Anecdotally, how bad are you experiencing shrinkflation?

Today I ordered dinner for myself through Deliveroo. I used to love their bowls because the portions are always so huge I have a little bit left over for a snack later if I’m hungry. I hadn’t ordered in awhile so I thought why not.

Once the food arrived though I noticed it’s substantially smaller and less than it used to be while still being more expensive.

Feels like shrinkflation hit especially hard this year and it’s not just this restaurant which has smaller but yet more expensive portions..

Could be because of the gst hike to 8% which would only make next year worse.. has anyone else been feeling the same way?

Netizens’ comments

1. Eateries always do that kinda crap.
   Ingredients became expensive, so raise the price to cover the cost. Oh yeah, let me cut the portion too, to cut the cost. Don’t forget to give less bonus to the workers while at it. Nice side dish? Nah, we don’t do that anymore.
   The problem with them is, when something comes with a price hike, they triple down on it to justify their own greed. When nobody wants to go to their shop anymore, they blame the price hike.
   Like many chicken rice stalls for example, raw chicken becomes +2/3 SGD. 1 chicken on average can serve 10 plates (depending on the store). Each plate they +2 SGD and cut down the amount of chicken meat given at the same time. Good gracious.
2. When chicken become expensive=make smaller charge higher. When chicken become not so expensive=might as well raise the price blaming inflation and other reasons while keeping the smaller portions cos we obviously don’t see people complaining
3. I stopped eating out entirely. It’s not a matter of affordability. It’s about getting your money’s worth.
4. filet o fish. smaller bun and patty, half a slice of cheese instead of a full slice.
   absolutely hate shrinkflation. i mean, i don’t mind paying a bit more for the same product given rising costs, but at least give me the same product instead of a smaller/lousier one.
   edit: several replies below have indicated that it has always been half a slice of cheese, so i could be wrong. but either way – half a slice or not – i think most of us can agree that the size of the cheese has shrunk!
5. Deleting grab app has been my best decision recently.

I’m 30M and my GF is 36F. We’ve been together for about 6 years. Is it normal for 36-year-old women to be too tired for bedtime activities about 3 times a week? A lot of the time when I try to initiate she says she’s too tired.

I was wondering if she’s too tired due to work, but I’m also in the same line of work as her. Her working hours might be a bit longer than mine, but there’s not much difference.

Then I thought maybe she wasn’t really enjoying it? But when we do it, she does actually get quite wet.

What other possible reasons are there?

It has been like that for quite a while already, around 4 years. For the last few years I’ve just resorted to relieving myself but I don’t feel like doing that for the rest of my life.

Maybe another possible reason is that I take too long to ‘finish’? Usually, we do it for around 30 mins until she says she starts to feel tired down there so we transition to other kinds of “jobs”.

At least she manages to get the job done eventually. But a lot of the time I can see she starts to look kinda tired and I have to try to finish it asap or else she might start pulling a long face and looking a bit sulky.

So is it normal for 36F to feel tired or kinda sore down there after about 30 mins?

Here is what netizens think

• A few points to consider here. Are you two staying together? Is she doing the housework alone? What position is your 30 minutes in?If she doing housework alone, of course she feel tired everyday taking care of a big child. If the whole 30 minutes she is the only one moving then of course she has to be tired.
• Its you and her. Trust me. I’ve done an hour before, and if you’re with the right partner, it’s never tired

A Grabfood delivery rider shared his creepy experiences delivering food at midnight, including getting an order to send to a cemetery, and seeing a pontianak at the side of the road.

Here is what he said

I have been working as a Grabfood rider since 2019 after I ORDed from the army, and I have seen my fair share of creepy and spooky incidents.

Reason why I work as a food delivery rider, is because I don’t have much education, last time always play punk in school, and because if you work hard with Grabfood, you can bring home $2k-$3k comfortably, but must whack the orders ah.

I deliver food using my Vespa, so okay ah not bad and not as tough as the cyclists, especially when going uphill.

Delivery order from cemetery at 1am

Anyway there was once I was doing food delivery at night, and at the time I had no orders, so I was smoking beside my motor and waiting for the order to come in.

I was at Jurong Point when I got an order from McDonald’s, I took a quick glance at my phone before hurrying to the outlet to grab the food, because I was trying to do more orders for the day.

I picked up the food and opened my phone and saw that the delivery location was at Cemetery North Street, at Lim Chu Kang Cemetery.

The time was about 1am and although it was the middle of the night, ok la still got people around so I not that scared.

I thought maybe somebody working at the cemetery ordered supper or something, and I just making a living so I just go je.

Along the way as I riding, it felt very eerie, because the further away i rode, the more ulu it was along Jalan Bahar, and I was riding with my headlight on near the cemetery entrance.

You can try ah, riding at 1am alone outside a cemetery in the darkness, damn scary.

I following my GPS location and reached the place but cannot find anyone to pass the food to, I message and called the customer from the app but no reply and no answer.

I called grab support and they also cannot reach the customer, so bopian ah end up I eat the food myself.

Not really anything supernatural or paranormal, but the experience was quite scary.

Pontianak

Another creepy incident that happened to me is definitely supernatural.

Because I usually do most of my orders at night, I spend a lot of my time on the road at night until the sun rise, because the weather more cooling and peaceful ah.

So I was sending one order near Boon Lay and riding on this road by myself when I suddenly smelled frangipani flowers.

It was quite weird because there wasn’t much trees or even flowers around and I wearing full face helmet, so how to smell anything? Unless the source of the smell is inside my helmet or very near me.

I then heard a woman laughing, and it sound like it come from beside me. But I riding motor sia, how to have someone laughing beside me?

I look to my right because that was where the sound was coming from but nothing ah, I then turn my head back to look in front of where I was riding and in the distance I saw a white figure standing at the side of the road.

I sped past the figure and thought okay ah maybe tired, imagining things, then astaghfirullah I saw the same figure standing at the side of the road again.

And the frangipani smell getting stronger and I starting panic already, so i faster ride away and when I saw another car in front I was damn happy because finally got someone else.

I knocked on the driver’s window at a red light ah, and asked him if he saw the same thing I saw, and the uncle nodded his head.

I very badly wanted to use the word “pontianak” but I know if I said it out, sure kena one. But I know that the uncle knew what I was talking about.

He tell me that road quite dirty ah, he drive down here all the time and see many times already, tell me to just say a prayer and go home bathe and wash away the bad luck.

So I’ve been dejectedly frustrated at myself for what I did in the past 3 hours and wanted to vent, so sorry for the long post.

I wanted to try casual dating on Tinder and have been trying to meet up with people, and I decided to sign up using only my computer to talk to people (big mistake).

So, I matched with a guy nearby and we called each other to verify each other’s identity, and he told me that he also has been wanting to meet with people but every time he tried it has been a bust. He was really sweet and really tired of the failed conversations.

So we agreed to meet today to hook up at a specific hotel which he paid for $100~, and before we went there we met up at a mall parking lot to talk. I waited there for a while and it took a minute to recognize each other, and I told him I only use Tinder on my laptop so I couldn’t contact him on my phone, and that was the best time to exchange contact info, which didn’t happen. (big mistake x2)

We decided to drive separately to the hotel, and I used Google Maps to guide me. When I got there I sat there for 30 minutes looking for him. Since I didn’t have Tinder on my phone I wasn’t able to message to him, and I tried to contact him by opening Tinder on my phone. Since Tinder requires a phone number and an email (that I didn’t have on my phone) I couldn’t log in.

So, I tried logging into Tinder by finding an account with my email, and since Tinder said it found my account I hoped that it would let me access it. (big mistake x3)

Welp. It created a new account with my number and email, and I was told to refill all my info (I hoped that it would log me rather than creating a new account). This would end up resetting my Tinder account and losing all of my contacts. This logged me out of my Tinder account on the computer. So I have no way of messaging him since we didn’t exchange any sort of contact info. (which I realized now I just should’ve asked)

I logged in on my computer and started swiping madly to find the him. I actually found him again after a couple swipes, and then I realized I should have super-liked him so he would hopefully see my new account. (big mistake x4)

By this time I was reviewing in my head what could have gone wrong and then I looked on Google Maps and realized I went to the wrong hotel. I felt so bad.

I went out with a guy last week that I like, we actually met a few years ago at a bar and kissed when we had been drinking, but it didn’t progress into anything and we just stayed friends and talked occasionally on social media.

I didn’t see him for almost 2 years because I was studying overseas, but then I just moved back to Singapore, and we went out on a date last week.

He was really nice, we went to dinner, he paid, and then we went to a bar to listen to some music with his friends.

Afterwards, we went to his apartment and were watching TV in his bed. He didn’t try to pressure me into anything, but I could tell he probably wanted to hook up because of some of his body language.

lol, but I just kinda ignored it because I didn’t feel like I know him well enough at this time to do it with him. We kissed for a while but that was it.

I haven’t heard anything from him since last week when I left his apartment. I did text him first once that day about something random but his answers were really short, so I stopped trying to make conversation. Before we went to his apartment (still during the date) he kept talking about “oh we should do this together” or “we should take this trip!” together so it seemed like he was interested in pursuing a relationship may be or at least getting to know me more.

Do you all think he just wanted to hook up and isn’t reaching out to me anymore because of it?

I feel kinda disappointed bc I feel like we had a fun time and I like spending time with him, but if he was just interested in a hookup I guess I shouldn’t be wasting my time with him anyway. I don’t know.

Here are what netizens think:

• Maybe he felt you were uncomfortable with him?
• Reach out and start a normal conversation. Then you will understand what he feels or needs
• You gave him the ultimate blue balls, u kiss him went to his apartment and leave him hanging, now your expecting him to give you more effort? Give and take.
• leave him alone. You gave him messages on date night and he interpreted them in the most respectful way possible. Now he’s given you some: you should respect them.
• It is a great idea to try and clear it up with him. And it would be even better to start that conversation by explaining the reason for your actions, which he likely perceived as a lack of interest.

I (26F) have been dating an amazing guy G (49M) for the past 8 months. He has a razor sharp wit, impeccable manners and is always the life of the party. Although he’s no Tom Cruise in terms of looks, he is in pretty good shape for his age and is always well-groomed and put together (definitely my cup of tea!).

He is also very successful career-wise as the APAC head of operations in a big MNC. He has made me as happy as a girl can be in the time we have been together, and I feel like he could be the Mr Darcy to my Elizabeth, the Richard Gere to my Julia Roberts.

G has always said that he’s a family man, and he is 100% certain that he would want to have children of his own (at least 3!). I know he loves children as he is the favourite uncle of all his nieces and nephews, and spends a fair bit of time helping them with schoolwork and taking them out to fun places. However, there’s just one thing that I’ve been puzzling over- if G seems like such a great catch and if he wants to start his own family so badly, why is he still unmarried? Weirdly, he doesn’t seem to be in too much of a hurry although he’s almost approaching his 50s. He has given me no reason not to trust him, so I believe him when he says he’s never had any children of his own or been married before.

Should I approach him directly to ask him why he’s never married and has no children?

I don’t want to make him uncomfortable or come off as rude, and I definitely don’t want to scare him off, but I just find it hard to believe that such a charming man has never found himself a bride. Should I give him more time and wait to see if he opens up to me by himself?

We’ve joked off-hand a few times about what our children might be like and the kind of house we’d like to buy together, but perhaps they were said in jest, idk. I hope I’m not getting too carried away, but if he asked me to marry him today, I’d honestly say yes in a heartbeat. Dear reader, pray tell- am I being foolish?

How do I deal with a husband who lives in his own world?

I married my husband in 2018, and everything was good at the beginning until he decided to run an F&B business in 2020.

He has no idea about the amount of salt and sugar needed for cooking, but he made the decision to open the business with his friend (from decision to grand opening in less than 6 months). Unfortunately, his friend is also not a cook. Because he couldn’t see him fail, I decided to help him, and that’s when all the nightmares started.

He is not a detailed person, so I’m forced to take care of the ordering part with suppliers and train the staff with daily operations. My job doesn’t end there; after finishing at the outlet, I still need to check on my staff cooking at the central kitchen.

He mainly deals with apps, marketing, and driving for Grab to cover monthly expenses. He mentioned that the business is just starting, so he can only pay me S$2500 a month for my work. After deducting CPF, I’m left with S$2k on hand. He never asks me to pay for the house, but as a wife, I still buy my daughter’s needs and other items.

In August, he kept bringing me and my in-laws to view houses. When I asked if he wanted to buy a new house, he said it was just for viewing.

Since he’s used to watching property videos, I trusted his word. We viewed a few condos, and he asked for my opinion. We visited one at the east coast, and the salesgirl mentioned the price would increase. After viewing, he seemed really interested, and we signed the purchase agreement at midnight.

At that time, our previous house hadn’t been sold, and the new house wouldn’t be completed until 2023. So in a rush, we sold our house and moved to a rented condo.

He is the kind of person who doesn’t listen to objections. I told him I wasn’t ready for such a big purchase, but he said I didn’t need to pay; helping him pay the maintenance fee was enough.

Then in September, he didn’t end his dreams. He decided to open another outlet at Heartland Mall, but all the responsibilities still fell on me. He mainly dealt with the renovation team, but the setup was done by me and my team.

At this point, I was already exhausted, emotionally unstable, quick to anger, and lacked patience. After setting up the new outlet, he surprised me again by getting a 2.5-month-old puppy for Christmas.

Despite expressing my lack of confidence in handling so much, he chose to ignore my words. His role in the family involves sitting down, watching TV, checking his phone, sleeping, and spending time in the toilet. There isn’t much interaction between him, my daughter, me, and the puppy.

We quarrel a lot about this, and he claims I have anger management issues. To prove him wrong, I booked a psychological counseling session. After the session, the psychologist stated that I don’t have anger management issues; I’m just overworked, lost, and insecure about his decisions.

My husband isn’t the sweet talker type. Since our marriage until now, he has only given me one Apple Watch as a gift. If I ask for more, he says he already provides me with a house, WiFi, Netflix, and the title of a lady boss.

He believes that the S$2000 salary is enough for me to spend. However, knowing his stingy character, when the outlet doesn’t need me, I still work as a part-time nurse to earn extra income.

Now I’m in a dilemma; should I ask for a divorce since my efforts are not appreciated by him, and the most important issue is I don’t know what kind of surprise he will give me in the future.

my job is horrific. I work in an extremely toxic environment with extremely toxic people. I work 12-16 hour shifts as essential personnel, see no sunlight, and chained to my desk. We get extremely passive aggressive emails from our leadership encouraging us to quit if we disagree with their choices (promoting people to leadership positions with no experience or time on, offering people special positions without opening to everyone, etc). Everyone but my immediate team (of 5 of us, 3 of which who have been here 5+ years) got $1k raises; we received nothing.

In my 5 years here, I have only seen 1 pay raise of 2% when I became a trainer after 4years. We just got a 15% pay cut since they deemed we are out of covid. I already made no money and can barely afford bread or a simple meal.

I have been here with this bs for 5 years. I am drained physically, mentally, and emotionally. I have been trying to get out for years now, but covid threw a wrench in that.

I was offered a position for life-changing money on a phenomenal team (they all have been so lovely to work with) with a world-renowned company. I cannot begin to express how eager I am to leave this workplace for them. I’d give 1 hour’s notice for quitting if I could today.

My offer is contingent on my background stuff crossing over to them correctly. My PM said it would realistically take 5-7 business days if he had to guess. Today is day 7. I have heard nothing yet.

I am desperate to get the ball rolling and on my way out of hell. I have had a breakdown every day of week. It’s destroying me, it’s destroying my relationship.

How do I remain patient? How do I eagerly follow up asking for a timeline so I know how much longer I have to suffer for? There’s no light at the end right now and I need something to hold on to.

Here are what netizens think

• Definitely follow up to see the status of your application. I’d also put applications to other jobs just to keep your mind busy. I was in a situation exactly like yours only I couldn’t wait any longer. I left with no job prospects, and honestly couldn’t be happier with my decision.

• Stay strong, keep the passive aggressive emails to a minimum, and try not to cuss anyone out! Also if you can, fwd those micro managing damning emails that make you want to flip your desk and burn the place to the ground to your personal email. I like to read these every now and again to re-affirm my choices. Or some could even be useful in a lawsuit one day!

• Hang in there, and applying for other jobs isn’t a bad idea. When it comes to jobs, your backups should have backups. Recruiters have people drop out mid-process all the time. They’re used to it. So keep looking pretty much until you start your new job.

• Mass application of jobs

Boyfriend throws a fit when I’m not in the mood for sex

My (27f) boyfriend (40m) just came over the other day and we were watching stranger things, he starts nodding off, so I recommended he take a shower and go to bed.

I’m laying in bed, he gets on top of me and wanted to have intercourse, I say I’m not in the mood. He goes berserk.

Claims it’s not normal to not want to hop right onto your partner after not seeing them for a while (it was like a week) and we were about to go to bed anyway.

I love him very much and am definitely attracted to him, but every time I’m not in the mood and he is, he claims I’m not attracted to him and that “he isn’t an idiot” and “has been here before.”

Am I missing something? Every relationship is more intimate in the beginning, it wanes down a little bit once you’re in a serious relationship.

Plus I’m moving in with him in 2 weeks, I’m broke, I’m going back to school, going through a friend breakup, and am having family issues.

It feels like he has no regard at all for the stress I have going on in my life. Intimacy is absolutely not a priority for me right now, and so no, I am not in the mood too much lately.

It feels like he’s taking out his own insecurities on me, and I’m not sure I can deal with this long term. Thoughts?