I often see the news report on neighbourhood hair salons who often take advantage of elderly people by selling them expensive hair treatment packages that they don’t need.

This is an issue that has been going on for years and it seems like no one is doing anything about it.

The problem is that these hair salons often target the elderly because they know they are more likely to be vulnerable and not know how to protect themselves from being taken advantage of.

The hair salons will often offer a package deal that includes multiple treatments and products, but in reality, the elderly person only needs one or two of the treatments. They then end up spending hundreds or thousands of dollars on something they don’t really need.

Pressure and scare tactics on elderly

The hair salon employees almost always use high-pressure sales tactics to try and get the elderly person to buy the package deal. They will often say things like, “This is the only way you will be able to get the results you want,” or “This package is the only way to get the best value for your money.” They also often use scare tactics to make the elderly person think they will have serious problems if they don’t buy the package.

This kind of behaviour is unethical and wrong, but unfortunately, there is very little that can be done to stop it. The elderly person is usually in a vulnerable position and often feels like they have no choice but to buy the package.

The only way to really stop this problem is for the government to step in and pass laws that protect the elderly from being taken advantage of. They could make it illegal for hair salons to use high-pressure sales tactics and scare tactics when selling to the elderly. They could also make it illegal for hair salons to offer package deals that include treatments and products that the elderly person does not need.

It is also important for the elderly to be educated about their rights and how to protect themselves from being taken advantage of. They should be aware of the common tactics that hair salons use to get them to buy the package deals and they should be aware of the laws that protect them.

It is important for people to report any suspicious behaviour by hair salons to the authorities. If they see a hair salon using high-pressure sales tactics or offering package deals that include treatments and products that the elderly person doesn’t need, they should report it to the police or to a consumer protection agency.

Unfortunately, the problem of neighbourhood hair salons taking advantage of the elderly is not going away anytime soon. But, if we come together and take action, we can make sure that the elderly are protected and that these unethical practices are stopped.

She (26F) Cheated, so I (30M) cheated back, but feel bad.

I (30M) found out last year December 31st that my girlfriend(26F) cheated on me a month (5 Nov) earlier, but I chose to stay with her.

So on the 5th Nov ’22 my girlfriend and I had a bit of a misunderstanding, which lead to her telling she’s going to spend the night with her friend (female). I thought nothing of it. 6th Nov ’22 we spent the day together after talking through our differences and she spent the night.

24th Dec ’22 was her birthday and I was unable to spent it with her, I needed to attend a family funeral. We didn’t see each other for a couple of days, so I was not aware that she was upset that I could not be with her. Fast forward a few days and on the 31st Dec ’22 we broke up, she told me in my face that she had slept with someone on the 5th Nov out of spite.

A couple of days later I struggled with her through what has happen and found out the night of the 31st she slept with someone else and continues to be in touch with him. We agreed that we’d try again after a lengthy fight and she promised to never see him again.

Two months went by with us dating and I lost my phone so she offered to let me use hers for a few days… Driven by my curiosity I went through her phone and found that she had done a good job of clearing the phone out, but forgot to disconnect her google account, so I had access to all her Google Maps trips and saw that she still visited the guy she cheated on me with.

Out of frustration I went out with some friends and because I am not exactly unattractive and have a bit of charisma getting a lady’s attention that night was not at all difficult, so I chose to ignore the constant thought of me being in a relationship crossing my mind and went forth to sleep with the lady I met.

The lady and I understood it was a one night thing, but I felt so bad, and refuse to go see my girlfriend the next day. When I did finally see her I broke down and confessed, I told her everything I did and she was hurt, but chose that we should still be together. I asked that I need some time to process it all…

Do you think this is something that can be salvaged? Or do I really just need to get out of this? I love her so much!

Guy I barely know asking for paynow of $300 to feed him and his daughter

Met on a game on clash royale and chatted on WhatsApp in 2018. Suddenly been calling me and texting me to send him $300 as his wife took his money and left with his daughter to Vietnam.

Claims he is jobless and trying to feed his other daughter.

What do you think you’ll do?

I DID NOT AND WILL NOT SEND HIM $$$

Netizens’ comments

• why the need to justify not sending $300 to a sus online stranger.

• OP I am poor help me. Send me $250 enough. You don’t help me I may die. It will look bad on you. You will be deemed horrible human being if you don’t help me.

• And he has time to play clash royale instead of earning money for food?

• If he is really strapped for cash, there are jobs he can do that pay daily. I suspect he needs the money to feed an addiction.

Will just tell him I don’t have the money to give him. If he whines, will just block/delete him

• I’ll give the benefit of doubt that OP is concerned this is actually a genuine case and they are really starving in vietnam.

I also don’t want this to result in the daughter starving because we conveniently write it off as a scam, no matter how unlikely it is imo.

I haven’t played clash before but is there like a VIP system or someway to reasonably estimate how much he has been spending on the game?

If you can tell that he has been spending thousands on clash and now his begging for donations?

Thats sus AF.

The other option is instead of sending cash because for all you know he ends up using it on in game purchases, alcohol and nothing for this so called daughter of his, offer to send NTUC vouchers instead.

Vouchers cant be used for alcohol or tobacco so at least its going into grocereys

• I think you should look family centre and ask him to go there because you won’t if you paynow 300 bucks is really use to feed him and his daughter or use for other items.

Now got delivery service. You really want to help just call the supermarket to deliver those essential items to his house to tide over this period.

In short be careful. If you are willing to paynow 300 then you must be prepared 300 wun come back liao.

My girlfriend is gaining weight and it’s bothering me

We moved in together about 6 months ago.

I am not a pinnacle of physical fitness but I exercise regularly and watch what I eat within reason. My girlfriend just is not interested in these things. When we met, she was slightly curvey but she “wore it” well.

She considers herself a foody and she is a good cook. Not gonna lie, I appreciate her cooking a lot. What is starting to bother me is the lack of exercise and the processed junk food she keeps at home. She loves cookies, muffins, pastries, etc.

In the past 6 months, I’ve gotten more in shape and she’s done the opposite.

I try to (VERY gently) encourage her to eat better and exercise but she’s just not having it.

I’m planning to break up with her at the end of the month. I know she’s going to be devastated. I’m not sure if I should be honest or just make up an excuse.

It sucks because I feel like we’re a pretty good fit and that we co-exist well. I’m going to miss her. I really do care about her as a person and I don’t want to hurt her, but I can’t keep living this lie.

I just know deep down that I can’t be with someone who I’m not physically attracted to. I’m not even 30 yet and I don’t want to settle. This could end up being a mistake, but I gotta take the chance.

I’m already expecting the comments to just be roasting me. I’m just a human being trying to get through life. I’m in a dilemma.

Netizens’ comments

My husband and I have both had drastic weight changes throughout our relationship and we both realize that we will continue to change. We both want to lose weight and he has been doing great! I on the other hand have been struggling to lose but haven’t been gaining.

We don’t love each other any less because of it. It’s understandable if you are more attracted to a specific body type but losing interest completely is not something that happens if you truly love them.

We are very honest with each other and my husband did tell me that he finds me a little more attractive at my lighter weight. He does however still find me attractive and loves me for me. People change, physically and mentally. No one you date is going to stay the same forever and that’s just part of being human.

Break up with her. She deserves better. You aren’t willing to help her or even have an honest talk with her. You need to take some time for yourself and grow up a little.

landlord increasing rent

Hi guys i need some advice on how i should live in Singapore, for some context my parents are foreigners who have not gotten their PR, we are renting a 3 room flat for 2400. and landlord wants to increase to 3000, my parents are already trying to make ends meet.

and lately I’ve been thinking about just quitting poly, just so i can help make ends meet, my ex boss is offering me a FT job at a bar, 3.1k. should i take it up.

i am trying to find a life where my parents dont have to be so stress and my younger siblings can find a life that they are happy to live with

tldr thinking about dropping out of poly to work, to support family

Netizens’ comments

• I think a poly education is a minimum if you want a relatively decent shot at a long term career.

Obviously there are options for careers without formal education, but chances of long term success or stability with these routes are relatively narrow, so I’d personally recommend to finish poly at least. That way, if things improve and you want to pursue a uni education later, you will have the option.

• If you finish poly, you likely can help even more. Don’t give up long term for short term issues.

Talk to your ex boss, can you do part time now while studying. Life sucks, but at least try to give yourself the best chances you have.

• If you are halfway through poly, my advice is not to quit because unfortunately in SG, the base salaries of many entry level jobs are dependent on your qualifications. Perhaps discuss with your parents on whether you can find a cheaper unit in another location to rent for the time being? Not sure if downsizing makes sense considering you have siblings as well living in.

• do not drop out of school. if you are really desperate, do all these before you really have to quit school:

1. get a part time job. you will have no life (no hanging out with friends after class, no CCAs, no gaming, no time for dating etc) but at least, you can complete your poly education
2. if your parents are not that old (say they are only in their 50s), they can also get a part time job/freelance on their off days or after work.
3. move to a much smaller unit. for the next 1 or 2 years while waiting for you to finish poly. you kids can sleep in the hall while the parents take the room.
4. drastically cut expenditure across the board (toiletries, groceries, entertainment, subscriptions, non critical enrichment classes for siblings etc)

i have a distant cousin who is in her 60s. she is STILL moaning and groaning that she had to drop out of secondary school to “support the family”. the ironic thing is, she dropped out due to extremely bad grades and was looking for a legit-sounding reason to quit school. and cos she wanted money to have fun. she also barely gave a dime to the family after she dropped out. one of her younger siblings secretly told us all that (the rest of us weren’t born yet back then).

plus the family wasn’t that poor to begin with. while they had no savings (and maybe owed friends and family a small sum here and there…. remember no credit cards nor easy cash loan fr banks back then), there was always proper food (not canned, not instant) for every meal and they never had to study under the moonlight or collect free water from public toilets!

not saying that you are like my cousin, just reminding you that your family’s situation may not be as bad as you think and some sacrifices may seem grandiose in gesture but can be quite meaningless in reality.

good luck.

Crazy Guy at Raffles Place

At around 9.15pm today, some well dressed dude in office attire was walking around the Raffles Place open area, harassing the foreign workers who were doing their construction job by shouting at them.

He then proceeded to harass a couple and spat at them (although his spit fell way short of the target).

I thought he was drunk or high on drugs etc, but when it came to crossing the road, he knew enough to watch out for cars and jog across.

What is the best way to handle such a person? Call the cops? Or just ignore?

Anyway, if anybody was hurt by the guy and wants a witness etc, do drop me a message.

Netizens’ comments

• It could be someone having a manic episode. Usually associated with bipolar disorder.

• Call the police. Film the evidence while waiting for them to arrive, in case it should/need to be used later on. DO NOT share the video with anyone but the police.

This guy might be under the influence (of legal or illegal drugs) or having a meltdown that might need psychiatric help. It will be up to the police to determine what’s the next steps.

Do your duty as a human being. Do NOT shame that person online, but rather make sure the authorities will be in charge to handle the situation.

In other countries, where the police might be corrupt, things might be different, but in Singapore, you can be almost guaranteed assured that the police will take care of the matter reasonably, and with the best outcome for everyone.

• My personal experience is call police, they can handle or get someone to handle. I saw an old lady keeps running around a park, crying and shouting some dialect I don’t understand at random objects, then repeatedly body slammed a tree and had a shouting match with the tree.

I called 999, some police came down, managed to keep her still. Then they called someone, probably her caretaker, to come and fetch her.

• Call the cops if necessary. If there is danger of harm to him her self or to others, police will move faster. Harassing people may lead to physical harm so there is evidence of potential danger to others.

Should not handle yourself unless you think you are capable.

Can also ask the victims jf they are ok, need help, need witness? Now if the workers want to find you, I doubt they surf reddit la.

Drunk or mentally ill doesn’t mean dunno how to cross the road safely. There are many levels.

I used to work part time at a school to help pay for my bachelor’s degree 3 or 4 years ago and frankly I was lucky to land a gig there. But, while I was there, I got a reputation for being the “cool teacher” that everyone could relate to.

A bunch of kids ended up getting way too comfortable, and telling me stuff that they really shouldn’t have. The school was a mess, with all kinds of internal problems.

Today, years later, I’ve since graduated, have a way better job, and a bunch of my former students have since grown up and moved on with their lives.

Almost a year ago, three of them found out my Instagram and invited me to dinner in order to catch up. I expected a light-hearted dinner, but what I got was a trauma dump where all of them told me about their sob stories within their families.

Naturally, I put as much distance between myself and them as possible, I didn’t want to be dragged into any of that s—.

A few months ago I had a bad break up, and afterwards I saw one of these three students at a club. Usually, I’d just say Hi and move on, but he stuck to me all night and followed me through three different clubs.

Finally, I had to go home, but he insisted on going home with me because he’d left his friends behind. Both of us were drunk out of our minds and ended up sleeping together.

We ended up in a kind of situationship, where I was trying to replace what I’d lost, and I honestly don’t know why he didn’t just stick with his friends.

At this point, I’m just waiting for something bad to happen to me. I used to make fun of teachers in the district that slept with former students. We called them out for being creepy, and here I am doing it myself. I’ll swear I’ve got bad karma.

Anyway, I just wanted this off my chest. All my close friends think that I haven’t had a guy in almost a year because I’m to embarrassed to tell them the truth.