I (35M) have been married with my wife (30F) for around three years.

We got to know each other a few years before our marriage via a dating app, she is from the Philippines and was working in the hospitality industry and I am a locally born and bred Malay.

Wife told me that she was pregnant

Last year, my wife told me that she was pregnant and I was over the moon.

I had always wanted to have a child and my parents were also looking forward to their grandchildren.

What would have been a happy ending turned out to be something which kept me suspicious for the longest time.

Her pregnancy soon descended into me suspecting that my wife had cheated on me

Soon after, my daughter was born.

As I gazed at my newborn daughter, I felt a deep sense of betrayal. For the first time in my life, I suspected my wife had cheated on me.

It all began when I noticed how different our daughter’s complexion appeared compared to mine and my wife’s.

Our daughter was fair, while my wife and I are both dark-skinned. We both come from Filipino and Malay cultures, so I was sure our baby should have taken after us.

But instead she was fair, and my suspicion grew.

I confronted her and found out the truth

I decided to confront my wife about my suspicions, but she denied any involvement with anyone else. I didn’t know what to think or believe. How could this have happened?

My wife had been working as a server at a high-class bar in Singapore. I had imagined the worst possible scenario—that she had been hanging around rich men and had cheated on me. I was so angry and hurt.

I was determined to find out the truth, so I began to investigate. After some digging, I discovered that one of the men she served at her workplace was quite chummy with her.

While I initially brushed it off as her just entertaining him for the sake of not offending her customers, it didn’t seem like it after more observation.

I caught him sending her home and them kissing right under my block eventually.

It was then that I finally began to understand what had happened. My wife had been having an affair with this man. The realization hurt more than I ever imagined, and I felt so betrayed. I wanted to confront her, but I was also afraid of what might happen if I did.

Decided to let it go to save our marriage

In the end, I chose to forgive her. I also wanted to save our marriage, and I knew that confronting her would only push her away.

So I made the decision to keep my suspicions to myself and look past it. I would never forget what had happened, but I wanted to move on.

I’m still not sure if I made the right choice, but I’m trying to make the best of the situation.

Me (25F) and my boyfriend (30M) got into a fight because he said he doesn’t want to hear about my emotional baggage

So I was a run away at 18 and I’ve been struggling and moving through things to build a life for myself.

Just recently I saw my dad just walking on the street and it triggered me for some reason and I came home crying my eyes out for the night.

My bf came home and said to me how I shouldn’t be talking like this, how I shouldn’t be acting like this because nobody cares, people will just laugh at me and my situation and that I should be stronger and work harder and then complained about how the dishes and laundry weren’t done.

This is my first relationship I’ve been in and I just want to know if this is normal what he said to me.

Netizens’ comments

• let me repeat it for the people in the back: Is this the way you WANT to be treated? Then who cares if it’s “normal”
• Not at all normal. Really sounds messed up.
• No, not normal. You should be able to expect him to be supportive.

To local women, I’d really like to know how in today’s culture, women are disadvantaged in SG? Cause to me, it seems that being a girl is more advantageous in SG than being a guy. Let’s list a few examples ya.

NS – the BIG one. For all the talk about gender equality by feminists, this is an area that most local women would be happy not being equal in. Meanwhile, guys have to sacrifice 2 years of their prime and the opportunity cost is immense with regards to potential income earned, career progression, relationships, etc. I completely disagree with what Ng Eng Hen said recently in Parliament about compulsory enlistment for women.

Dating – Once again, women talk about equal rights but a lot of them (I didn’t say ‘all’) would happily let the guy pay for all their dates (even if they are earning a similar amount or higher), plan everything for vday and anniversary, be the one to propose, etc while not putting in as much effort. I mean think abt it, if not for the women who want a picture perfect vday celebration of a rose bouquet and candle-lit dinner, most men wouldn’t even care to rmb 14 Feb.

Counter argument to this is that perhaps women need to put in more effort after marriage, especially when children come into the picture. But even then, it’s no denying that women aren’t exactly helping themselves because a lot of local women still adhere to traditional views of gender.

Workplace – the gender pay gap is bull pls.. Justifiably, if you’re the same level as a male colleague doing the same job but getting paid a bit lesser, pls note my 1st point abt local guys having to sacrifice 2 years of their life to NS, whether willingly or otherwise…

And for those who say that not enough females are represented in STEM jobs, erm… maybe do consider that perhaps in the 1st place not as many women are entering these fields compared to men?

A trend I notice at the workplace is how for the sake of diversity, a woman is selected for a managerial position even though there is a more qualified man for the role. I won’t have an issue with this if both the man and woman are similarly qualified, but if the man happens to be more qualified, shouldn’t merit/expertise for the job take priority compared to trying to score diversity points in your annual report?

You may call me bitter (and yes I do admit partly that I’m bitter abt this) but at the end of the day, some of the stuff I say do have grains of truth in them. Some of you may like to bring up how the majority of sexual assault and domestic violence cases are women, but I’d argue that these are not exactly things happening at a systematic level compared to the stuff I’ve mentioned.

Been thinking for quite sometime whether to write in about a Princess Girlfriend of ours. We are close friend for years but of late our group decided to stay away from her 1 after another.

(45) old princess with full plastic surgery from top to breast behaving like a Spoiled Princess living in her fantasy. Initially she act to be very truthful friend but as we get along we cannot tolerate her princess behaviour. Whenever we have any gatherings she will repeatedly remind us she doesn’t know how to book restaurants, doesn’t know how to buy food or groceries for parties treating all of us like the minions doing all the work while she relax at home. For a mother of 3 with growth up children, It’s difficult to believe she cannot do the above, i will think it’s either she really stupid or cannot be bother to learn. But than how does she survive in corporate world ??

Infront of us all she does was bitching about her girl friends, back-mouthing her bf’s daughter dressing up like a slut spreading rumours her bf’s girl deserves to be rape if it happens. Not only she bitch about bf gal, she also goes around bitching her bf’s sisters and mother for being a gamblers. But on next moment she will bring them out for expensive meals to curry favour.

And she always scold her bf whenever he didn’t plan for a romantic dinner during anniversary or birthday. Mind you her dinner must be accompanied with big bouquet and candlelight setup if the flowers bouquet is too small she would sulk the whole night.

We are all kind of pity her bf but than he made his own bed anyway. All we can do is learning listening ears to him whenever we meet up.
This is my first time encounter such a scary fake personality.

I went away on holiday and due to unexpected delays, my two week stay ended up being about another and a half because I was unable to get home.

My son (18) was in charge of looking after the house and I checked in daily and was always told the house was great and my animals were looked after.

When I got home the house was trashed. There were dog poo and pee all over the floors, there were dead fish in the fish tank and there were dishes piled up going mouldy.

The fridge had open food in it and the bathroom looked like a bomb site. Ofc I stormed to my sons room to tell him off!

My son has no job and was living off the money I was giving him to look after the animals and for food (about $200 a week).

He hadn’t visited the house in a week. I completely cut off all financial support for him and sent pictures and bills for cleaning.

I also sent him vet bills for the dogs and told him he had to pay it before I sued him.

Please help me to post this. As I feel that as time goes on my chances of saving my wife is getting more and more dim.

Thank you reading the story below. Please don’t mind my English and forgive my grammatical errors.

It’s my first time wanted to post something. I’m not sure if this is the right channel to do so. But I hope that your social media reach can garner me some “moral” support.

Let’s call me R (41M) . I have been married to a Vietnamese lady and let’s call her PB (33F) . We were married this year in march.

I have suffered some losses due to a unforeseen business failure and have been settling issues since our marriage in march due to court cases. All things said and done. I am currently in the midst of being able to get back what I loss in business through alot of planning for a new endeavour.

My wife and I used to rent a place to live together before and through our marriage for a bout a year. Even though I have my own place under my name. She expressed that she was not comfortable staying with my elderly mum and sisters who are due to be married and leaving my place soon. And she also expressed that the rational is that it’s more convenient for her to go to work. As a loving boyfriend then and now husband. I obliged to her request out of love and meeting her needs.

After all the bad situations happend to me which almost landed me in prison. I had to pay hefty fine of 120K plus if not I will have to serve jail time. I was lucky that the judge allowed me to pay in installments of 20K per month after clearing at least 50% of the fine up front. I am happy that I struggled through that without even any help from her. As I do not want her to be overstressed due to our mother-in-law having cancer and living back in Vietnam.

Recently, in September we left our rental apartment as the lease ended. And because it is a tough time for me I am unable to get another rental immediately but will be able to do so in two months time since things are picking up for me due to the good graces of the universe and pure hardwork. I requested that she come back to our matrimonial home and legal address but got shot down by her saying it is not convenient for her work. She works in a KTV. And insisted that she wants to stay out in a rental room and only come back to our matrimonial home on Sunday and Monday to spend time with me and our family. Its really ridiculous but still I give trust as she promised that she will communicate with me about her whereabouts and let me know all is safe as she holds a LTVP which can easily be cancelled if she were to be caught doing any illegal activities.

She used to just work till 2am and come back home as fast as she could to be with me as all wife and husbands do. She used to let me know her whereabouts even when she is out for a booking with customers. Now she does not even tell me where she goes and what she is doing. She only texts me to say single liners like . “I’m ok” , “am busy” , no time to reply etc. Now she says she needs to work until 6am daily. Which I find puzzling and suspicious.

Ever since she stopped staying together with me.She doesn’t even reply as she used to. I suspect that she is doing alot of illegal things behind my back. But out of trust for her I let it go. The lack of communication is a red flag and drastic change.

And here comes the biggest drama which I hope the netizens will share this story and prevent any other man/woman from getting into this situation.

She has a “good lady friend” called M also a Vietnamese but much younger than my wife Recently on 18/09. My wife who usually texts me as soon as she wakes up. Suddenly tell me she is out with M in the afternoon. Usually when she wakes we will do a video call to check in with each other. Assuming she was still in grabcar I called her to check in awhile before I proceed for my meeting. She did not answer at all. Tried calling again she answered without activating video call and heard her saying she is in lady M home but I heard guys voices in the background. This immediately triggered me. As I know lady M’s husband as well. And that is definitely not M’s husband voice. Immediately, all things started going through my head and I called her till she answers a video call.

She finally answered showed she is in a kitchen with her “good lady friend” M. It’s definitely not M’s home. So I caught the first lie. And obvious my wife did not go home at all the night before. She is wearing an orange t-shirt which she has never had and I have never bought . I asked who is the guy they keep brushing me off and say they are at a mutual friend home. And got really upset as this is a first lie. Secondly, they were all slurring. Both woman especially my wife cannot drink alcohol. She gets drunk with less than 3 small glasses of beer. Being aware of Illicit substances use . It is confirmed that they have been using Illicit substance since early morning of 17 October. I k