Screw adulthood lol it’s so tiring

Is it just me or there’s just seems to be countless issues to deal with? Firstly there seem to be not enough time for everything, I’m like always planning when to study, when to submit my assignments and get stressed easily.

Work can be stressful for those who are working. Financial issues, everything is so expensive now due to inflation. Social issues, am grappling with some friendship issues rn as well. Family stuffs here and there that everyone got to handle.

Some of us may have other issues like relationship issues? Used to be in a bad rs and was plagued with issues lol. And I guess though lesser now, pandemic woes can be a concern for some.

How do y’all deal with it when stress gets overwhelming? I’ve tried doing things I like to do which are stress relievers, but they always seem to be just a temporary distraction, and when I’m done all the thoughts come back again.

Trying to be positive but been feeling like this for days

Netizens’ comments

Figure out what matters to you most, focus on those things. When those things get tiring, focus on some other things, maybe your hobbies.

Learn to take things as they come, no point to worry about things too much if they are just a possibility. Not everything has to be a big issue to you, you can think about it but don’t let it be something that you have to worry about, such as international happenings.

My Tinder date said he hopes my dog dies from carbon monoxide poisoning after I had to cancel last minute because there was a massive fire in my building

I’m laughing so hard right now. You can’t make this up. My stomach hurts so much from laughing lmao.

I was supposed to meet a guy for coffee today and while I was getting ready an electrical fire broke out in my downstairs neighbor’s apartment. His whole apartment burned out, we all had to evacuate because the entire building filled with smoke and toxic gas

I was literally standing on the side of the road with my dog, when I texted my date that I wouldn’t make it because there was a fire and that I was really sorry to cancel last minute.

I even sent him pictures because I thought that it was just too crazy to believe. I didn’t want him to think I made it up to get out of the date last minute. I actually looked forward to it because he seemed like a genuinely nice guy. We didn’t talk for long because he suggested a meeting right away which might have been a little suspicious but I had nothing else to do so I thought why not and started getting ready to meet him after just 3 hours of texting. (Don’t worry we were gonna meet in a public space, Im not that crazy lol)

Anyways, he got mad, called me 13 times because he had “already arrived at the cafe and now drove all this way for nothing”. He literally lives like a 10 min car ride away. I told him off for being angry and said it’s not my fault and to stop calling me, that I didn’t have time to talk to him right now because I was consoling my neighbor who had a breakdown because his cat had not been found yet.

My dog was shaking really hard because of all the noise and excitement and smoke and my sobbing and screaming neighbor. All of it really traumatized him. That’s why when my date suggested to meet up a few hours later I declined with the reason that my dog is super panicked and I didn’t want to leave him alone after going thru this scary experience.

Well that’s when this guy decided it was a good idea to say that he hopes my dog dies from the smoke inhalation because apparently my dogs mental state shouldn’t be more important than the dates I set up with humans. I laughed so hard and blocked him everywhere. I still cant believe this all happened today within the last 4 hours but I guess it’s good that I have something ridiculous to laugh about that distracts me from this whole disaster because I would probably cry otherwise lol

With the number of scams out there, one always has to be careful who they talk to. A woman shared how she was scammed after talking to a man on Facebook.

Here is the story:

I knew Justin (jwc) from facebook and he portrayed a luxurious life with strong forex trading. Taking a leap of faith, I opened a trading account and made money at first. He then asked me to pool the money with him as he is having too many customers and is hard to do the trading 1 by 1.

He also has some investors to transfer money to me and said that it can be held as collateral and profit disbursement as his personal bank account is constantly maxed out with transactions daily. Things started to get ugly when he couldn’t give us back the weekly profit as promised. I then received a text saying that I may have transferred money to an account related to an investment scam which I made a police report promptly.

His investors that transferred money to me also made a police report against him but as the money was transferred to me before RELEASING it to him, I’m now implicated and my bank account is frozen. I called up the investigation officer and was told that i’ll be called down for an investigation.

I now live in anxiety as i have 2 young daughters and a wife to feed and this happened just because i trusted his forex investments.

Avoiding scams:

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Does anyone have a problem of arguing with everyone in their life?

My parents hated me since I learned to talk because of this. And I started arguing with people online.

At work, no one likes me because I have strong views and argue with everyone. My friends also do not like me because of this, I kept quiet to make friends and the moment I tell my views, no one wants to hang out anymore.

In my defense, I think that everybody else is wrong. But I don’t want to argue. How do I be “normal” like everyone else and have peaceful conversations?

Netizens comments

• I guess you could try to see things from a different perspective? Like try to face the issue from others’ point of view. And don’t be so quick to disagree or disapprove someone’s view. Be cool-headed, calm and collected. All the best 🙂

• “i think that everyone is wrong” LOL

Nothing wrong with this tbh its just what you do after, are you talking down and being rude to people telling them they are wrong and you are always right? (assuming this is the case since everyone hates you lmfao) Could it also be that its not so clear as your are right and they are wrong and more that both you and the other party are right and its just a matter of perspective/understanding? Try not to look/talk down to people just because you are right, try to be more compassionate and understanding and talk to people kindly, not with a know it all attitude. Noone likes that.

• “In my defense, I think that everybody else is wrong.”
  That’s the root of the problem. Nobody is correct 100% of the time, that includes you. Having an ego that isn’t humbled down gives rise to cognitive biases and makes us think we’re right all the time.

Don’t focus on wanting to be right, focus on getting it right. What that means is, treat conversations as if you and anyone who are discussing on a particular topic, are both doing so to get to the truth in a neutral way that considers both party’s points of view and objective evidences/logical thinking. Not your version of truth or their version of truth. I understand this can be difficult because not everyone has this mindset and some people just want to proof they’re right. If you think they’re wrong, don’t use labels (idiot, fool etc), don’t use directly/passive aggressive language and don’t talk over them loudly. Those only serve to set up a heated argument, not a constructive discussion.

Learning when is the right time to convey your thoughts, and doing so tactfully is important. For example, if you and your group of friends are just talking about what food tastes the best, there’s no point arguing with them over something as trivial as this. Next time you want to argue with someone, ask yourself, is starting an argument with them a productive thing to do? Or do you just want to show them you’re right to feed your ego? If you just want to feed your ego, then make yourself shut up.

There’s a saying: “Never miss an opportunity to shut up.” – Mark Twain. I repeat this quote to myself if I sense I’m going to start a foolish and meaningless argument with someone.

I started working at a company recently. I get along with most of my coworkers but been having some issues with this guy “Morgan”. Morgan from what I understand is what everyone call “the handsome” guy in the office. He dated 2 of our colleague and hit on several others. He seemed friendly when we talked, he seemed respectable and never asked questions outside of work.

He offered to buy me lunch and he kept sending me funny memes and stuff. It was nice but felt a bit too much so I asked that he stop and he did.

He started sending me pics of him that were inappropriate. I texted him saying that I’m married and he was being inappropriate.

Man refused to believe she is married

He texted saying I was lying about being married to get him off my back, then went on about how nice and attractive he is, and how I’m trying to act like I don’t like him to get him to try harder. I felt frustrated especially after he kept sendig me pics. Days ago he sent me a pic of his “beam” and told me to “eat”.

I decided to let my husband deal with it. He sent him a text back saying “sorry bud, small objects are a choking hazard for her”. Then blocked him.

The other day he came into the office looking furious and “confronted” me about being misled by not having a wedding ring on when I’m married. I said I didn’t need to prove anything to anybody and didn’t lead anyone on. He said he was trying to get close to me and I should’ve told him I’m married from the get-go.

I said I was sorry but maybe he shouldn’t have basically tried to enforce a relationship with anyone regardless if they’re in a relationship or not. He said that my husband and I were rude and offensive then rushed out. Other coworkers said Morgan was an playboy that always get into problems like this but I too bear the blame for having my wedding ring on and being somewhat misleading. I said I don’t think I owe anyone an explanation and refused to apologize for what happened just to keep the peace in the office.