So my gf whom I’ve been dating for a couple of months recently told me that she is strongly against having a kid in the future. She doesn’t want to get tied down by having a kid and lose her freedom in doing whatever she wants to do in the future, and she is not fond of kids in the first place. Personally for me I’m not 100% sure if I want a kid, but I always felt like it’s the natural progression of being in a relationship, getting married, and having kids.

Just want to get some views from you all: Is your partner also against having kids? And if so how do you deal with it if you really want one? Does your partner’s mindset change over time with age etc?

Here are what netizens think:

• Accepting someone as themselves is, very important. You can’t expect the person to change. Having children, or getting married is very much personal and a choice. If having children is something that you want, or you’re going to be resentful or your parents will pressure you into having one. Then walk away from this relationship now.

• Do respect her decision and her views of not having kids but also think of your own future too. If you are OK with not having kids then go ahead keep the relationship. If you really really want to have kids in future then I suggest both of you to mutually break up and go on with your respective lives. Marrying her in this case will lead to a difficult marriage life.

• My friend who is against having kids married a guy who wanted a big family. He said he was OK with not having kids. For the first five years, the marriage was OK. Now he just makes bitter kid-related snipes at her in front of us and it becomes extremely uncomfortable to be around the two of them.

• Buay gum don’t marry end up divorce

I am nearly 38 weeks pregnant and nearly everything is irritating me at this point. On Friday afternoon my husband came home from a bad day at work and was having a very negative attitude.

As soon as he walked through the door he was complaining about how messy the house was. Not only am I verily pregnant and unable to do much at this point, but I’m also watching our 2-year-old daughter during the day that has been getting into everything. So yes the house was messy and the dishes weren’t done I’ll admit to that.

Then he was complaining that I didn’t have dinner ready for him and that I wasn’t making dinner that night. I usually cook 90% of the time but that day I was just so tired and done with everything so I suggested we go out.

I tried to explain how it’s difficult for me to do stuff now, how I’m tired, how our daughter was bouncing off the walls that day and he wouldn’t listening to any of it.

Then he compared me to his friend’s wife by saying “You know, John’s wife is pregnant too and does x, y, and z and she even gets dressed and puts makeup on every day”

Well that’s when I absolutely lost it. I told him to get out, and not come back until the end of the weekend. That I’d had enough and wanted time to myself.

He packed a bag and went to his brothers house, and sent me paragraphs of texts before I finally decided to block his number.

I used the weekend to take my time to clean up and then just spend the rest of the time playing with my daughter.

Not only did he tell his brother about my little freak out, but he told his mother and now she’s been texting me non stop about how I’m being a bad wife. It’s like he’s turned everyone against me over night.

Anonymous for obvious reasons.

My friends complain about their pay but do nothing about it… Long story short, I dropped out of school more than a decade ago because I had severe ADHD and wasn’t getting anywhere by conventional learning. I started reading books about basically everything and bettered myself.

After a year, I called a few small companies begging for a chance to consult for them knowing absolutely nothing in terms of work experience.

Fast forward 12 years.. I own a consulting firm, employ 10 field engineers, and 2 office workers. My company grossed $21.7 million in 2021. My expenses including payroll add up to 71% bringing in a total of $6.93 million of potential income for me yearly.

I don’t say this to brag. I say this to inspire. I live a rather modest life. So much so, my friends don’t even know I’m a millionaire and assume I only have $30k max in savings.

I’m usually the butt of education jokes in my circle but I just sit back and smile. Deep down I know education is a social construct, just another way of measure oneself against another.

Deep down I know that education is also important but not at the expense of believing in yourself.

People, believe in yourself!

Girlfriends brother is weirdly close to her

She always talked about how he gives her the best massages, rubs her temples, everytime he hears her have a facetime with me he comes into the room and completely excludes me from the conversation for over an hour sometimes.

she has him rate all of her outfits, he buys her very revealing expensive dresses, he knew we planned on moving in together and he only suggested that they do the same after she told him.

he tells her how she’s going to go on month long trips out of country with him even when she says she’s not interested.

Idk if I’m just thinking I’m in the twilight zone, or if this is just normal lol.

Straight up feel like a complete 3rd wheel whenever we are all together, have never met anyone that treats their siblings like this.

probably overthinking it, but God damn does it ever weird me tf out.

Netizens’ comments

• Some siblings form trauma bonds due to traumatic experience they had to go through together , which makes them closer to each other. I wonder if this is their situation. There might be a root cause to their closeness, I would dig deeper. If you find nothing, then you should start worrying

• It kind of sounds like they are close and he is protective of her in a weird way. I’d find a way to talk to her about it in a way that doesn’t get her defensive

How can i accept and get over the unpleasant things my MIL did towards me and my husband?

She has did a few things (e.g: kicking us out of her house when we had nowhere to stay because she wanted privacy in her 5 room flat alone, after we paid for her refurbishing of the home / also refusing to acknowledge my presence or talk to me or reply to me).

Another issue that i get angry about everytime is when she attended our wedding reception half heartedly.

She was late and didn’t welcome my husband’s side of guests whom she herself invited. She acted like a guest and she acted like she is not a host. Throughout the wedding she didn’t really talk and black face. She is a single mother so no FIL there to comfort her. Halfway through the reception she just left and let my parents handled everything else.

It is such a bad memory whenever i think of the day i got married. I tried my best not to cry during the celebrations of the reception. My husband was sad too.

Fast forward today.. It’s been a few years and i just cannot forgive nor can i forget all this.my first year of marriage was rocky especially after being kicked out as we had nowhere to stay and had to beg my parents to squeeze into their home before finding a place to rent. In this sense i felt it was mostly her fault. I have always imagined my first year of marriage to be a good one but it was full of challenges. I have never mentioned my anger/sadness to her when we visit, and when we interact it’s always pleasant despite our history. My husband has expressed his disappointment to her previously (especially about the wedding) but she will just ignore him.

I concluded that she probably has her own issues, my husband did mention she can be quite erratic… so now I want to forgive and forget everything but it’s been really hard. How do i do this? Of course i cannot expect her to apologise or do anything, but i want to forget all this on my own terms and be at peace

FYI all these did not happen before we got married. She was totally normal and fine before we got married. Sometimes i feel a little shortchanged by this, especially when my husband has been treated so well by my parents but i have been treated like shit by his mom.