It was my birthday and nobody remembered. I shouldn’t be upset because it’s been this way my whole life but I am (30F)

This sounds really pathetic but I had my 30th birthday a few days ago and I didn’t get anything at all.

I’m not a horrible person but I’ve never been popular. My work organized a card & collection for everyone else when they have a birthday or engagement or buying a house.

I thought this year I would get something. My manager knew it was my 30th so I was hopeful but I didn’t get anything.

I have no family or friends or partner (he ghosted me 6 months ago) so I’m used to celebrating alone. I decided to buy myself a theatre ticket to see a musical but I was so down about everything that I didn’t go.

I’m done with it all honestly. Another year gone and have nothing so there’s no point. I shouldn’t be upset but I am.

Netizens’ comments

Hey I was exactly like you a few years ago. No partner, friends didn’t really care about me, family were in a different country so it was like they didn’t exist.

I used to let birthdays and holidays go by because I felt so awkward trying to reach out to people. I was so lonely and it nearly killed me.

I don’t have any advice for you other than start small and change some of the small things that make you miserable.

For me that started with quitting my job and relocating, and then I made friends at my new job and things started slowly to get better.

Nowadays I’m in a happy relationship and have a small number of friends that I’m very dedicated to. Things do get better if you’re willing to make a change. DM me if you wanna talk.

My BF and I keep running into each other and people are freaked out

I(23F) spend 5days out of the week at my BF(24M) place. We are both working and studying and our brains are fried most days. We watch TV or go out for dinner like once a week, but mostly spend time either discussing HW because we are majoring in the same thing or making cool plans for when we have more free time to travel. Plans we do end up realising btw.

Sometimes we go out with friends, especially on the days we are not together. We never really ‘inform’ each other. One of us might send a text ‘I’m out, will call in 2-3h’ but that’s it. I really don’t need to know, I trust him.

Well, as luck would have it, I ran in my BF at a bar. I was out with one of my girl friends and he was out with his best friend. We laughed and just sat a little off from each other so we do not have to keep shooting awkward glances around. A month later, it happened again. I wasn’t even ‘out out’, my sister and I were picking an order at a burger place and my BF was there with another friend. Big deal, I don’t see the issue.

I told some of my friends because I thought it was mildly amusing but they all said this was dysfunctional and kinda wrong. My BF and I have been together for 2 years, own a dog together, my friends found it freakish that we run into each other randomly.

I asked my BF what he thought and he said his friend said the same thing. Now it got me thinking, should we start texting each other what we are up to? Idk, I honestly suck at things like these. Any advice welcome.

nO one is intentionally running into the other, honest coincidences. There are a few more which might be why people freak.

We have 5 days we stay side by side working, then two days when I go home and maybe go out as well as I am busy during the week. We only tell each other after the fact, you know share and stuff.

People seem to be really freaked how we just don’t check in with one another.

One day someone asked my BF where I was, he said if he had to guess I was home. I wasn’t, I was at a bar. Or someone was asking for board game night, called me I agreed, then called my BF later and he asked if I can join. Ensue confusion because I already agreed and he didn’t know.

I hope this makes sense.

I don’t want my son anymore

I know that’s supposed to be wrong, but I just don’t want him. His dad started cheating on me right before I gave birth.

I didn’t find out until our kid turned 3.

I was stupid and financially supported a broke man for a decade. I was convinced that my anxiety was just making me extra paranoid. I took several meds trying to make the feeling go away.

Last year was when I confirmed my husband was cheating on me. A couple months ago was when I found out about the STD he gave me (was an STD docs don’t normally test for).

Last week, I found out he started cheating on me while I was pregnant and continued to until I caught him.

I can’t even look at our son. Every time I look at our kid, I just see their father. The feeling of hate and resentment overtakes me. And I feel so horrible about it.

Netizens’ comments

• Can you stay with your parents or relatives for a while? Stay with the son, but let a loving relative help you and the kid while you recover.

• As a child from a mom who did not want him, please seek help for this issue, you have no idea what this does to a child long term.

I’m finding it so hard to try and get along with my brother’s gf. She is 2 years older than me and she keep calling me xmm instead of my name which I find its so disrespectful. She doesn’t have a stable job and have only worked part time jobs as far as I’m aware. Her last part time job was in a clothing shop but it closed down because of covid and she hasn’t been working since.

I know my brother has been giving her an allowance as both her parents have retired. She also like to poke her nose into our family matters. Once she asked me how much I earn in front of everyone and I refused to say. I find her offensive and I don’t know what my brother sees in her.

She doesn’t wear feminine clothes and has a boy’s hairstyle. She looks like a butch to me. I never told my brother that I dislike his gf but I think my behavior shows as I don’t talk much when she comes over or I will hide in my room for hours.

My parents say there is a chance my brother may marry this girl so I should try to get along with her. How? When she is so mean towards me?! I find I am more socially exposed than her as I work in many different places because of my job.

And I cannot stand it when she try to talk down to me and try to educate me about my job which she knows nothing of. Very often she will talk to me about her old school days which I find she’s so out of touch and outdated in life as I worked for more than 5 years and don’t think of school days anymore unlike her.

The breaking point for me is when I found out she entered my room when I wasn’t home, went through my things and ‘borrowed’ one of my branded handbag. I was furious.

I told my brother but he said she is just borrowing it and will return me soon. She even told me I have so many bags and she only took one bag. She don’t see the fuss?!!!!! I lost it. I used my entire vocabulary and demanded her to return my bag. I said there is covid, makes no sense to share personal use items too. She tried to play victim and cried to my brother.

Now everyone thinks I’m the bad guy for being so petty over a bag when she is my future sister in law. This is so frustrating. I don’t think I’m in the wrong. And I have no idea how to make things better when I’m so disgusted with her behavior.

My dad (46M) and my aunt (37F)(mom’s sister) are getting together after my mom (45F) cheated on him. I (21F) am completely supportive of their relationship but am not sure if that’s weird.
About a year and a half ago, I found out that my mother was cheating and having an affair with a co-worker of her’s. I immediately told my dad and this basically led to the end of their marriage.

My mom was never there for me as a mother. She didn’t care about my upbringing and barely was part of my life. My dad was the one who was beside me every step I took and every hardship I had. Through out my entire childhood, she was using my father, was always angry with him and treating him like shit. My father would always comply to my mom’s need and she did nothing in return.

But I still had a female family member to look up to and that was my aunt. She cared more about me than my mom did and was always there for me if I needed her. We got along great and she also helped me through some tough times. She supported and encouraged me. She always had a good relationship with my dad as family. She even showed her support when she found out her sister cheated on my dad.

I currently live together with my dad and barely have any contact with my mother. My dad recently sat me down to talk and told me that him and my aunt were really getting along great together. He told me that they were both interested in seeing each other romantically but weren’t sure if I would be ok with it and if this would complicate my bond with my mother.

This does seem a bit weird to me but to be honest I actually am supportive of the idea. They were both very important in my upbringing and I’m sure they would be great for each other. I already barely have a relationship with my mother so I really don’t care about what she has to say. My father and aunt both deserve to be happy. How should I navigate the situation?

At present, more and more young Malaysians choose to work hard in Singapore, thinking that they can earn more here. Is this really the case?

Recently, a female netizen asked on a social account, “Can Singapore really make a lot of money in a short period of time? Is it too late for me to go at the age of 29?” The news immediately aroused heated discussions among netizens.

3 Times More

She said, “I feel that it is very slow to make money in Malaysia. Many friends have gone to the other side. They can earn RM9350-RM15580 a month. I am so envious…”

“Although every time they come back, they say that the work there is very tiring, but they came back after a few years of work and bought a house, a car, and various luxuries… Now I also want to go to Singapore to work. I am 29 years old, is it too late? ?”

After the post was published, many netizens commented, and their opinions can be divided into positive and negative.

Positive netizens said:

“Working in Singapore is an important way out for young Malaysians. Although the pressure is relatively high, they can indeed make a lot of money in a short period of time.”

“Although the pressure is relatively high, it can make you better. 29 is not too late. I only came after graduation. As long as you work hard, you will be rewarded!”

Netizens with negative views said:

“Singapore is not as good as you think. When you come, you will know that every day is very hard and living expenses are high. If you don’t have technical skills, let alone making money to buy a house, life is a problem!”

“Singapore’s work is so stressful and overwhelming, I repeat the same life every day.”

Some netizens said in surprise, “How does one with a 3-5k salary buy cars and luxury goods?”

What suits you is the best

Of course, some netizens hold a neutral attitude towards this, saying that no matter where they are, as long as they work hard, they can achieve their goals.

At the same time, someone warned the netizen, “Don’t let your thoughts be controlled by others, it’s best to find what suits you!”

A man who just graduated and step out into the workforce was kind enough to offer his parents an allowance despite not making a lot.

Hence he started asking the internet if it’s wrong for one to not give their parents an allowance.

His Scenario:

I just graduated from uni and started working with a monthly salary of 3k. When I talked to my parents about giving them an allowance (10% of my pay), they rejected my offer with the following reason:

1. My earning power isn’t alot. They want me to focus on saving up for myself first.
2. Both of my parents are still working. Their salary and savings are more than enough for them to retire. Hence, they don’t see a need for me to give them allowance.

However, after looking through online forums, this seems like a unfilial thing to do. What are your opinions on this?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your parents have already told you what you wanted to know. When you’re earning more, then they’ll probably be more open to taking the allowance. If your parents have already told you, you don’t have to care whether it’s unfilial (from the pov of others) or not, people’s tongues will always wag.

• Its their choice. If they dont need it – dont give. Alternatively take them out for dinners, give them gifts

• You’ve got good parents. Don’t feel guilty please, you have the rest of your life to be good to them.

• This. If your parents don’t want to take your allowance, then they don’t care for it. Meeting them, having a meal with them, or going on holidays with them would be more valued by them than allowance.

• Your parents seem like the really understanding sort. As others may have said, you can certainly express your gratitude to them via other means in all the other little things — help them with housework (if you’re still living with them), volunteer to get lunch/dinner for them, buy the occasional household appliances for them if there is a need. In my experience, parents usually won’t mind us doing that.

We often hear supernatural stories from friends and sometimes it is better to avoid the unknown than to be “Dora the Explorer”, a man shared a story about when became ill after getting nosy.

Here is the story:

This story is solely heard from a friend. He usually smokes before going to bed, hence on that day as usual he was by the kitchen window smoking away.

He saw a lady in a black mini dress coming out of the lift from the opposite building and walking down the stairs. Out of curiosity and maybe the lady look pretty good, his eye followed her.

The lady stopped at a certain floor and suddenly sat down on the steps. She was taking things out from her bag and he got really kapo, trying to see what was she taking out.

However, he regretted his move as he saw her taking joss sticks and incenses out of her bag. The worst was that she started munching on them. Guess it scares the hell outta him. But the worst was yet to come. She suddenly looked up and straight at him and was smiling to him while she continue having her ‘supper’.

God, that really did it for him….He ran as fast as he could back to his room and under his blanket.

This incident had caused him 3 days in bed with high fever…