are what netizens think:

• To me, as a girl, high maintainance is probably one of these few things. Drinking BBT or barista coffee everytime you go out. Needing to eat at cafe and restaurants every week. Only buying branded clothes and bags. Doing gelish every month. Taking grab everywhere you go. If going to restaurants on special occasions is high maintenance then he’s either dirt poor or a miser. If he want to prepare a special meal then it’s a different story. If not what does he expect, eat cai png for birthday? I’m sorry but he sounds like he doesn’t even want to maintain a gf.

• I dont really buy branded clothes or bag ( i have 1 branded bag and wallet ). I rarely take grab and i dont do manicure at all haha. Maintaining a gf is very hard for him.. cause he was single for the most of his life.

• My bf was single until 30. He’s… not like your bf. It’s definitely not because he was single for so long, and don’t let him use it as an excuse. Btw I never take grab and I don’t have branded bags, only mid tier ones. But I do get gel mani every month, so I consider myself average maintenance fwiw. He cleans my toilet and my dishes, 2 things which I told him I hate doing.

• Hey, I pay for all these you mentioned for myself but I don’t consider myself high maintenance.

So I am not used to wearing makeup, despite being a S worker. I always worked with no makeup. But in 2015 I got a sugar daddy and haven’t really had to hustle since then.

I know I’m not in a good place, I don’t have certificates and trying to change a job is not as easy as you think, I went for several interviews and no one wants me as I do not have a good history of jobs at my age.

What should I do with my boyfriend who is obsessed with his dogs?

My boyfriend owns 3 dogs and we have been dating for close to a year. I was initially very drawn to his kind and caring nature and his love for animals.

When we first got tgt, the dogs brought fun and laughter into the rs and it was all nice and fun to play with them.

As time progresses, idk is it bc the honeymoon period has faded but it seems his dogs have taken a priority more than me.

A few times, he cancelled dates at the last minute as the dogs needed his attention. When we spend time tgt at his place, I was expected to help him to clean, feed and walk the dogs etc.

Even when we are out, he’ll ask his family to take live videos of his dogs every now and then to see if they are ok.

At times, he replied my msgs very late as he claimed he has to spend time with them. He has said that he will not give up on his dogs even if he were to settle down and have a family and he spends more than 1/2 of his take home pay on them.

I’m not a pet owner myself so I don’t understand if such behavior is common. I’m not really happy but I’m unsure how to approach this. I dw to force him to choose between me and his dogs.

Netizens’ comments

• if you love him, you should love his pets as well… having pets are like having babies/kids. They’re a priority as they’re considered his family. If you leave him, his dogs won’t… until death do they part. When you have a pet you will understand.

• He got his dogs way before he knew you, so for now, you will not be prioritize above his dogs. Besides, what he is doing is just a habit to him, you simply found that out later in the r/s.
  What you really need to do is ask yourself this:- If this is who he is and there is no way you can change him, are you willing to spend your life with him?If your answer is yes, then you will have to tolerate his obession for his dogs, because that is who he is and that is the man you fell for.
  As for you, you should learn to understand why your guy love his dogs so much and also learn to love what he love. That’s the best way to approach this r/s.Your guy is a good guy. At least, his obsession to dogs shows me he is a responsible person.

A man shared his story of how he managed to bump into a woman who took his first time when he visited Geylang in his younger years.

To some people, the first time is important but in this day and age, it’s a bit overrated.

Here is the story:

I cannot believe my eyes, earlier today I was at Geylang as my colleague insisted on going there for some beef kway teow.

It’s been 20 years since I came to Geylang as I do not have any business here and often eat near my home on the Westside.

While we were eating, a familiar woman came and sat at the table next to us. Memories start to flow back and I could not believe my eyes.

When I was still a student, my friend brought me to Geylang to drink and I ended up following them to a “chicken house” and I lost my first to the “chicken”.

Time has not been forgiving for her and she looks like the auntie that sells Bar Chor Mee near my house.

I smiled at her and she smiled back, I then asked if she remember me. Obviously, she does not, there must be tons of customers like me.

But to my surprise, she said “Did I give you a red packet before”. I replied: “Yes!”. She laugh and asked how long has it been since I visited her.

I told her “20 years”, she was surprised as I was still able to remember her.

She said that she is no longer working in that “profession” as her age is no longer suitable, she is working as an admin at an office nearby.

Seems like you will never know who does what, as she looks like a regular office lady now.

I don’t know why my gf love to ask me if she’s fat and get upset no matter how I reply. We have been together for a year and I really dislike it when she ask me these kind of questions because of the way she responds.

My gf is a 32C with a 24 inch waist. She’s 163cm and I think she’s underweight. I memorized her dress size so when we go shopping I would help her find her sizes. She’s a xs or xxs. To me, she’s a goddess no matter what she wears. I made a mental note to be careful because once I passed her a size L clothing and she got upset and asked me if I thought she’s this large. My mistake.

Sometimes she would randomly ask me if she’s fat in an outfit. I would say she looks great and she would sulk and tell me don’t bluff her. Sometimes when she scroll ig she would ask me if this influencer looks skinnier and prettier than her. I always tell her in my eyes her figure and looks are the best. Then she would roll her eyes. I don’t know why she like to ask me these kind of difficult questions.

The other day we argued about this then I asked her if she wanted me to say someone else is prettier than her coz even when I said she’s the best she don’t believe and get more upset. Then she cried. I felt bad.and clueless.

I’m not a smooth talker so I really don’t know how to make her feel good about herself. If I say she’s pretty, wrong. If I say not pretty, which I won’t, also wrong.

I love her very much but I cannot stand answering these kind of silly questions. She said I don’t understand her. I really don’t. Why can’t she just tell me what she wants?

Here are what netizens think:

• If she is occupied with something interesting or useful, she wont have time to think about her body size. All the images she is being exposed to,.give her false impression about body images.What she sees on print, media etc are what they want impressionable girls to focus.She just has too much free time on hand.

• She just fishing for praises and attention. Next time she asks you, you ask her back, “Am I handsome?”Give her hell no matter what response you get. Two can play.

• The reality is that her self-worth is tied to all these numbers and sizes. Therefore nothing you say (or anyone else) will ever change her insecurity.Idw to give her shit for her body issue struggles bcos tbh all these unrealisitc expectations for female bodies come from media and society… But if you aren’t prepared for a lifetime of her mental breakdowns regarding her size (which will naturally change with age), you should leave for your sake.You can’t fix her (nor is it your responsibility) and it’s hard for her to change her unhealthy mindset if that’s the basis of her identity.