A woman shared about her she always get asked if she is a man or woman as she is born with manly facial features.

Here are her frustrations:

I’m a regular woman. I was born a effing woman, I just have strong manly facial features. I tried to get to get a guy and this guy flat out ignored my pickup line to ask me the infamous question, “Are you trans?”

Are you kidding me? No woman wants to basically be told they have masculine features, trans or not. Have some respect. That literally ruined my day and it makes me feel like such S every time I’m called that.

Similar encounters

A few women commented on the story who faced similar issues shared her frustrations as well:

• Sorry, this happened to you. It has happened to me more than I would like to admit. The most recent occurrence was at a bar a few years ago just before Halloween.
  I was out with a group of guys and didn’t really dress for the occasion I guess? I was waiting for the ladies room to be free and an older lady asked me if I would be “more comfortable” using the mens room. So rude.

• IK WHAT YOU MEAN!!! Someone asked if I was trans once and I literally wanted to cry, I talked to someone about it and they called me transphobic

• Some people are so dense. Even if you were trans they shouldn’t be asking that. I’ve been asked if I’m trans before and I think I have quite feminine features and my pictures in my profile show off feminine features, so I don’t think people even think before asking sometimes. It’s so rude and reflects on the person asking, not you. Please don’t let them make you appreciate your beautiful features any less.

A man shared his story about his Thai wife stating that his life has been turned upside down after marriage and he hopes his story can help others.

Here is his story:

Hi all, like many of us that were once tempted by the allure of the siam bu, we ended up marrying one. Like everything in life, there are two sides to a coin.

Just to be clear, I have stopped drinking after marriage and go out less than 10 times a year with friends, this includes friend’s weddings and other special occasions. Here are the pro and cons:

Pro

• Very pretty

• Can cook and takecare home

• Nighttime activity very gao lat

• Very loyal

Cons

• Every single small dispute will be made known on Facebook and you totally lose all your face

• Always suspicious of me despite I have not gone out for months

• Peeping at my phone when I’m sleeping and asking who is my female colleague, only to realise that the colleague not pretty enough to be a threat

• Back in her homeland, the mother knows she marry a foreigner and always demands money (The usual bs story, mother sick, cow sick, dog sick BS)

• Have to report strength wherever I go, go to NTUC downstairs must take selfies, go office must take selfies in the office to prove my location. (Lan jiao la, if i really want cheat can take all these photos beforehand)

• Have no sense of money, get a salary of $3,000 then buy a $2,000 bag then ask me for money cause she does not have enough to survive the month. When I asked her why she buy it, this is her exact justification: “My friend have I always want have post on Facebook”

• I go pang sai for a long time cause constipated she thinks I calling girl in the toilet, so I never flush and show her the big pile of chocolate.

Conclusion

This is not an isolated incident, I have had several siam bu GF before. All the pattern 80% the same for the pro and cons. Not asking you guys not to marry siam bu, you marry what country bu also got some monkey problem one.

This is my nightmare and my warning, thank you for reading.

A man shared his encounter with a pregnant woman who wanted to drink alcohol and he refused to serve her. Which resulted in an altercation between the woman and her husband.

I am unclear about the law as to whether bartenders can be sued, fined, or prosecuted for serving alcohol to pregnant women. To prevent any complications, my job has a rule in place that you cannot serve alcohol to any visibly pregnant women. We treat it the same way we treat an ID that we aren’t sure if it’s fake. If the possibly underaged person (or in this case, pregnant person) doesn’t leave, we kick out the whole party to prevent them from buying alcohol for the person who shouldn’t be served.

Last Friday, I had a visibly pregnant woman and a party of 4 other women come in. I’m super lenient on what I consider visibly pregnant. Like you have to be clearly wearing maternity clothes and be like 8 months. This woman was clearly very very pregnant. She went to order alcohol. I told her unfortunately, I can’t serve her alcohol. She asked why. I told her that she is visibly pregnant and it’s against policy. All of her friends and she just groaned and walked out. I thought it was the end of it.

The next day, a man came in and asked for me by name. He then proceeded to yell at me, saying his wife had been in there and I refused to serve her. She was pretty much the only person in recent memory I had refused to serve so I told him that it was policy to not serve alcohol to women we believe are pregnant. He instantly broke down in what I can only describe as angry tears and told me his son was going to be stillborn, and his wife’s friends took her out to distract her.

I feel terrible but the wife came in yesterday to tell me that it’s okay and that her husband is just really going through it. She asked to speak to my manager and they talked about the policy. My manager actually congratulated me on doing the right thing but I can’t stop thinking it was a wrong move on my part.

I am 32. I was a dad. I was a husband. My wife was 30. My daughter was 4, almost 5.

In November we went somewhere, I don’t remember where, it doesn’t matter. We got hit by a drunk driver. My wife was killed instantly, so at least she didn’t suffer.

My daughter wasn’t as lucky. She was put into ICU. Broken neck and ribs, collapsed lung, internal bleeding. I only

My daughter held out until January, but hadn’t gotten better. They said it’d just be better to let her go. Plus there were so many patients that needed tending to, so…I watched as they pulled the plug.

I feel like a useless person. I feel like a failure of a father, watching his daughter die. I know there wasn’t anything I could do, that her struggle wasn’t getting her anywhere.

Even now in April, I’m just not ready to talk about it. Why was I fine but they weren’t? Why did God decide to forsake me, alone? Why did I have to lose my only family?

Netizens’ comments

• Man. Wish I could I could give you a hug and say it’s not your fault. Sending lots of bro hugs down your way.

• Survivor guilt is a very common occurrence, I am heartbroken for you, no parent should have to go through the death of a child. I would respectfully suggest grief counseling, you may find tools there that can help you through the process.

• You were a great dad, you were there with her. Sometimes that’s all we can ask of each other.

You feel guilty, that means you cared.

It’s gut-wrenching, there is nothing that will change it.

Please get someone to talk to, a therapist, it will help you find a way to get through things. They wouldn’t want you to lose your life or your way in life because of some drunk driver.

Get help, move your life forward, you’ll never move on, their memories will always be there, make it the good ones, share their story.

my boyfriend doesn’t let me touch myself when we get intimate.

my boyfriend doesn’t want me to pleasure myself, watch adult videos and even moves my hand away when i rub myself when we fk.

he says if he’s not good enough to satisfy me then we shouldn’t be together.

i told him using a toy when we’re making love just makes it feel ten times better and he basically said absolutely not and if i use a toy there will be no reason for him to do anything with me because he can’t compete with it..

i talked to my friend about this and she said she kinda understands where he is coming from…like am i just crazy or what is this a common thing?

in addition to this he doesn’t want me to finish until he says i can, he says it’s a turn on which i’m fine with but sometimes goes as far as just stopping without saying i can finish to “edge me and tease me” which again i am fine with but it’s pretty common he does this

Netizens’ comments

1. If he won’t budge from this infantile mentality, take the above advice he gave you, and bail
2. He cares more about his sensitive little ego than whether or not you’re also enjoying yourself.
3. You need a new boyfriend. He’s a bozo
4. “My boyfriend doesn’t get to be with me anymore….” There, I fixed it for you
5. He sounds insecure about his abilities in bed. I’m all about making sure the girl gets off too, one way or another.
6. This sounds like incompatibility. He wants to be controlling, and you want pleasure.
7. He’s insecure asf. He doesn’t get to make rules about how or when you can touch yourself. Controlling. I’d leave this relationship over this.
8. As soon as your partner doesn’t “let” you do something it’s time to walk away.

I love tekong food, but everyone says they hate it.

Before booking in everyone I knew who served in NS or is currently serving NS kept saying that the food is bad and inedible.

However, the first meal I had which was an outration btw, was one of the best things i’ve ever eaten in a long time, in fact i still remember it, curry chicken (maybe my old diet was just bland and boring idk).

Ever since that day i’ve always looked forward to lunch and dinner in tekong, sometimes even taking second portions. Although, combat rations are actually a lot more tastier than tekong food ngl.

Breakfast however is bad, I don’t know how they keep fking up breakfast but are able to cook good meals for lunch and dinner.

Netizens’ comments

1. Bro i think u need go MO
2. Good meals?!! But I agree that outrations do hit different, especially when you are out in the field.
3. Good to hear. Everyone has a different taste toward cookhouse food.
4. Isnt cook house 1 near the ferry terminal? Heard its the better one out of the 3 cookhouses
5. Breakfast at Ladang camp cookhouse 3 one of the days is literally 2 slices of ham, a chicken sausage, beans and boiled vegetables
6. BMTC Western day chicken was bad enough that chewing on the skin/meat surface legitimately felt like I was biting down on a piece of bone…
7. Tekong only western food quite solid, e.g. chicken chop, charcoal burger, fish fillet tomato pasta🍝. Followed by bee hoon, the rest meh. Scs food is like Tekong’s food with more ingredients & higher quantities like you can add more chilli, sour lime and cilantro into ur mee rebus
8. Tekong food is honestly just mediocre and good at best, and it’s not even close to inedible for sure
9. not love but I geniunely think my tekong cookouse served up better munch than my current kranji one

Seeking advice for how to handle a situation.

My wife and I have been together for 17 years – 2 kids, dog, house, all that stuff. We’re both pretty comfortable speaking our minds in that we’re not prudes, or conservative, but we’re also not overly promiscuous either.

We get busy with work, kids, etc. like everyone else, so we haven’t slept together much as I’d like, but who does.

All that said, I recently found some pretty explicit videos in her browser history – g@ng bang type of stuff. I’m not bothered that it’s a turn on for her. I’ve got my own interests as well.

I’m bothered that she hasn’t been honest with me about her fantasies, turn on’s, etc. I recently shared some of mine with her, but disappointed she hasn’t shared similarly.

How, if at all, can I bring this up to her to potentially use it as something we can explore together?

Netizens’ comments

1. If you see something that you like in her history bring it up as your own. If she likes it she will respond favorably but pushing and coming from a place of snooping doesn’t seem like a winning tactic for you.
2. What you watch doesn’t mean that’s their personal preference, could just be she likes watching someone in that situation or thats whatever was suggested and they just followed the trail, or maybe there were just some camera angles there that worked in the moment, etc. I wouldn’t read into it.
3. It’s not that deep. Could’ve just been a rabbit hole she went down that felt right at the time.
4. Everyone is different, but more often than not fantasies of such videos fall into the “hot fantasy but never ever ever in real life” category of desire. It’s popular with women – including myself- because it allows us explore those feelings on our own terms – no judgement, no fear of an outside person taking things too far or misinterpreting them. Even with men I trust – I’d rather share things I want to genuinely try with my partner.