Back then I believed in true love but I started to see the comfort of another woman, they have boyfriends to chauffeur them around and I’m taking bus and MRT with my boyfriend.

Soon I got a bf with a car, but it was an old broken piece of junk he calls it a “car”. It was so noisy and the aircon was never cold. I ended it with him because I did not feel comfortable. I needed some more atas car to fit me.

So, I’m a gold digger. But not the way you’re thinking about it, I’m a pro. I check the newspapers for financial transactions, then “bump into” someone who’s just made a lot of money and ask them out, that’s how I met my current husband, but he was a player for most of his life so he genuinely thought i was into him (or so i thought at the time).

he implied that he was exhausted from the drama and just wanted a homely girl to be the mother of his children, so i played the part and kept up the charade as we were dating, and then as we got engaged, then married.

Unlike a lot of professional gold diggers, my final goal wasn’t some doormat workaholic husband who will fund a lifestyle of luxury for me as he toiled endlessly while I swiped his credit cards all day. I just wanted to live an upper middle-class lifestyle as a stay at home mom, i genuinely wanted kids, and wanted to be the best mom i could.

But slowly i found myself falling in love with my husband. I lived a pretty brutal life and developed somewhat sociopathic tendencies as a result like being able to use people without feeling guilty and not caring about people, but one day as i woke up next to him and thought about how i would be really broken if he died, or left me somehow i realized my feelings for him were genuine, i felt bad about manipulating him, and after a few weeks i gathered up the courage and told him everything, how I’m a gold digger who wanted him for his money, and how i played a part the whole time so he would marry me, but to my surprise he just laughed it off and went on with what he was doing

He told me he knew all along, and how he was already cynical about relationships and “understood” that whoever he married wouldn’t be 100 percent genuine and that’s just “something you have to deal with” I’m partly relieved that he’s not gonna divorce me, but I’m also bummed out, it’s totally reasonable to not trust me because of what i did, but it’s a bit too much to not trust anyone. Is there any way i can show him that I’m genuinely into him now, and invested in the relationship?

A Singaporean wife recently took to Facebook to voice her frustration due to her husband’s fast and furious manhood “that cannot hold the water in”. Sometimes he even finishes before he even starts

Here is the story:

My spouse has a lot of trouble controlling and holding himself….to the point that it’s hurting our sex life. He usually can’t stay more than 5 minutes, and he’ll come before even putting it in…like it’s a dampener.

haiz. I understand that he was a virgin for more than 30 years prior to marriage, that first-timer anxiety/excitement is normal, but shouldn’t this improve with time and practice? He’s still fumbling around, and before we know it, he’ll be here.

The session came to an end before it had really begun. He’s wonderful in every way, always puts me first, lovely romantic, but there’s this pressure now every time we go into the bedroom at night. I try not to excite him too much, to take things slowly…but

I’m not sure, but taking him to the doctor implies that he has a medical condition… I understand how this may damage a man’s self-esteem and dignity.

Is it ok for couples to sleep separately for long term even after marriage?

My bf and I have sleeping patterns that clash. I am a light sleeper that gets awakened easily by small environmental changes. I am the type who needs that 7-8 hr of sleep a night.

If not, I’ll get drowsy and moody the next day. My bf snores a lot which will affect me. in his room, he used to sleep alone on a queen size bed and he’s also a bit reluctant to share the space with another person.

We are considering to sleep to separate rooms if we do settle down. As a bonus, we can decorate our rooms to our liking instead of having to compromise. I’ve seen it being practised in western countries but will it be weird to do it here?

Here are what netizens think:

• Why do you seek the opinions of strangers on an arrangement in your private relationship? Who cares about East or West? Do what suits the two of you. Sleep separately if it helps.

• Not weird. I.second that actually. Sleep is most important. The worse thing is you enter yr room wanting to sleep and yet the roommate watching loud movie and make u lose your sleep and affect yr sleep quality.

• Actually it is pretty normal and as long as both of you have your needs covered, you will be fine. The good thing is as a couple, your recognises issues and willing to work as a team to resolve issues is a good start before settling down.

• As long as it will not affect your relationship, I don’t think it will pose a problem

• Nope not weird. Do what u think is best for the both of u to get better sleep. Just make sure that u guys don’t miss out on or skip intimacy when u guys sleep seperately.

I gave birth to twin boys 4 months ago and love them with all my heart. I thought my 42-year-old husband felt the same. He had been distant with me since even before my boys were born, but he seemed to love them.

Over the weekend he revealed that he has an 18 year old girlfriend and has now left to go live with her, saying he no longer wants to see our children again.

I will be ok as a single mother in the sense that I was the one paying all our bills and was able to juggle working freelancer online and taking care of the kids since my STBX didn’t ever change a diaper but just played with them. But wow. My kids are going to grow up without a father. Maybe they’re too young for it to hurt as much. I don’t know.

Where do I go from here? Will my kids be ok? Never imagined this. Ever.

Here are what netizens think:

• My god your husband is a child. Walking out of his two babies for someone who is basically a child themselves. Your sons don’t need THAT for a dad but I hope someone is looking out for you and that other girl too.

• As a 50+ male, I just don’t get it. 18 is a child in my mind. No offense to 20 to 30 year old’s but those fall into that category in my mind too (maturity wise). if I were single I would not date anyone less than 40 because I just don’t think I’d be comfortable with anyone less than that age. Totally gross.

• You don’t get it because you’re a good person who wants to date a partner/equal instead of someone they can own & control. At least that’s my interpretation of people who do what he’s doing.

• 18 is still a child. I didn’t feel like a proper adult until like last year when I was 27. I can’t imagine what an 18 year old and a 42 year old has in common. This guy is a groomer and should be investigated.

Malaysia, Muar – The new family hired a ji boy to perform rituals to calm the nerves, but the businesswoman was assaulted on the breasts and sexually assaulted by the ji boy , causing the victim to suffer mental torture and find it difficult to sleep peacefully.

The female victim is a 37-year-old businesswoman surnamed Wu, from Muar, who has 2 children. Accompanied by Wei Zongxian, chairman of the anti-smoking branch of the DAP, she reported the case to the Muar police this morning and held a press conference to reveal the incident.

Ms. Wu said that on September 20 this year, she hired a 58-year-old Jitong who came to Badong to perform rituals for the new family and to consecrate the newly purchased Guanyin Buddha statue.

She said that after the ceremony, she went to the kitchen to get water to quench the thirst of the child. However, when she was sitting on the sofa in the living room to rest, she suddenly felt weak, as if possessed by a demon, and lost consciousness. She did not wake up until her boyfriend called her.

She said that in her daze, she felt as if someone was grabbing her hands and skirt, reaching up and down her chest, caressing her breasts, and then pulling down her underwear and violating her private parts.

Because the female victim was in a dazed state at the time, she was unable to resist and allowed the child to do whatever she wanted.

Afterwards, the female victim went to check the surveillance footage at home, and then she revealed Ji Tong’s abominable behavior and told her boyfriend what happened.

Ms. Wu said that on September 26 and 27, her boyfriend twice asked the child to come and explain the incident. The child also knelt down to beg for mercy and apologized, and admitted that he had molested someone in the name of massage. 100 women, 5 of whom were sexually assaulted.

She said that this incident caused her great psychological trauma, and she could not calm down for a long time. She was very depressed and even self-harmed and scratched her body many times.

The female victim said that she now chose to reveal the incident in order to prevent more people from being sexually assaulted and molested, and at the same time to make the perpetrators face legal sanctions.