My dad (46M) and my aunt (37F)(mom’s sister) are getting together after my mom (45F) cheated on him. I (21F) am completely supportive of their relationship but am not sure if that’s weird.
About a year and a half ago, I found out that my mother was cheating and having an affair with a co-worker of her’s. I immediately told my dad and this basically led to the end of their marriage.

My mom was never there for me as a mother. She didn’t care about my upbringing and barely was part of my life. My dad was the one who was beside me every step I took and every hardship I had. Through out my entire childhood, she was using my father, was always angry with him and treating him like shit. My father would always comply to my mom’s need and she did nothing in return.

But I still had a female family member to look up to and that was my aunt. She cared more about me than my mom did and was always there for me if I needed her. We got along great and she also helped me through some tough times. She supported and encouraged me. She always had a good relationship with my dad as family. She even showed her support when she found out her sister cheated on my dad.

I currently live together with my dad and barely have any contact with my mother. My dad recently sat me down to talk and told me that him and my aunt were really getting along great together. He told me that they were both interested in seeing each other romantically but weren’t sure if I would be ok with it and if this would complicate my bond with my mother.

This does seem a bit weird to me but to be honest I actually am supportive of the idea. They were both very important in my upbringing and I’m sure they would be great for each other. I already barely have a relationship with my mother so I really don’t care about what she has to say. My father and aunt both deserve to be happy. How should I navigate the situation?

I hate having a small “down there:. It feels like everyone is out of my league

I am 21, a virgin and so insecure about my size (4 inches). Insults everywhere, trends on tik tok humiliating people.

It sucks that probably nobody will ever desire me. It sucks I don’t have the courage to approach girls because I am afraid to be ridiculed when I tell them I am a virgin and am small, resulting in the ultimate disappointment in bed.

I hate, that for every aspect of body shaming there is some group that deals with the same issues but not for being small (well, of course there are other people being small, but lol if you are open about it you aren’t seen as a man anymore and getting joked on forever)….

It’s no topic people will take serious if I would open up about it and there is nothing I can do against it. Even I think it’s ridiculous. I don’t know how to feel better about it. It just sucks…

Yeah some women won’t care but how can I find them without scaring them away because of my stupid insecurity.

How will they stay with an average guy if there are other average guys out there with an average size too. I’m not that special.

Why is a generally ugly body part taking up my thoughts for hours every day just because there is an inch missing to average.

It feels like everyone is out of my league. Damn that’s so stupid. Thanks for listening. Felt good to rant about it. Have a nice day.

I’m finding it so hard to try and get along with my brother’s gf. She is 2 years older than me and she keep calling me xmm instead of my name which I find its so disrespectful. She doesn’t have a stable job and have only worked part time jobs as far as I’m aware. Her last part time job was in a clothing shop but it closed down because of covid and she hasn’t been working since.

I know my brother has been giving her an allowance as both her parents have retired. She also like to poke her nose into our family matters. Once she asked me how much I earn in front of everyone and I refused to say. I find her offensive and I don’t know what my brother sees in her.

She doesn’t wear feminine clothes and has a boy’s hairstyle. She looks like a butch to me. I never told my brother that I dislike his gf but I think my behavior shows as I don’t talk much when she comes over or I will hide in my room for hours.

My parents say there is a chance my brother may marry this girl so I should try to get along with her. How? When she is so mean towards me?! I find I am more socially exposed than her as I work in many different places because of my job.

And I cannot stand it when she try to talk down to me and try to educate me about my job which she knows nothing of. Very often she will talk to me about her old school days which I find she’s so out of touch and outdated in life as I worked for more than 5 years and don’t think of school days anymore unlike her.

The breaking point for me is when I found out she entered my room when I wasn’t home, went through my things and ‘borrowed’ one of my branded handbag. I was furious.

I told my brother but he said she is just borrowing it and will return me soon. She even told me I have so many bags and she only took one bag. She don’t see the fuss?!!!!! I lost it. I used my entire vocabulary and demanded her to return my bag. I said there is covid, makes no sense to share personal use items too. She tried to play victim and cried to my brother.

Now everyone thinks I’m the bad guy for being so petty over a bag when she is my future sister in law. This is so frustrating. I don’t think I’m in the wrong. And I have no idea how to make things better when I’m so disgusted with her behavior.

My friend cheats on his girlfriend with prostitutes and I’m seriously considering sending an anonymous text to her.

This has been going on for about four years and I found out about it a year and a half ago.

He’s been with about fifteen prostitutes. He told me this himself and has spoken about going to Amsterdam on a holiday and hiring hookers.

I lived with this guy too, and one day he told me he was going to the shop. When he came back he revealed he actually went to get a “hand massage” at a massage parlour. No massage, just a “tuggie”.

He’s been with his girlfriend since they were in school, so they’re dating about seven years. She loves him so much. They’re renting a house together now and are outwardly the perfect couple. But I feel like it’ll come out at some point in their relationship and I think it would destroy her forever.

I think it’s messed up and disgusting. I want to send an anonymous message to her and just let her know what’s happening but I don’t know how many people he’s told. I think he’ll know it was me. I don’t know what to do.

Netizens’ comments

• For her hygiene and safety I would. She deserves to know that.

• IMO I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone like him, and therefore I’d spill the beans, so it depends on how much you value your friendship. In my mind dishonesty isn’t limited to one relationship. If he’s lying to her he’d lie to you about important things too, if he hasn’t already. I personally wouldn’t trust someone like that.