I told my brother that if he proposed to my ex-girlfriend, I wouldn’t show up to the wedding or speak to him ever again?

My older brother is in a serious relationship with a woman who I dated. They have been together for three years. Prior to that she and I had dated for 5 years.

We were poly school sweethearts, and I was deeply in love with her. She dumped me seemingly out of nowhere and about 3 weeks later they went on their “first” date, she was in a relationship with my older brother. I have no proof of overlap. I have no proof that she was talking to him at the same time as she was dating me. Honestly, I didn’t want to look for the proof as I didn’t want to damage our relationship over a girl however, I think it’s pretty obvious. This feeling has been in my mind for years and part of me resents them for it. I also feel kind of betrayed that my older brother would shack up with a girl who dumped me while I was still trying to get over her.

This week, my brother announced that he was going to propose to her. Everyone in my family was happy for him except me. I couldn’t be. He is marrying someone who I saw myself marrying for years because he picked her up while I wasn’t looking. I tried to hide it but I couldn’t suppress it anymore. After I got the news, I called my brother and gave it to him straight. I told him that I couldn’t be happy for him and that I couldn’t let this be a part of my life anymore. I told him that if he proposes to her I won’t be at his wedding because I will no longer consider him my brother. He will be a stranger to me.

He was upset. He told me that I need to get over the past and that if she wanted to be with me, she wouldn’t have left me for him in the first place. He said that I was being immature and making his proposal and his relationship all about me. I felt like I was being pretty generous with this.

All of my family is mad at me and is on his side. They all think I’m jealous and just looking to start a fight over this girl. I don’t want to cause drama, if he wants to propose that’s his decision and I will make mine.

An employer shared how his employee left without serving their notice and the unhappiness started when his other employees were unhappy about the food the FT is eating as it smells.

The boss offered the foreign employees free lunch but they took offence to the kind gesture.

Here is the story:

I have an employee who brings in strong-smelling foods into our small open office. Things like fish and some fermented food which is then microwaved.

Other employees have to open their windows and I’ve received complaints from people who enter our area. I’ve asked them to not bring these foods and was told they were cultural dishes and I was being racist.

I did not know what to do I didn’t mind cause half the time I’m not in the office but my other local employees are making noise about it.

I tried to be nice and offered the foreign employees free local lunch so the office will smell nicer but instead of being thankful to me, they quit without serving notice.

I gave them a job, buy them lunch and they quit. Good luck in finding another job without leaving Singapore.

After quitting for several days, they told me to not cancel their permit but they left their job without serving notice. I told them what they did was extremely irresponsible, and they offered to come back and serve their notice until I can find a replacement. 

But no way I’m going to do that, I’m going to cancel all their work pass immediately.

The term pay peanuts get monkeys are real indeed.

Performance of Aging Men

As women get older we tend to get more disinterested in seggs. Many no longer want it especially after kids.

However, not all aging men face reduced libido. Some old men still “want it”.

However, seggs is almost always not as good with an old man, especially if they do not exercise or have poor stamina. By old, I mean those aged 40 and above.

Worse still if they smoke or are obese.

They are usually unable to perform consistent measured thrusts in a position that provides maximum pleasure to their partner without heaving, panting, sweating and turning blue – all of which can be very distracting for a woman who’s trying to climax. Older men simply cannot pleasure effortlessly. Penetrative seggs which is (more) important for men unfortunately becomes very displeasurable for most women in the case of older men. Further more, older men tend to have this aging and rotting “stench”. Which comes back shortly after a shower.

I just hope that older men could be more “self-aware” such that even though they still “want it” they need to recognise that they’re no longer desirable and shouldn’t impose themselves on younger girls or even their own partner.

I am not saying that older men should not be allowed to want it just because they’re no longer the strong handsome stallion they were.

BUT be thoughtful. Don’t be delusional and feel good about yourself just because a lady agrees to have seggs with you. Instead, remember to be apologetic and thankful everytime your partner or a lady agrees to sleep with you.

Those who can afford it, think of the things they can buy to adequately compensate the torment that their partners have to endure due to bad sex.

“Love” could be a reason why people decide to tolerate bad seggs but repeated bad seggs can do a lot of damage and be very trying to “love” and I wouldn’t recommend subjecting “love” to bad seggs.