I was called disgusting for kissing my son.

So I’d taken my son out, he’s 3 and we’d gone to my work (I work in a supermarket)

And we grabbed some bits, went to check out and got chatting to my colleague who hadn’t seen him before, cue behind me of course but I wasn’t keeping anyone waiting, we chatted on and off while she still served, and the customers chimed in and all that. Just friendly conversation basically.

Now I had my son in the seat part of the trolley cause he’s a runner, can’t keep him still when we’re walking, and he asked for a hug so of course I gave him one, I kissed him on the head (which wasn’t the kiss that was the problem)

After I kissed his head he lifted his head and did the kissy face, implying he wanted a proper one.. so I did, I love my son and I have zero issues with doing that. Dad’s should be able too, son or daughter.. doesn’t matter. To him it’s a sign of love and that it.

He’s used to his mum, grandparents and stuff doing it.. why not his dad 🤷

Out of nowhere this girl, about my age kicked up a fuss that it was downright disgusting I’m kissing my young son in his mouth. It’s creepy and blah blah blah.. which upset my son because she was quite vocal. He didn’t understand fully what she was saying thank god, but it was the fact she raised her voice and scared him.

I just absolutely rounded on her and told her to mind her mouth before she really annoys me. If I want to kiss my own son I will.

Do Men even like Women?

I feel like, that a lot of men don’t really like women. They never did. Like, yeah, they like intercourse but other than that, I only read so much negative things. I even had personal experiences.

I feel like an Object, an achievement. Like something you can brag about to your guy friends. Something of a guys check-list. Then I only hear guys being annoyed at their GFs or Wifes. Like the stuff they are “forced to do” and how much they were single again so their partner would “Stop annoying” them.

I worked as a waitress in a bar/restaurant. The things I have heard or seen truly shocked me at times. Either it was a guy “bringing” his GF on a “date”. I put date in quotes because the way they treated their partner at times just disgusted me.

And then there are the guys who come in for an evening out and while serving them, all I would hear at times is them complaining about their GF/Wifes. Like they didn’t choose them in the first place. Don’t get me started on the guys over 40. That’s all just “I hate my wife more than anything else in my entire life and no one can change my mind.”

If you are in the gaming community, all you hear mostly is “Go back to the kitchen” “Bring me a sandwich” “Not a game for girls” “You wanna see my D?” And other things that bring women down for the “funs”

It didn’t get better when I got a (ex)boyfriend myself. He made me feel like a damn trophy that he could put in and out of his shelf whenever he needed and would get annoyed any time I wanted to do something with him.

I recently stumbled across a tiktok with the exact same thought that were going through my mind, I sadly for got which user. And I haven’t been able to let go of it. I am scared of dating. I just want to love someone and be loved.

But I feel like, all I am is an object, an achievement, a trophy, a womb, something to brag about with the boys, a housekeeper, a replacement mommy. Anything but an equal human being that you chose to be with. It has been circling around my head for days now at end and I feel like I needed to get it of me now.

Yeah, thats it. Thanks for reading. Just needed to get this of. Have a good night.

I really had to think a long while before I could form my question because everything feels complicated. Before I go on, I must have a disclaimer that my mother is not a terrible mother, I have never felt like I wasn’t protected under her wings or that I couldn’t turn to her if I was having troubles in my life. She made many sacrifices to put the family ahead and I am grateful for that.

Now to the story, my mother is pretty opiniated about a lot of things and unfortunately most of the time I disagree with her due to personal reasons. It ranges from things like not using a microwave oven, putting your phone far away from your head when you sleep, not walking about with wet hair after shower to things that are considered ‘pantang’ or taboo like getting a tattoo, going home late at night (even though I freaking had to work till late and cab is expensive) and all the traditions that some of us are probably familiar with.

I would count it as a blessing that she does not stay with me as she’s based in Malaysia so after living with her rules for about 20 years I’ve shifted here and started to slowly do things that I like.

Thus, if I happen to go against her restrictions, she takes it personally because she thinks I did it solely to piss her off. Which is not true, it just so happens that she puts so many restrictions in life that its impossible to not hit something at some point or another.

There are many many examples over the years that usually ended up in us having an argument and her giving me the radio silence for a few months before talking to me again. Initially, I just let it slide even if I don’t concede to it, cause she’s entitled to her own opinion and I think we can still have a r/s with our differences. But she always grabs onto the issue and refuse to let go till she says her piece (I am arrogant, I think I know everything, why can’t I just listen for once) and even going to the extent of making me promise I “won’t do this again”.

After some time I’ve had enough, after I got married and got my own place, I started digging my foot down on certain things. She was furious that I got my first tattoo but it was my plan to eventually get a bigger one so when I did, I sent her a text to inform her that I like it and I hope she can respect that I can make my own decision. We were already on uneasy grounds because few months prior to me moving out, she threw a huge fuss about finding an auspicious date etc but it was during the freaking pandemic, my S/O and I were really looking forward to having our own space after months of delay on our house. I honestly couldn’t care less when I move in and I fail to see why we need to inconvenience our lives even more so in the current situation. So we moved in and that was the starting of this whole shaking ground we’re on. I had to tell her that no I might have own beliefs and it might not reflect the same as hers.

That did not go down well. I got off the phone feeling hurt cause she made it sound like I am a disappointment for her that I turned out like that.

But as you know after reading that chunk of text above, she called me one fine day and suddenly everything was fine again. Like I said, I love her and when she asked if she could crash in my place if she comes down to SG (I think I was going to be away that time) and offered to compensate me, I refused and told her to come and stay without worrying.

A few days later I remembered that I do not have a kettle at home and that I lack a flask to store hot water. The reason being that I use a hot water dispenser (it is my favourite appliance in the kitchen). Problem is, she was abhorrent against using that because according to her it causes health issue. She added a request that I stopped using it. Something in me snapped and I flat out told her no, I will not stop using it, I love that thing because it’s so convenient and if she has an issue she can bring her own kettle and flask.

You can probably guess what’s her reply. In short she basically said she won’t need to come and stay at my place anymore and I’m free to do whatever I want.

I know she didn’t mean it and she’s pissed at me again but I am so done with this hot and cold cycle. I am genuinely not trying to find an argument with her but I don’t know how else to deal with this. It is not like in western culture where you can just cut off contact, it’s just not acceptable in my family to do it even though everyone knew how difficult she can be.

Is this something many of you experience and are rebelling against? How can I tell her once and for all that if she’s going to throw another tantrum at me, this is the last time it will happen?

My 30-year-old friend, who works as an insurance agent, just asked his dad to buy him a Rolex. He said it was to look “professional.” His dad just looked at him like he was crazy and said no. My friend was so embarrassed and quickly excused himself.

I’ve known my friend since secondary school, and he’s had an obsession with expensive things since then. He always wanted the biggest, flashiest, most expensive items. But now, he’s asking his dad, who’s retired with a fixed passive income, to buy him a Rolex.

I understand why he wants one. He thinks it will make him look more successful and important. He works hard and he’s had success in his career, but I guess he wants to show off a bit. Maybe he’s trying to keep up with his co-workers, who all seem to have nice watches.

But I don’t think it’s a good idea to ask for a Rolex.

It’s not like he can afford it. Plus, it’s just kind of tacky. I’m sure his dad was amused by the request, but he wasn’t going to say yes.

My friend’s reaction was pretty sad.

He looked embarrassed and ashamed. He mumbled something about not knowing how expensive they were and quickly left. I’m sure he was embarrassed and wanted to get out of there as soon as he could.

I think my friend was trying to show off and he got a swift reality check.

He thought he could get away with asking his dad for a Rolex.

What a loser.

One will never if they are in a safe or dangerous place, a woman recently posted online wondering if her actions of slapping an elderly man were wrong after she got slapped in the butt.

Here is her story:

I slapped an elderly man’s arm out of reflex after he slapped my butt in a store. Am I in the wrong here?

His slap wasn’t gentle, either. It startled me so badly that I smacked him instinctually, and I yelled “DON’T smack my butt! Don’t TOUCH ME!” I told him that being old doesn’t give him the right to slap anyone’s butt, and that it was technically assault. The man just stared at me in shock, and everyone in the vicinity just stood there silently. Nobody said word.

I was molested for the entirety of my childhood so this was small in comparison, but I struggle with self-hatred so much already and I’m so sick of this happening.

Here is what netizens think:

• Anyone who knew context would have been on your side. People freeze up in shock when there’s yelling and don’t tend to know what happened. Stay strong and I’m proud of you for standing up for yourself.

• I had a co-worker who was overtly touchy and he kept putting his hands on me, when I finally reached back and was physical with him it shocked him, myself and another coworker who was standing next to me. I felt embarrassment and wondered if i did wrong – always remember that advocating for yourself and boundaries isn’t always going to sit well with people, especially yourself. But be proud that you stood up for yourself and that you had that initial reaction to say something, it can be hard to find our voice. I’m proud of you and you absolutely did the right thing.

• Good job, too many chi ko pek out there.

I(30f) have been dating a guy(35m) whom I get to know through a dating app 2 years ago. He is the kind of ideal guy that every girl wants – humourous, good looking and works as an SWE earning $8k/mth.

He is also very caring and I must say he is really great on bed.

However, even after 2 years, our relationship has never been official. He has never introduced me to his friends and parents. What I find even more puzzling is that our dates are always on weekday nights, as he reserves his weekends are for his studies (self study coding) and parents. Am I not part of his family? I have always asked him for an explanation but he will brush me off by saying I should be mature and understand his priorities.

I am enjoying the time spent with him and want to settle down quickly as I’m already entering my early thirties. Should I move on and not waste my youth on him?

Here are what netizens think:

• You sound really naive. Either you don’t have much dating experience or you choose to close your eyes to all the red flags that you are just someone he sleeps with with no commitment.

• 2 yrs of “dating” but never been out on wkends b4 is already a big red flag.Men who are serious with you, will definitely rush you to meet their parents.Those couldn’t be bothered type, are definitely not into marriage at all.Move on~~

• Seriously for the past 2 years? Omg! When i read the meet up only on weekdays night. He is most probably he has a family, a married man. For me, if a relationship over 3 months, and i still don’t know his friends and family, i will not continue and stay.Please find out soon, ask him to bring you to see his parents. So, whether to stay or leave is your choice.

• He is telling her wife and children the same thing. I have to work late on the weekdays to complete my project so that I can spend time with you during the weekends.