My husband plays an online game called World of Warcraft (WoW) and he was upset that our upcoming newborn’s delivery is conflicting with his raid schedule.

I’ve never felt so hurt.

I’ve allowed him to play the game for as long as we’ve been in our 8 year relationship. It’s only the past 3 years that he’s come to bed extremely late.

He talks about the game all the time and I let him indulge in his info-dumping.

I’m set to go to the hospital on Monday as I might be close to delivering our first child. He said that his raid with his guild is on Tuesday and Thursday and he’s fighting the final boss of mythic and this might be his only chance to do it. The baby might be delivered next week.

I don’t know how I feel about this or how to process this. I’m so afraid he will choose the game over us.

Netizens’ comments

• Dafuq? As a former WoW junkie I can say that this is the exact point where he needs to seek help for his addiction. Seriously, when you hit parenthood if you want to play games they need a pause button. So you can go back to it when things have been taken care of.

• You need to talk to him about the fact that for the next six months, he won’t have time or energy to touch that computer. How does he plan to integrate fatherhood into his schedule?

• This was how my first marriage ended. My husband chose raiding over attending the celebration my family held for me when I completed my masters degree.
  I am so sorry you’re going through this. Video game addiction is very real, and very painful for those of us struggling with a family member deep in the depths of it, especially because it’s frequently unrecognized.
  I hear my ex husband no longer plays. I sincerely hope your husband can recognize that this is out of control and become the partner and father you and your child deserve.

I can’t stop cheating

I (19 F) have been in a relationship with my (20 M) boyfriend for 3 years. I love him very much and can’t imagine my life without him but I keep cheating.

We recently got back together after being apart for about 6 months, regardless of being apart we never stopped seeing or talking to each other.

Previously I had cheated on him and we moved on from it (it was not the reason we broke up). We are now very much in love and in a great point of our relationship.

In the time we were broken up I started school and I got many different friends but I became really close to one of them (18 M).

We became best friends and would talk and hang out all the time and he really helped me in my worst. We later became friends with benefits and I had feelings for him but I don’t any more. We were kind of exclusive but we never had an official relationship.

Before getting back together with my boyfriend I was clear and told him I had been with someone else. He asked to cut contact with my friend and as much as it hurt I did.

We recently started talking again and I had been keeping it a secret from my boyfriend. We’ve exchanged some “spicy” photos a couple of times and recently I went to his house and we f-ed.

I feel horrible and I wish I could stop this behavior of mine but I can’t and I don’t know why.

I feel like I don’t deserve my boyfriend or my friend.

I just got fired from my job due to backstabbing charbo colleague (3rd time liao, how to deal with these siaolangs ah)

The most toxic colleagues and bosses i met in my life are females

this time my boss left and a toxic female took over last month and soon i got fired

before u ask, no i didnt set out to offend her and i performed my job well but she and her allies kept spinning and spinning into lies

this is the second time being fired

first time also due to toxic female colleague who ganged up against me with a co-worker to lie that i failed to do something to my boss back then

over the years i have met many toxic colleagues and all are female except 2 are males…

so my question is, i feel like i have an issue dealing with these toxic women who are illogical and unreasonable and just out to get me fired

how to deal with them in the workplace in future?

any suggestions or experiences welcome

Netizens’ comments

1. Once bitten, twice shy. Twice bitten, don’t try. Thrice bitten, you chibai just go and die.
2. You tried to flirt with them and it backfired is it
3. If you get f-ed the first time, that’s on them.
   Second time? That’s on you.
   Third time? I don’t think we can help you.
   You obviously tried to play office politics and is really bad at it
4. 3rd time? Quite obvious it’s your problem
5. I think you are the problem. One actually needs to try real hard to get fired twice.
6. If you say one colleague toxic, maybe it is. If you say two colleagues toxic, maybe you are unlucky. But if you say all your colleagues toxic, probably you need to review yourself.
7. Skill issue. Charbo colleague so easy to win over, just buy them things to eat (those packaging very nice more than $3 a portion kind of snacks) and every now and then say their new bag/hair nice.

My (25F) fiancé (26M) left me alone while I was feeling unwell at a party and then got angry at me for asking my ex (26M) for help.

This happened last weekend during a party. I started feeling woozy and sick so I went to tell my fiancé because I wanted to go home. He never took me seriously and told me to just relax and sit down for a little while. He ended up finding me somewhere to sit and left me there to go hang out with his friends again.

I didn’t feel better, in fact I started to feel worse and I was starting to feel scared because I didn’t know what was happening to me. I felt like I was on the verge of a panic attack and I tried to find my fiancé again but there were too many people and I couldn’t see him. I did find my ex and his friends though.

I ended up going up to him and telling him I didn’t feel good. He and his friends tried to find my fiancé for me but they couldn’t find him anywhere so he ended up taking me home. I live with my older brother and sister-in-law, and my ex explained the situation to them including the fact that my fiancé left me alone and that they couldn’t find him after.

My fiancé came to see me the next day and my brother was so angry at him that he kicked him out after yelling at him, without letting him see me. Now my fiancé is angry at me for going to my ex for help and letting him lie about him. According to him, a friend of his saw me with my ex and it looked like I was “all over him”.

I feel angry at him too for just leaving me when I told him I wasn’t feeling well.

I don’t want to keep fighting about this but he doesn’t seem to think he did anything wrong since he said I didn’t make it clear I was feeling that bad. He said he would’ve taken me home if he realised how serious I was. I don’t know if I should just apologise so we can move past this or not.

What do you guys think? Should I? How else can we resolve this?

So I’m home for the holidays, and I started working at my usual part-time job. They love having me back and could always use the help since it’s a small retail shop. I love working there, but sometimes the people I encounter are…not great, but that’s a story for another day.

On my second day back, a man gave me his number and left. I wasn’t interested so I wasn’t going to text him, but was definitely flattered since I don’t get that attention very often. The next day (yesterday) he came back in, and asked me why I didn’t text him. At this point, I became VERY uncomfortable, because who the EFF does that? If you give someone your number and they don’t text, DON’T BRING IT UP AGAIN, THEY’RE NOT INTERESTED.

He noticed I got uncomfortable and even said “what’s that look for?” I’m not very confrontational, so I didn’t know how to say I was uninterested and just said I was tired because my cat kept waking me up the night before (which was true).

Not to mention I’m in the middle of working and am scared of angering him. I’m almost scared to go back to work because I don’t want to deal with that again. It’s obvious I wasn’t interested, and by the looks of it, he seems to want to keep pushing. He saw I got visibly uncomfortable and still pushed. I hate it.

I’m nice because I have to be, not because I want to be. Men, stop giving women who are working your numbers. They aren’t interested. And don’t bring it up to them again if they don’t text. It just makes things awkward and uncomfortable for us.

Luckily for the next two weeks, I’m on night shift, so hopefully, he doesn’t figure that out and comes and harasses me, especially because I’ll be alone.

Here are what netizens think:

• I think a lot of men are told to go after what they want, don’t take no for an answer, pursue and chase til you win etc. I don’t know if all of those types realize what they are doing is scary and creepy and just flat out cringey or not, but you’d think they’d have a clue by now.

• Suggest as a precaution you start a diary back to the initial coming in and then subsequent things. It would be nice to say nothing will happen from here but it might . Some people can be obsessive. At the time when it gets to the reporting stage documentation is important from management levels to the authorities

• A lot of Men (me included) don’t get much attention from the opposite sex, so when a women is nice to us it’s hard to guess if the interest is genuine or not.

A netizen shared a story about how his friend took pity on a girl who gave him a massage and later asked him for money.

We all know how bad the story will end.

Here is the story:

I went with my friend to Johor 2 weeks ago for a 1-day getaway. Go in eat some Malaysian food get some drinks and a massage.

We were staying at the KSL hotel and we were looking for a massage parlour before we have our meal.

So we randomly walked into one massage unit, the place look very clean at the reception but the rooms look terribly dirty but we already agreed so we went ahead.

My friend and I were led to separate rooms by two Vietnamese ladies and we started our 1-hour massage, the massage feels like a cat making cookies. No power at all sibei rubbish.

After 30 mins or so the lady started to near my special area and I knew what was it and immediately said no.

So I end up getting touched for 1 hour without feeling good at all.

My friend came out about 5mins after me and told me it was fantastic, I bet he paid for the extra services.

We went to eat and my friend describe how much he enjoyed it and took the Wechat contact for the girl for whatever reasons.

I did not think much of it, we went to drink and the 1 day get-away was over.

But the story hasn’t ended, last week he told me he went to Johor again and said that he went to find the massage girl for a date.

I did not go as I was busy working.

Here comes the juicy part, yesterday he called me and said that he need to go to Johor again and asked me to accompany him. He sounded agitated and I asked him why.

He said that during the last weekend he gave the girl $2,000 as her mother needed money for surgery and promised my friend she will pay it back after a month. After giving her the money, the woman disappeared and blocked him on WeChat.

I was thinking in my mind, she works massage must press how many to get $2k, sure cannot one. Plus this kind of story he also believes. Even if we go back to the massage shop to look for her also got a lot of trouble.

So I told him no way I’m going there to start a dispute.

He told me that he had feelings for the girl and trusted her, This is not the first time he got cheated. He is always confused between the feeling of love and the feeling of lust.

He asked me what to do, I tell him there is nothing he can do. Maybe can consider cutting the Ku Ku bird and start thinking with the right head.

Please hear me out, the title sounds horrible.

My mother (43F) is upset by the way my girlfriend greeted her. Im really confused as to why this upset her so much,need advice.

This happened today. My girlfriend (19F) texted me that she was nearby and i was prepared to greet her and walk along since she was going the same way knowing it would be a bit awkward with my mom (conversation wise you know how it is).

My mom however told me to go ahead and greet her and that she would be waiting at the end of the street. It turns out she was going near the shop we were going so i told her we would catch up with my mom and walk together.

We met our mutual friend (19M) along the way and were just walking.

We met my mother at an intersection and my girlfriend was walking up while smiling at her. We stood next to eachother for a minute then my friend shook my moms hand and my gf proceeded to do the same with another smile.

I thought nothing of it but my mom just suddenly said that shed be going home instead.

I insisted on her staying since my gf would be going to her own plans in like 5 minutes of walking.

She just said it again and went home and i just thought she didnt want to make anything awkward and told me to check the shoes and call her about it.

After like 20 minutes i finished everything and went home only for her to rage out.

She said nothing was my fault but she feels highly disrespected by my girlfriend because she didnt say “Good day” she just shook her hand (note: in my country and in our language it is concidered a polite way of greeting someones parent or someone in general).

She also says that she only did it when my friend did it first. (Which she did but she greeted her normally and all i think she would have done it anyways)

She said that my gf was looking at her “from above” as in that she thinks shes below her and that i shouldnt mention her to her again and that she felt extremely disrespected. My girlfriend isnt like that and i know she doesnt look at anyone in any way but she wont listen to me.

From my pov it just looked like a normal smiling handshake they both looked normal and all. I didnt expect it to escalate to something like this.

What should i do? Is this considered my girlfriend being rude?

I’ve been in a relationship with my gf for over three years now. Ngl after we got together, she stopped bothering about her image and appearance and look nothing like how she was in the past (gained weight, don’t make makeup). My gf also pays me very little attention these days and our lives are becoming more monotonous and routine.

I wanted to feel validated by the opposite sex so I started using dating apps. I have no intentions to cheat, I just wanna know my market value as a dude and whether I’m still in demand. I wasn’t the most popular dude on dating apps but not too shabby either (few matches per day).

But lo and behold! The girls I get suggested on the dating apps are all dino bus. Either they are old, fat and ugly or young, ugly and dumb. There’s the occasional chio one but as expected I don’t get a reply. The number of likes I get are crazy low compared to years ago when I was active on the app. This hugely damaged my confidence as a hot young male.

In a desperate attempt, I changed my gender preferences in the app to be male and started seeing male suggestions. Holy cow, I was getting over 10 likes a day from the dudes. It felt good. I liked a few of them back and started chatting. Some of them are super funny and flirty. I really enjoyed chatting with them. They made me feel super wanted and validated. This is the validation I have been craving for, though I didn’t expect it to be coming from males.

Now I’m super confused. Am I bisexual because I’m enjoying attention from guys? Should I turn gay and break up with my gf so that I can be with these guys who want me so badly?

Here are what netizens think:

Clearly you’re gay, since you hate women so much and you enjoy the attention from men and talking to men.

You’re not special bro.I left my preferences on male to female by accident on tinder last time, went to take a shower, and came back with 100 new likes, all from guys.

Practise dropping the soap