A netizen shared how she is addicted to pain meds.

Here is the story:

“Not really sure of where to start. I’m 23 and I’ve been addicted to really strong painkillers since I was 12.

My mum first gave me them when I was 12 when I had my first period and was dealing with a lot of pain.

The pills give me this euphoric feeling about half an hour after taking them. This feeling lasts about 45mins to an hour but after that feeling wears off I go into the worst mood.

I can always feel myself coming down from the high and I become tired and angry. Then it’s another waiting four hours before I can take more.

It’s the only thing I look forward too everyday. I’ve been quite sick from them lately (nausea, headaches, dizziness and hot flushes).

I have managed to come off of them once before for 6 months but I injured myself and ended up being given the same pain killers in hospital which restarted my addiction.

I’ve been to a therapist for it but it didn’t really help. My doctors have no issue giving them to me even though they are aware of my addiction.

The last time I tried to come off of them I couldn’t take the anger and miserable feeling of knowing I have no high to look forward too.

I forgot to mention the reason I think I’m addicted to pain killers is because I’m already on antidepressants and anti anxiety pills.

I guess my plan is to come off of pain meds eventually but I’m not sure what will give me the same high safely. No one knows about it and it is awful.”

Editor’s note: PLEASE speak to someone about this, talk to a psychiatrist.

How to accept my partner doesn’t get very wet? Or get better at communicating about it??

This is starting to affect my mental health and i’m hoping to get some answers, maybe from women who had a similar “body chemistry”.

When we f, my partner doesn’t get wet like I am used to with past partners. When we first started she did but we were long distance for a long time and there was a lot of excitement.

Now that we are living together long term (a few years now) she doesn’t seem to get wet even when she is turned out.

If we do foreplay for awhile. We frequently use lube and I have always found lube to be useful in some situations so I am aware of how to mitigate this on the physical side of things.

I’ve tried vanilla foreplay, making out, touching over panties, spanking, some elements of D/s, her performing oral on me, me performing oral on her (she’s said she doesn’t get much out of it despite my best efforts)

I am trying to accept this but it’s really starting to tank my self esteem.

The last I talked to her about it she said she “is also worried about it” but we haven’t discussed it much since then because I don’t want her to feel like I’m judging her if that’s just the way she is.

I have always been decent in bed and was the first to make her finish in several different ways (even though she had a decent amount of experience in the past).

Now I have her play with herself using a toy to finish but anything other than that hasn’t lead to finishing in a long time.

Is this all me? I have a strong libido which is keeping me going but to be honest I wish I could make it go away. She has a responsive drive and says she wants to please me but I am having trouble trusting her.

We have played around with things like bjs to keep me satisfied in between sessions but I can’t tell if she wants to do it or is just doing it reluctantly. I guess I’m in my head a lot lately.

I guess I’m ranting here because I like to f for a little longer, nothing crazy like 20-30 minutes and I made an off-hand comment about us liking to have good length sessions last night and she said it could be a bit shorter …

I don’t know what she wants now and I don’t know what to do anymore. It feels like my relationship is falling apart

I haven’t slept with anyone in 10 years, and feel nothing but emptiness.

Looking for advice or suggestions on how to end the dry spell, I just wanted to get it off my chest as I have never discussed this with anyone.

I’m 35, and I haven’t had intercourse in 10 years. In general it doesn’t really bother me, and it’s not something that crosses my mind very often. But I do wonder if I’m missing out.

Do I pleasure myself? Yeah of course, but the frequency is decreasing. It was most days at one point, but now it’s once or twice a week. It just feels like a chore, and quite frankly, I talk myself out of it.

Do I want to get with someone? Meh, sounds like it’s more effort than it’s worth.

Emptiness is the only way I can describe it, as if I am lacking a basic human function. It is what it is I guess.

Netizens’ comments

1. I think you speak to a counselor and not rely on people on a social media site. A professions can get you into a better mind set . Good Luck
2. From my own experience, and listening to others speak on the topic, it seems the longer a person goes without it, the easier it is to deal with and the more that drive decreases.
3. Sending you a hug. Hoping you can get some human connection and help break you out of this spell.

Was giving SGD10,000 to bride’s parent too little?

Hi everyone

I was prepared to give SGD10,000 to my future wife’s parent. This amount includes the pin jin (translated as bride price) and price of tables (her parents will keep the red packets from the tables)

Her parents are asking for more pin jin. MIL is very unhappy and scolded her daughter for speaking up for me. MIL black face when negotiating. I not sure if I should be feeling guilty for causing this fall out.

Would appreciate some sharing on 1)) How did you nego with the other side on pin jin and table? 2) What’s the bride price and total price of tables? If you did not hold banquet table, what’s the bride price?

Edit Background: MIL asked for a price that was even higher than $10,000. After nego became $10k, and MIL is still very unhappy with $10k and pick fights with her daughter over this. I’m willing to give $10k if it keeps the peace, but it seems not the case. Which makes me wonder why MIL is making her daughter’s happy marriage become a unhappy one due to money?

Edit: I’ve noticed some comments sharing that in laws

1. will give back (huili) a large portion of the pin Jin
2. some gave gifts to the daughter and son in law
3. paid for tables and they keep the red packets

So there’s like reciprocity from both sides.

My MIL initial proposal

1. keep 99% of the pin jin. 1% return.
2. not gifting anything
3. tables I pay and she keep the red packets.

In these 3 points, MIL take, not give, and take.

Thank you.

Netizens’ comments

1. She selling daughter ah? 10k is good enough leh, some even give back a portion to help with renovation cost etc ..
2. There’s no right amount, but $10k definitely seems too much, especially when the parents are already keeping the red packets from the tables. What is your wife’s stance in this? She has to speak up so you won’t be stuck in such a difficult position.

I’m going to prison; any advice?

Hi all,

After a few months of going back and forth on my case, my sentence was finally passed recently. My deferment period is gonna be over soon and I’ll be going to prison for 7 days.

I know it’s really not long to be honest but I am feeling anxious. Everyone around me kept telling me not to make friends there or mix with the wrong crowd etc.

Is prison really that bad? I got in for a very stupid crime (don’t wanna share details cause I don’t want my identity to be known) and am from a pretty uptight family where even the idea of going to prison is a crime itself.

My parents are also the tough love kinda parents, for the first time, I saw my parents crying. I’m feeling kind of stressed out and don’t know what to expect.

Does anyone here have any advice or experience? Also, I’m female btw, so it would be helpful to have a female who worked in prison or been to prison before share their experience.

Netizens’ comments

1. I’ve worked with many guys who’ve been in and out of prison for stupid things – fighting, petty drug offences, alcohol and cigarette related crimes.
   For the most part men’s prison is full of immature people who lack direction in life and try to act tough and do naughty things as a way of making them feel good about themselves.
   Understandably many of them are of poor character and lack morals because of their upbringing, association, and circumstances, so definitely don’t get too close.
   Don’t act like a goody two shoes, don’t challenge anyone, try to be fair and non-hostile to the people there, expect to be treated without respect by the prison guards and don’t take things personally. Take it as a lesson learnt and endure for these few days.}
   Your bigger challenge will be dealing with your family when you’re out.
2. 7 days very fast one
   Just know no entertainment inside and probably will talk to you and ask u what crime you committed.
   Too bad you can’t see deekosh or Titus inside

A man shared how he froze while being intimate with his girlfriend due to his past trauma.

Here is the story:

yesterday I froze while being intimate with my girlfriend and she asked if we should stop, I said yes and she backed off. I’ve never been treated like this before.

I am a 23-year-old man and I’ve been raped before. Twice. I’ve been molested too and this has affected me and subsequent relationships a lot.

2 days ago my girlfriend (23) was in my lap and we were making out and suddenly the images of rape came into my mind and I froze. She obviously sensed it and asked if everything was okay but I couldn’t answer and I’d begun to sweat.

She got off my lap and asked if I wanted to talk but i still couldn’t say anything. Then she asked if she should leave the room and I gave a small nod. She just grabbed her phone from the table and left.

This has never happened with me. Nobody has listened to my no before. It feels weird, different? I don’t know.

Next morning when I woke up she had made breakfast and left me a note saying if I wanted to talk I could call her anytime.

She came over after work and I thanked her for listening to me, I was almost in tears. She welled up too and said no obviously means no, but hesitation means no too. And that she would never knowingly hurt me.

I’ve never been treated like this before. My parents were crap, and almost every relationship I’ve had (3) were also similarly crap.

But she’s different, she’s been my rock when I’ve fallen low, she cooks for me because she wants me to be healthy, she leaves notes of affirmation all over the house for me to find and is generally the most genuine amazing person I’ve ever met.

I want to show my gratitude to her and want to tell her how much she means to me but I don’t know how? Also it’s still weighing on me how my say matters to her. Never in my life have I ever been treated this way.

So how do I tell how much she means to me ? And will I stop feeling this way ?

How to get my bf to listen to me when we are f-ing

I (19f) for the most part enjoy sleeping with my boyfriend (20m). He knows what I like and always makes sure that I’ve had enough foreplay to get started.

However, we never have short sessions. He always drags it on for at least 2 hrs. He’s indifferent, so when we sleep together, it’s purely for my own pleasure. Though he has mentioned that he finds my reactions “entertaining” to observe.

The main issue is, that after a certain amount of time I’m oversensitive. The smallest movement feels incredibly overwhelming. It’s driven me to tears multiple times. Nevertheless, he keeps f-ing me.

Usually I try asking him to stop after I’ve finished coming in bed. But he keeps making me come until I’m overwhelmed and start crying

He doesn’t listen when I tell him he’s in too deep. He actively begins f-ing me harder if I complain. Which is incredibly discouraging.

I’ve tried talking to him about it outside of the bedroom. I’ve even used his own sensitive places (i.e his nipples) against him, to try and show him how overwhelming it can be, but he doesn’t see the issue.

According to him it’s not an issue because I’m enjoying myself. Which I am to a certain extent. But should my pleasure negate the pain I’m experiencing? He genuinely doesn’t see the issue.

I love him. I really do. So I couldn’t imagine breaking up with him over this. But I’m out of ideas. What should I do?

Netizens’ comments

1. You really need to think, does the fact you love him mean that he can hurt you? I’m sorry but I don’t think he loves you, I think he is getting joy out of hurting you
2. “Enjoying your reactions”
   This is because he is a sadist, that in its self when discussed within boundaries that both partners are happy with is fine.

A netizen shared how hs is attracted to pregnant women.

Here is the story:

“Im a 23 year old male who is very attracted to pregnant women and I also have a breeding fetish.

So although I defiantly want to become a father someday (Children are awesome!) but I get so turned on by pregnant women and post pregnancy bodies.

However, When I see a pregnant woman I like to imagine that she is carrying my child instead.

When I see a woman that Im attracted to I usually think to myself “We would make nice babies” or I would vision her carrying my child.

Mombods are hot as well and all this crap about “Women hitting the wall at 30” Get outta here, Your ugliness hit the wall as soon as you came out of your mothers walls!

Another thing is that I hear men being scared of being baby trapped but A woman can baby trap me all she likes.

Keep poking holes in those condoms cause I want to knock you up and raise kids anyway”