Dear job seekers, please read this WARNING if u’re interested in looking for jobs in local SMEs, a very well-known one in particular.

I was working for a company that does cashbacks. I was lucky enough to have a pretty decent and friendly team.

But soon after working there, the higher ups decided to change their structure. This meant that almost all the things they promised me during the interview burnt into ashes.

My colleagues and I felt really scammed and helpless because we couldn’t do anything about it. Due to the huge change in protocols, some of my colleagues had decided to quit one by one.

Reason? They made our jobs much harder and increased the difficulty in acquiring incentives, basically this means harder job, lower pay.

This company, though backed by Ah gong (if you know what I mean), is unexpectedly crappy and unfortunately poorly managed by people who had overestimated their capabilities.

If they continue their terrible planning skills, this company is likely to sink despite receiving fundings.

If you could get the hint of the company I am referring to, please think twice, thrice, quadruple times before applying to them.

I really don’t wish to see another innocent soul get scammed by them. Your job scope will change very soon, don’t trust what they say during the interview.

Lastly, all that glitters is not gold.

Netizens’ comments

1. It’s normal.. everywhere gonna be like that. Every year kpi levels are higher to maximise your energies
2. Nothing new has been happening many years only now becomes a top management culture
3. The best is if no good for you get out and hop around .hahaha sin ka por lan culture….
4. increasing quota is common practice
   mine got change of product range, overnight your customer becomes zero, starts from scratch, next month dont hit target, says poorly performed

I couldn’t perform during a hookup

I’m leaving what should have been a successful hookup’s house this morning, but instead of feeling alright, all I feel is intense shame and embarrassment.

Met up with a girl I matched with on a dating app for a coffee, things were going good so we decided to go to see a movie.

She was very touchy and all over me during the movie and invited me back to her place. Everything down there was working alright during the movie so I was like alright yeah, sounds good.

We get back and it just doesn’t work. She said she understood, she just liked making out with me so we did that for like 2 hours.

Periodically I would get hard and think “alright cool yes” and then she’d try to do something but then I’d focus on it to much and it would instantly die.

This used to happen to me in my late teens like but I thought I was over it. I’m a couple months out of a LTR w my ex so I figured a casual hookup would help but I just feel like utter crap.

This even happened the first time I met my ex but I got comfortable w them the second or third time I saw them and it never really happened again so I just assumed it wouldn’t happen now.

It was late at the girls house so I just slept over. Same crap happened in the morning wtf. I hate this…

Netizens’ comments

1. It happens, don’t dwell on it
2. Figure out why, avoid that issue in future
3. Happened when I lost my virginity. No big deal. Literally.
4. Accept that it is going to happen. And it isn’t a start of a pattern.
5. It’s only a thing if you make it a thing. Move on. If it continues to be a thing, take a pill.

SME’s “no politics policy” was a farce

I was recently employed and working in an SME.

During my interview- the CEO of the company very proudly told me that the company has a very strict policy on work place politics. If anyone were to be involved in any form of politics they will be immediately terminated. I was so naive to believe him. (I later found out that MOST SME would say the same thing)

During my 1st week of work, i have seen way too many politics happening right in front of me without the CEO knowledge. Everyone just gossips about every smallest issue they see/hear. Colleagues split into different team to talk about one another. Rumors flying everywhere. Sensitive and “small & evil hearted” employees talking behind each other’s back all the time.

Everyone behaves like they are one big family when the CEO is around and start their gossips and nasty behavior the second he leaves the office. (Btw they would sub consciously remind each other to be kind- to not be nasty- etc) *erm? Hypocrite?

I don’t like my current job scope. We are super short handed and most employee had to work till 12mid night at least 2 or 3 days a week. (NO O.T allowance btw)

Imagine that amount of work load + people around you gossips 24/7 + SME & (super underpaid)

As a new staff, i’m trying to blend in at the same time you don’t know what/when they would start gossiping and asking you personal questions and then attack you behind your back at their convenience. (Their eyes are on their laptop doing work but their mouths just starts babbling about others automatically)

It’s really taxing on me. I feel like i am holding 7 different titles in the company and super underpaid.

Anyone willing to share how you handle high workload? Boss that always says “your job is very easy, it’s simple. and if you have to do work after office hours, it would just show how incompetent you are at your job” (most staff had to OT till 12mn and then schedule their emails to be sent the next morning) *cause staffs who had to overtime are not competent as per the CEO.

How do you avoid politics at work when it’s happening every single day around you?

Should i just start joining in and wait for my termination letter? ???? would it affect my next job? (My work contract has 2 years bond)

I still want to try harder and pick up as much skills as possible (since i had to do so many adhoc work. I do travel planner, driver, HR, admin, operations support, sales support, payroll, accounting, finance, customer service support, security, I.T support, P.A to 5 managers. butler services, translator, courier service, report analysis, facilities and maintenance assistant, tax filing and more.

I’m exhausted. “I’m only 2 months old” in the company and it felt like 2 years ???? – just because i do so many things and the newest- people always come to me for the smallest thing that can be solved *if they are not lazy.

Halp!

Genuine advise pleaseee ????????

I’m really lost, tired and confused.

Graduated from NUS a few years back and I’ve seen plenty of classmates turn to insurance or real estate.

The moment this happens, their ig accounts immediately evolve into major cringe fests splattered with motivational quotes, “I’m hustling to help my clients not for the money”, “I’m all about sharing knowledge”, xx achiever for the month and thank you to my entire ancestry line.

Firstly let’s be real, you are there for the money so just own it. Next, just to clarify I really respect some friends who are working in this industry because it really is hard work.

However, some people really make me sick because I’ve seen how they were like back in school.

They were some of the most irresponsible and lazy people around who can’t even be punctual for important things, yet now they are suddenly the most responsible hustler trying to sell you an expensive insurance package or a house.

Erm seriously, even if I were desperate, I probably wouldn’t trust you with my money given how two-face you are.

Netizens’ comments

• Worst kind is they post themselves in “expensive” cars and watches that do not belong to them then write essay in their bio. Really cringe fest….. Then tell people that they join the industry because they want to help people and make an impact. Please join NGO or charity if the main purpose is to help…..
• And then you have those who use dating apps to sell insurance…
• Insurance is important, don’t shunt away from it. But buying it reasonably is ok. Not over board. The reason why these ppl do what they do is because they are not sales inclined. Hence all these motivational quotes. My advise to agents is, if you are not someone who can sell a pen, then be up front. There’s no shame in that and ppl appreciate it more. Sales is a skill not everyone has. It’s not about just being a good talker, the research, the immediate understanding on the spot etc to push your products.
  Having said that, insurance is important to everyone. Please get one. My theory behind that is “I am not afraid to just die, I am afraid that I won’t die.”

Admin plz post this, thx.

I am a financial consultant agent that has been in the business for 3.5 years and this is my first job since I grad from university.

I loved my job and have nothing but good testimonials throughout. I do not approach my friends individually to stress them out and understand the stigma in the industry.

Recently I saw some post circulating and it really made me so upset. Everyone is so unhappy with us. I really tried my best to be a “good/average” sheep in the industry and I believe my peers did try to, but it seems the hate is getting worse.

I feel as though the whole world sees my career as something disgusting which is not a good feeling to feel. I also feel this situation is so unfair as compared to other jobs, this job gets so much hate online.

I understood the stigma but thought I will not have to see such hate unless I did something wrong. But now more and more articles and posts are coming in.

I joined because I believe in insurance as my aunty has claimed successfully and in fact many of my friends say they understand the importance of it. But it doesn’t seem the majority of Singaporeans think that way.

Just needed a space to air my thoughts and I wonder how other insurance agents are coping. Maybe I’m too weak, should I enter to corporate or take up another job? Thx everyone for input

Netizens’ comments

1. Everything has a risk vs benefit aspect. Insurance agents should be schooled in this… and stop trying to push policies onto people who has little risk.
2. Pressure sales is what people hate.
   If you’re thinking for the wellbeing of your client, I believe most people are ok with them.
   I have an insurance agent and I told her right from the start, don’t contact me unless it’s important or benefits me and she honor my request and always gives me something valuable that is worth listening to. Never pressure sales me anything and always keeps me update on any changes which I appreciate it.

I don’t have evidence or religious knowledge but I really noticed a pattern that the universe is sending me signs. And the signs keep getting louder and louder.

I noticed since years ago that I tend to get very sentimental about ex boyfriends. Every time I intentionally go to somewhere we went to previously in order to relive good memories, something very bad will immediately happen within 24 hours. And none of these “unlucky incidents” happened when I didn’t try to reminisce about the past.

There was even once where I didn’t believe the coincidence and tried to walk back to an old dating spot one week after getting into trouble for the same act earlier. The bad karma following that was UNBELIEVABLY HORRIBLE.  The universe is trying to tell me, don’t do this, move on. You’re not supposed to be doing this. But it can’t verbally say so it sends some “punishment” in my direction.

The most recent ex I loved with all my heart, I save the songs he like into one playlist and looped it. (I did this while in a relationship, my current doesn’t know he likes such songs) and  I noticed every single time I loop it, inconvenient and frustrating stuff keep happening at work. (5-10 days) When I don’t loop it, all are well. (3 days)

The universe is strongly signalling to me, don’t pine over someone who’s not worth it anymore! Look at ur current boyfriend, and how loyal he has been! Why can’t you see the good in him and remain loyal to him and only him! This is emotional cheating!

I realise every time I use music or any other form to reminisce about sweet expired memories, especially with a current boyfriend, the universe will punish me in some way. To send me in the right direction.

To all the sentimental and emotional girls like me who develop strong bonds with the one that got away, I want to say that it’s better to use all the emotional attachment for ur current than for ur ex . It’s good to be able to love someone so isn’t it better to redirect it at someone who really cherishes and sacrifices for you, not your ex? Don’t make the devoted current boyfriend disappointed in you!

Does anyone else experience strong signs from the universe whenever you attempt to reconnect with an ex while in a relationship? Does anyone cheat (physically or emotionally) and suffer strange repercussions after that?

Netizens’ comments

• It’s called confirmation bias…You tend to look for incidents to justify your beliefs….Nothing to do with universe giving you signal.
  Don’t worry so much. Just change your beliefs and your realities will change

• The moral of your situation is to find someone that you really love and not someone that you don’t love that much. This will definitely trigger you to think of your ex which is unfair to your current.
  Please reconsider your current r/s & let him go if you keep thinking of your ex…or else the bad karma will follow you for life.

I fell in love with a married man with no kids. He was married for 3 years when we got together officially. When he brought up divorce to his wife, he said the wife was sad but agreed to the divorce. At the same time, the wife requested for some time to pass before commencement of the divorce proceedings which will take another 4 months to finalized. He agreed. When I asked why, he also lied to me that because they were not married for 3 years, they cannot commence divorce proceedings. (This was discovered later when my family members asked me to do an independent check.) The wife also requested that we no contact until divorce is finalized, requested that they go for occasional “outings” (e.g. movies, park, cycling, shopping, daily night time chatting sessions etc). He disagreed on the no contact request but accede to the requests to go on occasional “outings” (although he said no holding of hands). During the dates, he may text me occasionally to update. But the dates can last from 3hrs to 15hrs. He always reassure me that they are just like friends on outings, no intimacy.

This situation dragged on for 3 months since the wife’s discovery of the affair. I feel uneased sometimes when they go on dates. We often quarreled after his dates and he will say that I do not trust him, not seeing the bigger picture and that I should not allow jealousy to get the better of me. He said since we are in the wrong for committing extra-marital affair, we should try to lessen our guilt in the name of Buddhism, by being nice to the wife, so that she will bear less grudges against us and we are less sinful. Acceding to her requests was a way of being nice to the wife. Gradually, I stopped being jealous and in fact, when he took 8 days of leave during the festive period, they went buffet, fort canning, gardens by the bay etc and I wasn’t bothered. I thought as he mentioned, the 8 days were the final outings with the wife and there wouldn’t be any more.

3 months passed and they were supposed to sign the divorce papers as agreed between themselves. However, that did not happened and it dragged on another month with no updates from him, although he stopped going on dates. When he finally signed on the papers (although he didn’t show me evidence), he became very down and low-spirit. He said he wanted to do more for the wife seeing how sad she cried at the lawyer’s office and thereafter upon reaching home. He said the wife was sad as a lot of her requests were not met. Example: Texting me while on his dates made the wife unhappy. He raised his voice at the wife when he found out she called and scolded me and even barged to my office to create a scene, so he regretted not treating the wife better and asked for more time to appease the wife and helped the wife get out of misery. Previously, he also said he will move out of the matrimonial house after signing the papers, but he changed his mind and said he will do so just before the divorce is official in 4 months’ time. We quarreled and he suggested cooling down/breaking up momentarily so he can go ahead to fulfil his wife’s last wishes. He said he will not halt the divorce proceedings. But he also said previously the wife suggested to go on a last holiday and he would like to accede to her request now. This was the last straw for me and I told him he can go ahead and do what he wants. We shall break up. I have awakened.

This post is gonna sound so ridiculous but I’m not trolling. I feel so torn apart rn and I need to rant.

My boyfriend of 3 years (my first rs) broke up with me 2 weeks ago over an ‘influencer’. I really don’t know how he managed to fall for someone he hasn’t even met in person.

He admitted to me that he couldn’t stop thinking of her and he started losing feelings for me. Over the last few months our physical interactions got lesser and he always found excuses to not meet.

I understand that we have our own problems like every other couple does but getting attracted to an instagram girl and dumping your girlfriend over her is really wtf?

I know he saves her photos and we quarrelled over it before when i expressed my discomfort. Never had i expected things to get to this point.

He said that her appearance is his ideal type and she seems really fun to be around, unlike me. I have been moody for some time as my parents have brought up the topic of divorce…

I went to that girl’s page and her feed is filled with photos in skimpy clothings tgt with cringe-worthy videos. I find it so hard to believe that we broke up over this.

Last night i met with one of our mutual friends and she told me that my ex slid into that girl’s dm. I feel really angry and betrayed that my ex let social media get into our rs…

Is my true self not worthy enough? Do guys really put attractive girls on pedestals even if their photos and vids are overly edited and online personas and life are made up?

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